How to be less reactive and impulsive

[hargi]

This could be a GD discussion but thought I would post here as its affecting my work.

I know from my personality type that I am quite honest and open, but also principled and some may say stubborn ( more as in I stick to my beliefs ). In my last place this was a good thing and my managers actually liked it.

However at my new place we are going through a lot of change and people are getting frustrated. I am not nieve enough to think everything will go how I would like it to and somethings I just have to suck up. Which is fair enough I have no problem with that.

I am getting more aware that I am more reactive in situations and say things or let things get to me quickly and I impulsively say or do something. Which may put me in a bad light, when I am only passionate about what I am doing.

I am also aware that sometimes my vocabulary lets me down. Its not that I cant speak good english, lol , just that sometimes in the moment I use the wrong words. eg " I complained about that" rather then " I raised this as a concern"

I also thing that others say stuff to get me going.

In my old job I was easy going and just got on with my work, where as here I feel a bit of anxiousness and I dont like it.

I know this is mainly down to me but is there any tips on how I can stop been reactive and take time to think before I do or say something?

 

[hargi]

Thanks for the input, yeah a lot of my comments are similar to that. "I don't care" = whatever you think is best etc.

I do like the idea of replicating politicians where they never really answer the question, there as been a few times I have been asked things that they know I am passionate about and wanted to hear my thoughts even though they are going down a different route.