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dhjjessel

dhjjessel

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this is going to make me sound like a teenager but i have something to discuss.

Basically, i find myself only attracted to unattainable girls. The more unattainable they are, the more attractive they are to me. On the flipside, when I meet a girl that "likes" me (americanism) then i immediately find them unattractive. It is as though a girl that is not a challenge to me is no longer attractive to me. the more of a challenge it is to get a girl, the more attractive she is to me. For example i was at Chin whites last nigh in london and i had been hanging with this girl who obviously quite liked me (and she was the prettiest of the group) " do you have a girlfriend?" i told her the truth, that i didnt, but then i lied by saying that i just got out of a serious relationship. That didnt discourage her, though and i had to hold her off the rest of the night.
Am i setting myself up for a lifetime of disappointment?
 
Nope, always the same the more you can't have them the more you don't want them.

Same with most things in life.
 
It's the same with most things in life we all want the things we can't have and once we've got them tend to be either disapointed or want a better one. Set your sights high your young and one day you'll meet someone who will make all this chasing around seem such an odd thing, it's called love and it comes to us all in the end.
 
Well if a girl finds you interesting and you immediately find them repulsive, then you will never get any... :confused:

I mean, does this same thing apply to girls that you are attracted to? The second they show interest its all over?
 
The ones that play hard to get are always more desirable.

Enjoy the chase whilst you can :)
 
Well done dude, turning down girls is good and I live it. :D

Girls don't realise how easy they have it when it comes to "pulling".

I turned down a nice young lady last weekend. Get in. :D
 
This reminds me of a complex i read about, where guys who do this are afraid of sex. By choosing really un-attainable girls to fixate on they dont have to worry about sex, as they dont think its going to happen. However, whenever a girl does actually become attainable, sex becomes a possibility, and they move on.
 
Helium_Junkie said:
Well if a girl finds you interesting and you immediately find them repulsive, then you will never get any... :confused:

I mean, does this same thing apply to girls that you are attracted to? The second they show interest its all over?
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no only the ones who seem like an easy option straight away
 
Malt_Vinegar said:
This reminds me of a complex i read about, where guys who do this are afraid of sex. By choosing really un-attainable girls to fixate on they dont have to worry about sex, as they dont think its going to happen. However, whenever a girl does actually become attainable, sex becomes a possibility, and they move on.
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im not sure if i would say im afraid of sex. I was quite nervous when i lost my virginity (very late) but i enjoyed it. and it was me that made all the moves, if you know what i mean
 
dhjjessel said:
no only the ones who seem like an easy option straight away
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Fair point really, if you enjoy the chase then the 'guaranteed' ones are always not quite as attractive in some way. I think it's the feeling of achievement when you finally bag an 'unattainable' one which you don't get when someone is clearly attracted to you.

In the alternative, if a girl is really attracted to you, play a game of 'how much can you get away with' while keeping her interested :p Almost like a reverse game of chasing the unattainable..!
 
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