Last night we had a little grief and it resulted in me being dragged out of a club around the neck by a door man. Before I go on I need to explain:
My friend has worked with me for a few years and found himself in love with a girl we also work with. They were together a fair few months and then decided to go to Australia for 6 weeks together. My friend (we shall call him "Joe" for ease) borrowed money from her (lets call her "Jess") to help fund this trip. As soon as they returned to the UK she split up with him. She told him it wasn't working and she didn't want to be with him. He was devastated, I knew how much he liked her however I also knew what kind of person she was. She's been with men before and always dumped them, she's never been finished herself. I do think she has issues here, she's bragged about being with a wealthy man and getting rid of him because his money ran out, etc etc. Basically she's a bit of a bitch but of course, when my firend decided to get with her all I could be was happy for him, to express any other feeling about them would not be fair to him (even if I didn't like her).
Joe no longer works with us, he is in a much better job now and he has convinced me he is truly over Jess, although it did take some time. Last night was "Rachel's" leaving party. Rachel has worked with us for years and decided to throw a leaving bar crawl around a local town. Joe came with us all, he knows us all and is good friends still, except of course Jess, but he decided to ignore that and not let her get in the way of his friends. It should also be noted that since their split she has done nothing but bad mouth Joe behind his back saying how much of a loser he is. She's even joked about the fact that a few times he rang her and was crying to her that he wanted her back. That was a few months ago now and Joe is over her, he realises that she's not worth that much heart ache if she is going to be the way she is.
Lastnight we all was having a good night. We drank a lot of alcohol and we were all in high spirits and giving Rachel the seeing off she deserved. Although we had a lot to drink we are not the kind of people to cause trouble, we just enjoy a fun night out like any normal person. The last call of the night was to visit one of the local clubs. Its cheap beer and its where Rachel wants to go. It also just so happens to be the place of work for Jess after she has finished her days work at our company. She normally works on the door charging entry and on the bar after that. It should also be noted that she works there unlawfully. She has admitted herself that she works there tax free and that our employer doesn't know she works there and it's the reason why she is often late to work and in a grotty/tired mood when she arrives.
Last night Jess phoned Rachel before we all went out, made her apologies and explained to her that she wasn't feeling well and wasn't coming out. I believe she did that because she knew of the grief we were about to recieve. As soon as we all paid to enter that club my friend Joe was pulled aside by several of the doormen. He was escorted onto the staff room and it was explained to me by the assistant manager "Kerry" (also Jess's flatmate) that he was ok they were just having a word with him. After 15minutes of being there he walked out of there looking rather distressed. Basically the doormen gave him the ultimatum that he pays Jess the money he owes her ASAP or he faces consequences. That was it, I wasn't best pleased, nor were several of our colleagues. We asked him if he was ok, he explained the whole ordeal and I told us all to drink up as we were going to leave straight away. As we did drink up Kerry walked by with a sly smile on her face. I turned to her and told her that this was not on and that Joe and Jess's realtionship/financial issues had nothing to with anyone else and asked her why that just happened. She just shrugged and said its nothing to worry about.
The doormen were watching us all this time and one approached me asking if I had a problem. I replied in a completely none aggressive or threatening manner that I thought that what just happened was unjust and untoward to my friend. At that instant the doorman grabbed me in the usual manner around the neck and literally dragged me out of that club. Two other people including Joe was escorted out too. I didn't put up any fight, they were all bigger than me and of course that would have made matters worse. As soon as I reached the door I was shoved out followed with a barrage of abuse from several doormen. The whole ordeal left me very disappointed because I usually have respect for security staff, last night proved to me that they think they're a cut above other people and that they can use their domineering size and rule over their premises to bully people in situations that have absolutely nothing to do with them. All over a pretty girl that they work with and don't even know that well.
When we all got home we discussed what happened and what to do next. As we see it we all went out to enjoy Rachel leaving our place of work. We intended no trouble for anyone, especially Jess even if she had decided to join us. I am annoyed at her and the staff at that club.
My question is this.. what would you now do? I am very angry at Jess and the staff. Would you:
. Phone the police about the situation. Although its our (drunken) word against theirs, they have used blackmail as a form to threaten Joe.
. Tell our current employer about Jess working for another company unlawfully and that this is the reason for her performance in her job. I know this would most probably lead to her dismissal.
. Tell the correct governing body ( I think its taxes and excise or something) about Jess working illegally as a pay back kind of gesture
. All of the above
. None of the above
Do understand that this has been an ongoing affair of abuse from Jess towards Joe and that for sometime now I have just bit my tongue and not got invloved. I have always written it off as usual relationship break down problems but now I feel it has gone beyond that by her initiating other people to sort out her problems. Its just not on nor is it fair...
