Im guessing i should be happy?

That's a really weird situation, MeatLoaf :eek:

How long has it been? Are you sure she doesn't feel anything for you any more? Wouldn't she want to keep some distance between the two of you if she doesn't? Especially if she knows you still love her.

My divorce is just being finalised, and while it was hard for a while, time was a good healer, with distance added to the mix. We are friendly and both now happy with new partners.

I don't think I could've let go if she was living next door to me. It's not whether or not one still loves that person - your life has been so entangled with theirs for so long that a constant reminder of that person would've torn me apart.
 
I will add, though (having just seen you say she's definitely moving in :)), that if she does move in, you're going to have to work your nads off at moving on - doing different stuff. I even went to a dance class! You know, like these Salsa things, thinly-veiled speed dating really. Great fun, and a massive buzz to do something completely out of character. There weren't any fit birds there though :)

It is amazing, though, how meeting somebody new changes your perspective on your previous relationship.
 
Think about the positive side, your children will be close by. You have a few weeks to enjoy the ex living away and to try to get your head around things. It may suprise you that seeing her day in and day out (assuming you will) could make you realise just why your not together, If worst happens and its tough and not working out hopefully the council will offer you a new placement sooner rather than later.

All in all, Im sure many men would love to see/wave their children set off for school when not with their ex :)
 
Ex girlfriend, wife or w.e

If there is kids involved id stay put, you dont know when you will be needed, plus isnt is better for your kids to just be able to come round and see you whenever they want?
 
Imo, you really need to see this as a good point when it comes to seeing your children. If you can find somewhere that's only a couple streets away then fair enough, but in the meantime for the sake of your kids you need to put your anymosity and feelings aside and look at the benefits of having your children so close.
 
I think I'd move, the torment of hearing her and a potential new bloke having sex through the walls would devastate me. I think I would find it very difficult to move on from the failed marriage with her being a few feet away all the time.
 
Tombstone said:
I think I'd move, the torment of hearing her and a potential new bloke having sex through the walls would devastate me. I think I would find it very difficult to move on from the failed marriage with her being a few feet away all the time.
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He's already said she isn't going to be moving into the house attached to his.
 
Viper² said:
He's already said she isn't going to be moving into the house attached to his.
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Oh my mistake, didnt read that far down, just read the OP where it said "a few feet away".

In that case, if its a few houses away then I'd be ok with it I think, would be awkward at first but I could grow to live with it provided that it didnt impact either her or myself starting a new relationship with someone else.
 
doofer said:
She won't be in there with his kids, she'll dump the kids on him next door so he can baby-sit while she gets torn a new one by her new bloke. He'll be downstairs shouting up at his kids to be quiet and go to sleep they'll shout down 'It's not us daddy it's mummy and uncle Dave next door making all the noise..'
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Ouch, harsh but true. I can't see it working out for the best.
 
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