Love/Infatuation

Mr Jones

Mr Jones

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Hi everyone, I'm very interested in everyone's opinion to the feeling of "Love" - as in between a couple.

The feelings of both, somewhat feels the same but what separates/differentiate theses two different feelings for someone? I would like to understand different people's view of these feelings to further understand what I'm actually feeling for someone I've been dating for the past 8 weeks...

So what's your view of Love/Infatuation...?
 
IMHO you only know real love when you have children. Especially the father/daughter and mother/son relationship. It's stronger than your first ever dew eyed encounter with any female/male without any of the sexual feelings.

As for love for your partner/gf/bf/wife/husband I think you just learn to live and tolerate them. But you hang around together because of the love for your kids.
 
Snash said:
IMHO you only know real love when you have children. Especially the father/daughter and mother/son relationship. It's stronger than your first ever dew eyed encounter with any female/male without any of the sexual feelings.

As for love for your partner/gf/bf/wife/husband I think you just learn to live and tolerate them. But you hang around together because of the love for your kids.
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You mean love = tolerate, or is that the feeling after marriage/kids?
 
Dr Jones said:
You mean love = tolerate, or is that the feeling after marriage/kids?
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With my kids it's more like completely unreserved love, die for them/give up a kidney without a second thought/cry just looking at them sort of love.

With a partner its more of a so long as I'm with you nothing else matters kind of thing.

/mushy stuff
 
What seperates them?

It's hard for me to describe, however having known real love, and having known lust and infatuation, can definately tell the difference.

If you've not experienced love, and even if you have, it's just indescribable. Infatuation etc you can describe how much you feel for someone, love you just cannot get a grasp on how much you love them. If you think about it every senssible thought avoids you.

That's my best explanation in a slightly tipsy about to go out state :)
 
90% of the time when people say they love someone it is really just infatuation. True love is probably not an experience shared by many and people often forget that for it to be love it must be both ways (full duplex for you networking geeks :p ).

For instance the love a fan has for a superstar or band is actually infatuation. The love you have for your your girlfriend is most likely infatuation in most cases.

True love is when you put your other half in front of anything else in your life, it's when you place the importance of your o/h over everything else.
 
Love is, as they say, a verb. And love is hard. Love means doing a hell of a lot for someone, and I don't just mean buying them flowers.

As someone has said, looking after a baby requires a lot of love. It requires a lot of love to cope with your wife who will be crazy for a good time to come, and a lot of love to cope with your baby, who is incredibly demanding.

Not trying to put anyone off... Just saying that if it's not difficult, your "love" probably isn't really being put to the test.
 
Let me see........hmm............love...........

Reading his star sign in the paper before mine.
Still getting butterflies in my stomach when he calls me on the phone during the day.
Sticking together through really awful times, not because we have to, but because we want to.
Making 4 georgeous children together and, yes, sleepless nights are trying.
Running a business together and enjoying every minute of it.
Still having him as the first person I want to tell when something happens, good or bad.
Still treating each other as a best friend.
Knowing that someone really cares for and about you, because you really care for and about them.
Knowing exactly what upsets or delights the other half and doing everything in your power to ensure that you protect them from the bad stuff.
Still sitting in the back row of the cinema and giggling at the looks we get from the youngsters

We've been together for nearly 29 years, 23 of them as a married couple and there is definately no feeling that we're just tolerating each other. I fel sad that someone out there feels this way.
To say that you have to work at a relationship makes it sound like it's not spontaneous or fun, but it does sometimes take a little effort. For example, it is not just a case of being able to do so much on the spur of the moment once there are children involved. You have to take a little moment to organise baby sitters etc., but it is still worth it otherwise things can get a little stale and the spark can feel as if it has gone out.

Love is what you make of it, but it's worth making.
 
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