House sharing

[russell664]

Hi everyone,

looking for a bit of advice really - so I have a cracking deal with a mate to rent his old house (Detached, with Garage and 3 bedrooms) - with his son in a house share.

Now, my mate mentioned that his son doesn't really do much of anything, which doesn't concern me as we have discussed going half and half on electricity and gas etc... However, some of the things he does I can't understand and wind me up a little like instead of putting something in the bin, they will place it on the side and let it make a mess.

The real thing i'm asking, what suggestions do you guys suggest to keep the peace, and at least keep me sane? I get on with them really well, and I know they have been through a lot (Hospitalised, lack of energy due to blood etc..) and I respect that - but I just would like some pointers on how to live with it really.

 

[russell664]

He mentioned that they can be lazy kinda thing, they do work on Wednesday's, Thursdays and Fridays.

I think as I moved in over the weekend I have noticed it more - during the weekdays I don't think I will. They do hoover and wash up as well so I guess it's something. I reckon at some point they will do more, it is more the mindset I don't understand.

I don't mind clearing up, as I make a fair bit of mess myself haha. Yeah it is just me and my mates son, again a great guy, I think i'm just a lot more proactive than them and do everything when I can. They have done hoovering and washing and they manage the gas and electricity for me so I suppose i'm making something out of nothing?

I also do all of those things as well, but am a lot quicker at doing it, bar from the electricity and gas etc...

 

[russell664]

I'm sure if you talk to his Son, there will be things you do that wind him up, like being a tidy-freak.

I lived in house shares for about ten years when I was much younger and generally, you just need to learn to suck stuff up. It just starts getting petty and acrimonious otherwise. Unless they are doing really anti-social stuff like playing music late at night.

I think the worst house mate I had was when I was living in Basingstoke. Young lady, rather large who seemed to think it acceptable to take a massive dump in the morning and then leave it in the bowl for the joyful discovery of the next bathroom attendee. It was almost like she was proud of it or something!

Thanks mate, that makes perfect sense.

He doesn't do anything like that, he in pretty normal in that respect. It's mainly the tidiness aspect, but I guess it's all down to the change in scenery as it has happened quite quickly. I have known them for well over a year now - and we talk a lot about random stuff so can't be bad there.