How insensitive is this?

mishima · 6 Feb 2007 at 14:09

My dad had a car accident this morning and I rung in work obviously cause I want to be with him and things. The accident wasn't a very bad one but he was in hospital with neck injuries and had to sort out police and bring car back etc, anyway my boss was a right **** on the phone. I said to him that my dad had been in an accident and I'm at the hospital and then said I can't make it into work and he said "Why?" and I said "What??" then he said "Why not?" in a stern voice.

I couldn't believe how much of a ***** he was over it, ended the call and he just said will you be in work tomorrow and i said I will let you know what happens etc and he said ok then bye.

:mad:

!!

No swearing

Gilly

mishima · 6 Feb 2007 at 14:14

There have actually been quite a few managers and staff leave because of him, one of the managers had to leave because she felt she was being bullied she was always in tears through conversations with him and he just wasn't healthy for her to remain there in that environment.

Thanks guys, I hope so too. Don't know yet whether his neck just has slight strain from the whiplash or could be anytihng like a fracture just waiting on X-rays!

mishima · 6 Feb 2007 at 14:16

knowledge123 said:
I think thats v.insensitive, How much do you like your job?

At the moment its just a means by which I can get money, I'm now qualified to go the places I want but I'm having trouble with getting even an interview because I'm a graduate!

When I leave that place the reason provided won't be because I will have found a better job I will be putting in a proper complaint and making sure he is the reason.

mishima · 6 Feb 2007 at 14:27

Well those complaints I mentioned were recognised and the guy from HR came to assess the problem and nothing was done, that was months ago. They love him to much at head office, because sure enough he's a ***** but he gets results and the stats on the paper.

He will end up a very miserable person because of the way he speaks to people and treats people. Friends don't stick around when they are spoke and treated in that sort of way. I can see him being a very lonely man.

mishima · 6 Feb 2007 at 14:28

a1ex2001 said:
Quoted for truth, the man is clearly a tool. My sister had a boss who didn't want to give her a day off to go to our Grandmothers funeral said she wasn't close family, figure that one out?!?

That is so harsh.

mishima · 6 Feb 2007 at 16:58

Shocking, so I'm not alone then. Some of you guys have had it lots worse than me. I seriously think that the power that these people have governs their whole being, they seem to manage peoples emotions and lives as though it were the business itself. It doesn't work.

There needs to be some leniency towards people when they are in times of trouble, you can't be legalistic in situations were people are having to deal with loved ones.

EDIT: Thanks for all the support, he is now home but in quite a bit of pain with his neck - x-rays revealed no breakages or fractures. He's on painkillers at the moment.

mishima · 6 Feb 2007 at 20:19

Dynabol and Snash, you sound like mint bosses

can I work for you??!!

Very fair comments to be honest, I am a hard worker. Even though I do get treated like a fool sometimes by him and other managers I always put in 100% I think its important to.

mishima · 6 Feb 2007 at 21:21

What do you mean?!

mishima · 7 Feb 2007 at 00:26

dynabol said:
If I had a vacancy, then sure

As far as your predicament is concerned, I've been there myself. Fortunately I had sympathetic managers when my dad passed away and I needed a few days off to go to the funeral etc. It's life, and although not always as hard-hitting as what happened to me for example, these things happen.

I work in retail, which is a fast paced, challenging environment, and if get back the same attitude, level of commitment, and respect that you show yourself, it's essentially doing half the work for you. Hell, I'd be up the creek with no paddle if I wasn't surrounded by people who are as enthusiastic about work as I am. Sure, you have a bad day (or night, as I'm a night manager!), but Christ, we're all human, we all want to earn a bit of dosh, and I'm sure you'll agree, we all want to do it with the minimum level of fuss; if you can manage to throw in a few laughs, then it's even better! It works both ways - mutual understanding is a key to compromise!

Digressing slightly but there are my thoughts on the subject!

Jon

Yeah and I bet the staff that you manage respect you for your attitude and the work environment is friendly and productive. I understand exactly what your saying and I completely agree.

The stories keep coming in on these bosses/managers there seems to be a lot of them about.

As for that woman in the supermarket thats just beyond arogance :mad:

Can't believe sometimes how people can act like that in such situations, total lack of care and regard for anything.

mishima · 7 Feb 2007 at 09:42

Well I don't think this is just a few instances him. It seems that since he came to our store he has been an absolute pig, we heard bad stuff about him when it was rummoured he was on his way. It seems to be that it is this guys nature to be so nasty to people I have seen and heard it so many times. Like I said its not the first time HR has been to visit him but they love him at head office and it seems to be brushed under the carpet. He gets the results regardless of how he treats people and thats what they want.

Even when he's not angry or in a mood he through general conversation he is just rude, a good example of this was a few weeks ago when I was being given some instructions by him by reception, customer comes up to us when he is talking and there is a gap in the conversation and the customer asks him "Do you have any toilets in the store please?" and my boss looked at him after he had said it and said "At the back of the store." and immediately after continued to talk to me turning his head away from the customer. I was personally quite shocked, because the situation seemed very rude at the time and I felt quite bad for the old man. I even commented about it to someone else and they were under the same impression that he was rude.

So it seems he doesn't even really know he's like this, as though its his nature now to behave in such a way. I think when he's like this to customers and I have witnessed him and his cocky attitude with them too, he has really lost it. He would never listen to a staff member under him especially after all the complaints - probably thinks he isn't behaving wrongly.

mishima · 7 Feb 2007 at 12:17

cheers, well he's much better today and he's been looking at getting a new car as that one is written off. he's had 2 or 3 people drive into him in that car - maybe its hard to see lol!