Well it seems I could actually be looking at finally resolving my differences with my, at the moment somewhat on/off girlfriend…
Those who remember my previous threads over the past year about this, will know all too well how she needed medical treatments, gained way too much weight, got depressed, did nothing to fix her problems, pushed me away, comfort eating and living a rather unhealthy life, to then finally just stop eating altogether, started to slip into some strange depression again, with a way of living that was puzzling to then finally end up in hospital as she was too weak to do anything and now undergoing therapy.
October 2008 I noticed we’d started to have issues, I wasn’t keen on the weight gain, as it wasn’t the size that concerned me, it was the attitude….. Nearly size 20 and 18 stone was just taking it too far, so I decided to step in and talk about it…. Her attitude was poor, she was depressed and I overlooked this to try and keep a girl that I do love.
February 2009 she finally admitted that weight loss was important, and we decided after much arguing, discussion etc to start swimming and eat healthily… Dog walking was also high on the list, as was other forms of exercise… It was hard, she didn’t respond well.
Start of June or end of May 2009 was when it just hit rock bottom….. Whilst swimming she commented that a girl that was being friendly towards me in the pool was trying to hit on me, and was larger then she was… When actually she wasn’t and I told the truth when she asked how could I talk to a girl larger then her, I simply said she wasn’t… Not a good time… Don’t get me wrong, my girlfriend had already made inroads to getting smaller, but I wasn’t going to lie….. Still a way to go…
She took it upon herself to then nearly stop eating, eating only the occasional salad, ended up in hospital as she grew weaker and weaker, little known to me or her family she’d stopped eating before this anyway. Explained the rapid weight loss… And the mood swings, she became violent, and would throw anything she could find… I became very proficient is dodging whatever she could hurl at me…. Not good.
Moving on, and with professional help and cutting this story down as I’m going on and on, still early days but she is now doing much better…
She not only understands the importance of healthy eating. She is also very pleased I stuck around, and whilst out on Fri last week with her, some of my friends who’d not seen her since last year were amazed at how much better she looked…. Her temper has reduced as well….
I too am impressed….. Since Jan of this year, and more so in the past few months she has dropped from being very obese to now classed as overweight, maybe by a few stone. None of her old clothes fit, her jeans fall off her. I’d have to say 14/16 as opposed to 20 + in October last year…
Her attitude has changed, she is now no longer on medication, and I honestly feel like I’m getting my girl back…. I hung in there, her family supported me in supporting her, and if she keeps up the hard work she’ll do it….. I’ve never been so happy to have someone prove me wrong before… I had written the relationship off, but now it has hope again…
We’re off to London next week, I’m treating her to new clothes and a few days away, I think she deserves it…… What better way to show how much better she looks then to give her my time and make her feel special..!!
Well, too many bad relationship threads on here…. This isn’t one of them…
Those who remember my previous threads over the past year about this, will know all too well how she needed medical treatments, gained way too much weight, got depressed, did nothing to fix her problems, pushed me away, comfort eating and living a rather unhealthy life, to then finally just stop eating altogether, started to slip into some strange depression again, with a way of living that was puzzling to then finally end up in hospital as she was too weak to do anything and now undergoing therapy.
October 2008 I noticed we’d started to have issues, I wasn’t keen on the weight gain, as it wasn’t the size that concerned me, it was the attitude….. Nearly size 20 and 18 stone was just taking it too far, so I decided to step in and talk about it…. Her attitude was poor, she was depressed and I overlooked this to try and keep a girl that I do love.
February 2009 she finally admitted that weight loss was important, and we decided after much arguing, discussion etc to start swimming and eat healthily… Dog walking was also high on the list, as was other forms of exercise… It was hard, she didn’t respond well.
Start of June or end of May 2009 was when it just hit rock bottom….. Whilst swimming she commented that a girl that was being friendly towards me in the pool was trying to hit on me, and was larger then she was… When actually she wasn’t and I told the truth when she asked how could I talk to a girl larger then her, I simply said she wasn’t… Not a good time… Don’t get me wrong, my girlfriend had already made inroads to getting smaller, but I wasn’t going to lie….. Still a way to go…
She took it upon herself to then nearly stop eating, eating only the occasional salad, ended up in hospital as she grew weaker and weaker, little known to me or her family she’d stopped eating before this anyway. Explained the rapid weight loss… And the mood swings, she became violent, and would throw anything she could find… I became very proficient is dodging whatever she could hurl at me…. Not good.
Moving on, and with professional help and cutting this story down as I’m going on and on, still early days but she is now doing much better…
She not only understands the importance of healthy eating. She is also very pleased I stuck around, and whilst out on Fri last week with her, some of my friends who’d not seen her since last year were amazed at how much better she looked…. Her temper has reduced as well….
I too am impressed….. Since Jan of this year, and more so in the past few months she has dropped from being very obese to now classed as overweight, maybe by a few stone. None of her old clothes fit, her jeans fall off her. I’d have to say 14/16 as opposed to 20 + in October last year…
Her attitude has changed, she is now no longer on medication, and I honestly feel like I’m getting my girl back…. I hung in there, her family supported me in supporting her, and if she keeps up the hard work she’ll do it….. I’ve never been so happy to have someone prove me wrong before… I had written the relationship off, but now it has hope again…
We’re off to London next week, I’m treating her to new clothes and a few days away, I think she deserves it…… What better way to show how much better she looks then to give her my time and make her feel special..!!
Well, too many bad relationship threads on here…. This isn’t one of them…
I wish you two all the best. 
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