how would you take this

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if your mate told you your misses tried it on with him and by that i mean your both sitting in living room on sofa and she was showing photos of grandchildren while he was looking she was rubbing his leg from the knee uop to a couple of inches he got up said he couldnt do this and that was it nothing was ever said. would you confront her about it ?
 
Yes.

I know it's hard, but you have to face truths, you can't just live in denial despite how much easier it may be. If she acts defensively, or is truly apologetic its up to you, but think with rationale here. Thank yourself lucky you have a good mate, cherish his respect in you, unless he's playing it like an idiot to make her look like the guilty party.
 
i think she is, i understand abt a good m8 i known hin 37 years now the kick in the teeth here is this only surfaced a couple of nights ago whilst abit drunk and it happened 5 years ago is it really worth bringing the matter up as he hardly remembers the event and you can bet your bottom dollar she will most prob say the same he cant understand why i am ****ed and as i explained to him he should have told me there and then altho 5 years have been this is fresh in my mind as far as my head is going it feels like it just happened. bit of an awkward one.
 
i think she is, i understand abt a good m8 i known hin 37 years now the kick in the teeth here is this only surfaced a couple of nights ago whilst abit drunk and it happened 5 years ago is it really worth bringing the matter up as he hardly remembers the event and you can bet your bottom dollar she will most prob say the same he cant understand why i am ****ed and as i explained to him he should have told me there and then altho 5 years have been this is fresh in my mind as far as my head is going it feels like it just happened. bit of an awkward one.

Im afraid id lose the plot but im a very jealous person 5 mins or five years would not make any difference too me not saying this is right tho.
 
i think she is, i understand abt a good m8 i known hin 37 years now the kick in the teeth here is this only surfaced a couple of nights ago whilst abit drunk and it happened 5 years ago is it really worth bringing the matter up as he hardly remembers the event and you can bet your bottom dollar she will most prob say the same he cant understand why i am ****ed and as i explained to him he should have told me there and then altho 5 years have been this is fresh in my mind as far as my head is going it feels like it just happened. bit of an awkward one.

If it was really 5 years ago, I'd be inclined to let sleeping dogs lie. A lot can happen over 5 years - if it was going to get any worse, your friend would have told you so.

Think about your relationship at that point in time and reflect on what might have influenced her to do such a thing, if anything.
 
Oh, if it happened 5 years ago i'd let it go. There is no point bringing up something like that and causing an argument.

I have a feeling, though, that you're not going to follow my advice...
 
How do you know that because she didn't get any where with your friend she went else where?

KaHn
 
Also, you heard that she had her hand on his leg or whatever, but there may be two sides to this story. Bare in mind, your friend was drunk when he told you and by his own account he could barely remember the incident and it makes his account seem slightly questionable.

Therefore if you go accusing her of, i dunno, "cheating"(?) with the only evidence being your friend who could barely remember it happening and it's inaccurate, she may well get offended.
 
im dying to bring it up i think about it all the time, but i know due to the length of time elapsed that decision was taken out of my hands, so i know all in all the best thing is to lay it to rest thanks for advice pepps
 
If you're dying to bring it up, then you may as well do so in a quiet, controlled manner... rather than waiting until you have an argument and you throw it in her face with spite and malice, out of anger.

Personally, I wouldn't bother myself, but it's clearly bothering you a lot.
 
If it was really 5 years ago, I'd be inclined to let sleeping dogs lie. A lot can happen over 5 years - if it was going to get any worse, your friend would have told you so.

Think about your relationship at that point in time and reflect on what might have influenced her to do such a thing, if anything.

this...

no point throwing what you have away over something that happened ages ago.
 
its all in the past now, an if you find yourself obsessing over it jus find somthin else to obsess over instead, no point in dragging up an old argument just because its on your mind, it'll prob jus lead to an awkward time
 
Indeed, no point in bringing it up from 5 years ago... Question your mate as to why he didn't tell you sooner!!!
 
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