Home Boyfriend or Uni Friend???

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Came here just ask about mobile phones and laptop recommendations. Long time I've been a forum of any sort lol, though I have this lil thing bugging me which I would like a guys opinon (I see mainly guys are on here).

Lets get to the point. I have been with my boyfriend for three years, who I've known since high school. Basically, he is a cool guy, though I do not love him (People ask why, though I just don't :confused: ). I don't want to break up with him as I have no reason too and he is a good boyfriend. However, a year ago, I moved to university in Leeds whilst he stayed in London. We see each other during the holidays as it is cheap and I hate travelling. Anyway, I met this guy at University who I am good friends with because we hang out all the time, go out, talk about anything, knows how to make me happy when I am down, etc. Sometimes we are mistaken as a couple because we are best of friends and argue when he annoys me. Within a month of meeting him, I had feelings for him badly, though I disregarded them because he had a girlfriend at the time and I was with my boyfriend. At the start of second term, second year I was told by my friends and his friends that he really likes me and he scared to tell me as I have a boyfriend and does not want to ruin our friendship. I have not seen an indication that he has any feelings from him and we do flirt; I don't know if its real or not as we love to mess about. However, I have to admitt that I have feelings for him still, though I do not want to ruin my relationship with my boyfriend and the friendship with the guy (only guy friend i truly trust). Though, I know I aint going to be with my boyfriend forever. I am confused, any comments about the situation would be appreciated? :) :cool:
 
If you dont love your boyfriend, dump him and go out with this new guy.

Problem solved :)
 
Well I'm finding it hard to understand why you would be with someone for 3 years and not love them :confused: But I'm sure you have your reasons.

I think that if you truly don't believe that your relationship with your boyfriend isn't going to last forever and you don't love him. Then you should be out having fun as a single person at university. You really are missing out if you don't.
 
You have to ask?

Stop being an idiot, start being honest.

Sorry to be harsh, but it's girls who string lads along only to suit them only to drop them when it's convenient who end up causing blokes endless amounts of grief, and I'm afraid you'll get little sympathy here.
 
Megz2007 said:
I know I aint going to be with my boyfriend forever.

That seems like the key point to me. If you know its not going anywhere then why drag it out?
But dont make it a case of dumping your old boyfriend to be with the new guy.. if you want to break up with him, then do that first and then see what happens over time. If you dont want to dump him, then dont. Simple as!
 
Megz2007 said:
I don't want to break up with him as I have no reason too

Megz2007 said:
I do not love him

There's your reason. Stop stringing the poor bloke along and move on. It's time to be honest, there's no point having a boyfriend just for the sake of it.
 
You know these guys, We don't.
You know yourself, We don't.
:confused: How the hell are we suppose to comment/help ?

Post it on an MSN myspace, that'll help surely :p
 
ninja economist said:
This is one of those threads where the OP asks for opinions, then disregards all of them.

Do whatever you want, you're going to have regrets either way though.

lol.
 
Megz2007 said:
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I am confused, any comments about the situation would be appreciated? :) :cool:

Really u sound like a *****. You ahave a boyfriend a. u dont love (or seem to really care about) b. your flirting w other guys, i hope your bf finds out and dumps your ***!.

Tell you bf its over, do what u want with this new guy but if it was me i wouldnt want wanything to do with you!
 
why dont you give this a shag see if he's better or worse then make up your mind. really what i think is that you dont want to be left with out a shag if anything goes wrong.
 
The only advice i can give you is this.

He will ahte you either way. If you drag it out and not love him he WILL find out then he will hate you for waisting his time.

If you dump him now and hes not expecting it or hasnt done anything wrong he will hate you.

Have a hatefull christmas :p :)
 
Sounds like the you're in the same situation my girlfriend is in with me...

The way she has acted about things has been nothing but selfish and immature, and she expects nothing but sympathy. Even from me. Granted theres a lot to it but theres only a lot to it because you and her let there be. Sorry but you sound like the same kind of idiot she is.

Get a grip on things, get a grip on yourself and grow up.

If you don't love him after three years stop stringing the poor guy along because you're going to do nothing but cause more and more hurt for hi the more you let things carry on. Selfish idiot.
 
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