Living at your parents home when you're 25+

Old Man · 21 Jul 2021 at 15:08

A question for you and or your parents on this:

My son is back living at home because of issues (issues = time off from Uni) and does not help with any rent, food or anything else and yet he is upset that my wife and I ask him to answer phones (I still work freelance), pick up groceries etc and all I get is an an earful of how unfair I am, so am I?

He is taking time off from Uni, 27 years old, but has some health issues (pacemaker and Graves), but other than that he's fine.

Gave it a shot to ask here.

Old Man · 21 Jul 2021 at 15:20

Rroff said:
Is he working and/or claiming benefits?

No.

I bought my first home at 21, but different times back then and things are very different now (harder I think than when I was growing up).

Old Man · 21 Jul 2021 at 16:50

dLockers said:
Who would have thought Pipe & Slippers would be making digs at @Old Man. You two should be like donkeys and carrots, not at each others neck

Anyway, your son is a bum. He is also quite old to be at Uni still - is he a career student? If so he should find a way to get a job at a university (far away from home) and that'll force him to live with some randomers. A bit like what student nurses do. I've seen some very layabout individuals go through a similar process and it is the only way to get them to leave their shell.

He started Uni at around 20, but because of heart trouble (heart block was the diagnos years later) he had to leave Uni until his health improved enough.

I do understand that I really should tell him to go and have talked about it with him, but he's not working (still same issues as mentioned, just not as severe) and so not sure really right now as he is still
under treatment for his health. I suppose I am scr.... either way I try and fix this, but ty for all of the comments. Being a parent never ends...