How would you go about stopping destructive drinking

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How would you stop a destructive alcoholic? 25-30 units a night, and has tried to get professional help (but it 'made them have to deal with stuff they'd rather keep hidden' and the gp isn't much use)? They'd rather not do group therapy, and have limited transport during the day.

Not really a medical thread, but if it is deemed as such or is unsuitable, please delete :)

Many thanks - quink :)
 
There's nothing you can do until the individual who is drinking finally decides to deal with the problem.

Didn't matter what people said to me when my drinking was bad, I really didn't care until it put me in a place I never want to be at again. Sometimes hitting rock bottom is the only place people realise they've got a problem and need to sort it.
 
If they're unwilling to do it themselves then not much will change their mind.

Unless you go for shock and awe. :p
 
Pretty much what the others said. My dad was a heavy drinker and didn't realize his problem until he lost his job, his home and his family. He lives with heavy regret today and any of us can be bothered with him. He didn't even need therapy or any type of medication in the end, just a good sobering wake up call to change his ways and then it was too late.

The person in question hasn't bumped his/her head hard enough yet so leave them be until it happens. There's no talking to people that don't want to listen and see the blinding obvious. Sometimes you just have to be cruel to be kind.
 
LeJosh said:
Living with an alcoholic is bad enough, living with an abusive alcoholic is worse.
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Fair do's. Guess it is easier to feel forgiveness towards a self abusive alcoholic, with a harmful/self abusive relationship, rather than towards some one who is directly abusive/aggressive towards you. Same hurt in both cases for the people involved, either way.
 
jmc007 said:
Fair do's. Guess it is easier to feel forgiveness towards a self abusive alcoholic, with a harmful/self abusive relationship, rather than towards some one who is directly abusive/aggressive towards you. Same hurt in both cases for the people involved, either way.
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All in all it's highly undesirable but if his dad was ever abusive to his mum or siblings. It's near impossible to forgive such things, usually.

I had a relative in the self-abuse category, just ate her from the inside. I can forgive those personally, if she had hit her kids etc, I doubt I could.
 
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It's not easy to forgive anyone who is abusive towards you. Alcohol is not an excuse.

My stepdad used to beat me up. Just because he was drinking that made it alright did it? If he sorted himself out, and kept a clean life I'd still want him dead. That **** ruined our family and a good portion of my and my little brother's childhoods. Forgiveness just ain't happening.
 
LeJosh said:
All in all it's highly undesirable but if his dad was ever abusive to his mum or siblings. It's near impossible to forgive such things, usually.

I had a relative in the self-abuse category, just ate her from the inside. I can forgive those personally, if she had hit her kids etc, I doubt I could.
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Indeed, highly undesirable. Though adamant forgiveness is always possible for any abuser, violent or otherwise. (Although violent physical abuse is no worse than mental abuse, imo, of basically watching a loved ones decent; just makes it easier to demonise the person in question, rather than the sickness.) Surely if you truly loved the abuser in question, the main hurting is that they are destroying themselves.

To answer the OP, as people have said I don't believe you can stop it, only offer as much love and support as you are comfortable with and most of all, pray to the One who can help.
 
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