Apologies for the rant
CP
My friend has worked with me for a few years and found himself in love with a girl we also work with. They were together a fair few months and then decided to go to Australia for 6 weeks together. My friend (we shall call him "Joe" for ease) borrowed money from her (lets call her "Jess") to help fund this trip. As soon as they returned to the UK she split up with him. She told him it wasn't working and she didn't want to be with him. He was devastated, I knew how much he liked her however I also knew what kind of person she was. She's been with men before and always dumped them, she's never been finished herself. I do think she has issues here, she's bragged about being with a wealthy man and getting rid of him because his money ran out, etc etc. Basically she's a bit of a bitch but of course, when my firend decided to get with her all I could be was happy for him, to express any other feeling about them would not be fair to him (even if I didn't like her).
Joe no longer works with us, he is in a much better job now and he has convinced me he is truly over Jess, although it did take some time. Last night was "Rachel's" leaving party. Rachel has worked with us for years and decided to throw a leaving bar crawl around a local town. Joe came with us all, he knows us all and is good friends still, except of course Jess, but he decided to ignore that and not let her get in the way of his friends. It should also be noted that since their split she has done nothing but bad mouth Joe behind his back saying how much of a loser he is. She's even joked about the fact that a few times he rang her and was crying to her that he wanted her back. That was a few months ago now and Joe is over her, he realises that she's not worth that much heart ache if she is going to be the way she is.
Lastnight we all was having a good night. We drank a lot of alcohol and we were all in high spirits and giving Rachel the seeing off she deserved. Although we had a lot to drink we are not the kind of people to cause trouble, we just enjoy a fun night out like any normal person. The last call of the night was to visit one of the local clubs. Its cheap beer and its where Rachel wants to go. It also just so happens to be the place of work for Jess after she has finished her days work at our company. She normally works on the door charging entry and on the bar after that. It should also be noted that she works there unlawfully. She has admitted herself that she works there tax free and that our employer doesn't know she works there and it's the reason why she is often late to work and in a grotty/tired mood when she arrives.
Last night Jess phoned Rachel before we all went out, made her apologies and explained to her that she wasn't feeling well and wasn't coming out. I believe she did that because she knew of the grief we were about to recieve. As soon as we all paid to enter that club my friend Joe was pulled aside by several of the doormen. He was escorted onto the staff room and it was explained to me by the assistant manager "Kerry" (also Jess's flatmate) that he was ok they were just having a word with him. After 15minutes of being there he walked out of there looking rather distressed. Basically the doormen gave him the ultimatum that he pays Jess the money he owes her ASAP or he faces consequences. That was it, I wasn't best pleased, nor were several of our colleagues. We asked him if he was ok, he explained the whole ordeal and I told us all to drink up as we were going to leave straight away. As we did drink up Kerry walked by with a sly smile on her face. I turned to her and told her that this was not on and that Joe and Jess's realtionship/financial issues had nothing to with anyone else and asked her why that just happened. She just shrugged and said its nothing to worry about.
The doormen were watching us all this time and one approached me asking if I had a problem. I replied in a completely none aggressive or threatening manner that I thought that what just happened was unjust and untoward to my friend. At that instant the doorman grabbed me in the usual manner around the neck and literally dragged me out of that club. Two other people including Joe was escorted out too. I didn't put up any fight, they were all bigger than me and of course that would have made matters worse. As soon as I reached the door I was shoved out followed with a barrage of abuse from several doormen. The whole ordeal left me very disappointed because I usually have respect for security staff, last night proved to me that they think they're a cut above other people and that they can use their domineering size and rule over their premises to bully people in situations that have absolutely nothing to do with them. All over a pretty girl that they work with and don't even know that well.
When we all got home we discussed what happened and what to do next. As we see it we all went out to enjoy Rachel leaving our place of work. We intended no trouble for anyone, especially Jess even if she had decided to join us. I am annoyed at her and the staff at that club.
My question is this.. what would you now do? I am very angry at Jess and the staff. Would you:
. Phone the police about the situation. Although its our (drunken) word against theirs, they have used blackmail as a form to threaten Joe.
. Tell our current employer about Jess working for another company unlawfully and that this is the reason for her performance in her job. I know this would most probably lead to her dismissal.
. Tell the correct governing body ( I think its taxes and excise or something) about Jess working illegally as a pay back kind of gesture
. All of the above
. None of the above
Do understand that this has been an ongoing affair of abuse from Jess towards Joe and that for sometime now I have just bit my tongue and not got invloved. I have always written it off as usual relationship break down problems but now I feel it has gone beyond that by her initiating other people to sort out her problems. Its just not on nor is it fair...
Apologies for the rant
CP
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