Posting here because not sure where to get advice, am sure someone here will know of what is done in these circumstances and sort of need to vent as well.
Basically father in law is disabled, he has always had difficultly walking since Ive known him, but over the past few years has become worse and worse and is bsically confined to a bed now, but is mentally still there, the mother in law basically looked after him mostly, but she too struggled a bit and carers used to come on a daily basis to assist (not sure who arranged this).
Sister in law is a single parent with three kids under five since her husband walked out about a year ago, mother in law used to provide childcare for sister in law so she could go out to work, she'd pick MIL up in morning and drop her back in the evening, not the best arrangement but all she could do. Kids sometimes spend time with their farther and has family on alternate weekends, but havent been able to due to a Corona virus case amongt them. so sister in law has had no break from her kids for a while.
My wife agreed we would have them over the weekend so her sister could have a little break, clean the huouse etc. They ended up coming a day early as mother in law had been taken to hospital after a fall and so sister in law needed to deal with the father in law and their dogs, so kids were here. Mother in law gets worse in hospital they say something about her kidneys (its all rather vague and I dont know the full details), but then she starts to improve, but deteriates quickly again and passed away at 3 this morning, somewhere along the line it also comes out that she was sufering with covid (cant remember which point were were told this).
Anyway sister in law gets corona virus test and sorts one out for the father in law, she tests negative, but the father in law (who everyone has always been worried about throughout pandemic) tests postive but seems alright other than a cough which it turns out he has had for about a week, so now as sister in law is negative, wife has gone back with them to help with the kids when her sister needs to deal with her father (very carefully, I hope) and sort the dogs etc.
So something needs to be done about doing something for the father in law, but how does one go about sorting getting him whatever arrangements he needs, etc.
Sorry for depressing post, but I don't know where else to ask
Basically father in law is disabled, he has always had difficultly walking since Ive known him, but over the past few years has become worse and worse and is bsically confined to a bed now, but is mentally still there, the mother in law basically looked after him mostly, but she too struggled a bit and carers used to come on a daily basis to assist (not sure who arranged this).
Sister in law is a single parent with three kids under five since her husband walked out about a year ago, mother in law used to provide childcare for sister in law so she could go out to work, she'd pick MIL up in morning and drop her back in the evening, not the best arrangement but all she could do. Kids sometimes spend time with their farther and has family on alternate weekends, but havent been able to due to a Corona virus case amongt them. so sister in law has had no break from her kids for a while.
My wife agreed we would have them over the weekend so her sister could have a little break, clean the huouse etc. They ended up coming a day early as mother in law had been taken to hospital after a fall and so sister in law needed to deal with the father in law and their dogs, so kids were here. Mother in law gets worse in hospital they say something about her kidneys (its all rather vague and I dont know the full details), but then she starts to improve, but deteriates quickly again and passed away at 3 this morning, somewhere along the line it also comes out that she was sufering with covid (cant remember which point were were told this).
Anyway sister in law gets corona virus test and sorts one out for the father in law, she tests negative, but the father in law (who everyone has always been worried about throughout pandemic) tests postive but seems alright other than a cough which it turns out he has had for about a week, so now as sister in law is negative, wife has gone back with them to help with the kids when her sister needs to deal with her father (very carefully, I hope) and sort the dogs etc.
So something needs to be done about doing something for the father in law, but how does one go about sorting getting him whatever arrangements he needs, etc.
Sorry for depressing post, but I don't know where else to ask
