Lack of dreams - long term ambition

Richard_16v

Richard_16v

Richard_16v

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For years I strived to reach a point in my career, after nearly 20 years of slow progression I've pretty much got there, now I have realised that things aren't as good as I had hoped. Now it's dawned on me that I no-longer have a 'dream' that I can work towards, which can be a depressing thought.

What tips do people have to reset their goals/ambitions/dreams? Do you just stick to short term, or try and plan long term? Focus on career, or look to have a dream in a totally different area?
 
We ideally need ‘unfulfillable’, long term nurturing projects where we are always on a journey and there is no ‘end game’ - because they will keep giving.

Improving health and fitness is a good, obvious one.

Securing long term nurturing relationships; raising a family or making arrangements with friends.

Maintaining a nice garden is classic retirement project, etc.
 
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my dream was pretty small and that was to live where i went on holiday ,to be able to surf after work and on a weekend.
not sure what my dream is now ,to find happiness within maybe (Moon man starts chanting)
 
My ambition is to have as nice and fulfilling a life for as little paid work as possible. I don't care about being a good corporate citizen other than to the extent that it helps me earn enough to enjoy my life and set my family up.

My goal is redress the balance of capitalism by taking them for all they have within the bounds of the law. I will screw them as they are prepared to screw their staff.
 
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For years I strived to reach a point in my career, after nearly 20 years of slow progression I've pretty much got there, now I have realised that things aren't as good as I had hoped. Now it's dawned on me that I no-longer have a 'dream' that I can work towards, which can be a depressing thought.

What tips do people have to reset their goals/ambitions/dreams? Do you just stick to short term, or try and plan long term? Focus on career, or look to have a dream in a totally different area?
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Having only a career goal is pretty sad if you think about it, and ultimately unfulfilling.

Number one goal should be staying healthy, because everything else (especially career) counts for diddly if you're dead or incapacitated.

None of my personal goals are career goals, haven't been for a long time. They're all life goals, sports, travel, self improvement, home.

Job should be a side note, something that doesn't drive you mad or wreck your health but pays enough to do all the fun things in life.
 
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We ideally need ‘unfulfillable’, long term nurturing projects where we are always on a journey and there is no ‘end game’ - because they will keep giving.

Improving health and fitness is a good, obvious one.

Securing long term nurturing relationships; raising a family or making arrangements with friends.

Maintaining a nice garden is classic retirement project, etc.
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This is a good idea - I think it's a good idea to have a hobby that's effectively never done. For example my mate's dad had a OO guage railway layout that essentially looked complete, but it was never actually complete - there were always modifications and bits of rework he was doing.

I find it more enjoyable/rewarding than pursuing career stuff these days. I've basically achieved what I want to work-wise, and so as long as I continue to earn enough to pay for a reasonably comfortable lifestyle then I'm happy in that regard.
 
If you dont work for yourself (i.e.own business) then you owe them nothing and vice versa. So many people work for 40+ years, all the hours there are, really dedicated, going above and beyond etc etc etc - the week after they leave/retire they are pretty much forgotten. The business moves on without you - despite how much you thought you were indispensable.

A career is a means to an end - nothing more. Do what you need at work (within reason) to get the means to enjoy your life but dont ever let your life become your work.
 
Identify what you dislike and then what you need to do in order to do that less - most likely work
and then what you like and do that more :)

but deifnitely focus on health and relationships!
 
for me career ambitions has peaks and troughs...

At points in my career path I have been ambitious, a real go getter, keen to learn and prove myself.
At other points, I'm just happy with the flow or happy to see the day finish.. learn what I need to know at the time and do what I must but always at a high standard just not to the best of my abilities.

The issue I have at the moment is that I'm in a position where certain people in the team are really career minded and I really CBA'd, which causes friction.

You may find that your the same :) Don't underestimate what a change of scenery can do for your morale, even if it's not a new job and just a change of personality in your immediate working space.

It can get really though if it's going pear in both work and home life at the same time.. just manage the things that you can control and don't swim against the tide too often as you will get frustrated and tire yourself out.
 
Ever changing ambition for us both is to create more and more free time until work can be knocked on the head as soon as possible.

Careers are ok but you're not going to lie on your deathbed wishing you'd worked more.

Countryside, no neighbours, good views and more travel. That's the main goal.
 
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Make yourself valuable to your employer, gain unpopular skills. Primarily survive and keep your head down, ignore career ladders and other people’s rumoured salary.

Spend as little time at work as possible.

Sorry not really goals and dreams, maybe the best advice is to work towards financial independence while still spending on enjoyment.
 
Make bank, nothing else matters.


I started off gathering shopping trolleys at a Sainsbury's on my weekends. I worked my ass off, toiled hard, networked like a mofo and now I push shopping trolleys around at a Waitrose.

#winningatlife
 
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Yes you've got it, I'm applying the concepts of capitalism to them equally as they do to workers, i.e. screwing them as hard as possible.

The difference is that most workers think they are capitalist because they give everything to their company for very little reward.
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There is no difference my man. By you "rinsing them" you are still rinsing the workers who give everything for little reward. It is the archetype of capitalism, you've just decided to be a card carrying member :)
 
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