Middle aged life

If you reread what I wrote, 2700 is maintenance calories, eating more to gain, I burn calories just sitting still etc.
 
I'm 51 and my life has never been better tbh. My 50s have been amazing. My 20s were very good, 30s and 40s mostly bad. I'm 51 going on 29 :D
I've tended to be a person of extremes, I'm mindful I have to keep myself in check (which I wasn't doing years ago) so while I might not have as much fun as years ago I'm also not being as destructive either. Getting older has been great so far. Just wish my body was younger but mentally I'm better than ever :)
 
Tykey said:
I'm 51 and my life has never been better tbh. My 50s have been amazing. My 20s were very good, 30s and 40s mostly bad. I'm 51 going on 29 :D
I've tended to be a person of extremes, I'm mindful I have to keep myself in check (which I wasn't doing years ago) so while I might not have as much fun as years ago I'm also not being as destructive either. Getting older has been great so far. Just wish my body was younger but mentally I'm better than ever :)
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You forgot to say "touch wood"
 
Being in my late 50s in 2026 is far easier than it ever has been. We are living longer, higher quality lives than our ancestors.

Sure there are bits of me that ache in ways they didn't when I was 20, but not in a way that stops me doing anything I want to.

Biggest change is mental - I can't get past the sound of doors closing. Just about to be closer to 80 than 40 really does keep me awake at night.

If someone offered me a youth potion I would pay a fortune, yet I struggle to motivate myself to lose 15kg and get to the gym more often. Both of which would, undeniably, make me feel younger.

I'm so near the top of the s**theap. Financially sorted, no mortgage, happily married with 2 kids at uni, all of us healthy. But still I obsess about the ticking of every second.

That is what I need to get past.
 
Mid-40s now.

On paper, life is fine. I have got a decent job, alright pay, a nice house… nothing is wrong as such. But I started to realise I have become too comfortable with a pretty average quality of life.
I’m spending 2 to 4 hours a day commuting, and once you take off the tax and the cost of living, there isn’t much left at the end of the month. Between work and life commitments, my social life has died.
And I had this moment where I thought… if I don’t change something, the next few years will look exactly the same. Just staying on the treadmill, selling my time for money, and ultimately making shareholders richer.
So about a year ago, I decided if I do not do something now, I will live like this for ever.
As a family, we made the decision to move to Cyprus. I’ve also started my own company, which I can run remotely, and I’ve got staff on the ground in the UK, I have accepted job out there also. Its a huge pay hit but taxes are lower and with the lower cost of living I think we will be fine.
 
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Mid-40s now.

On paper, life is fine. I have got a decent job, alright pay, a nice house… nothing is wrong as such. But I started to realise I have become too comfortable with a pretty average quality of life.
I’m spending 2 to 4 hours a day commuting, and once you take off the tax and the cost of living, there isn’t much left at the end of the month. Between work and life commitments, my social life has died.
And I had this moment where I thought… if I don’t change something, the next few years will look exactly the same. Just staying on the treadmill, selling my time for money, and ultimately making shareholders richer.
So about a year ago, I decided if I do not do something now, I will live like this for ever.
As a family, we made the decision to move to Cyprus. I’ve also started my own company, which I can run remotely, and I’ve got staff on the ground in the UK, I have accepted job out there also. Its a huge pay hit but taxes are lower and with the lower cost of living I think we will be fine.
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And better weather too!

But I know the feeling, reason why I left the UK back in 2019. I had to change something otherwise I be in my 50's going crazy :D

Now I have my 2nd citizenship through my parents, I'm look at building my own business in the Caribbean. Probably do the 6 months there and 6 month in Europe in my late years.
 
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Apparently its a syndrome, worrying so much about dying that you forget to live.

www.theguardian.com

The troubling rise of longevity fixation syndrome: ‘I was crushed by the pressure I put on myself’

This unofficial diagnosis describes the anxiety-driven, compulsive obsession with living as long as possible. While it might seem healthy to monitor your diet, exercise and biomarkers, it can come at a huge emotional cost
www.theguardian.com www.theguardian.com

So chaps and chapesses dont overdo the exercises and underdo the calories and the fun things to excess. You may die anyway from an unconnected issue to your health. Like a plane/train/car crash or a drive by which is out of your control entirely.

Have fun and relax.
 
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But still I obsess about the ticking of every second.
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If it makes you feel better I am exactly the same, and I never used to think about it until I was just about to turn 40.

That being said I'm getting better with it, I went through a phase, few years, obsessed as you say. But I guess eventually you need to come to realise there ain't a damn thing you can do about it. I'm not quite there yet, but slowly improving.
 
Am in my early forties, and I have a lot of work to do financially because I've realised that I'm screwed if I stay on the same trajectory.
I have found that I have less patience these days, and this can be good and bad. Sometimes I am being grumpy for no good reason other than I'm a little tired, and that's bad.
But on the flip side, I'm more aware of how I spend my time and I can say no to things more readily which is good.
 
62 and for me it's all about my health....getting worse all round...........sad I know........I still work but it's getting very difficult to keep going. Body falling apart..
 
Epburpee said:
Am in my early forties, and I have a lot of work to do financially because I've realised that I'm screwed if I stay on the same trajectory.
I have found that I have less patience these days, and this can be good and bad. Sometimes I am being grumpy for no good reason other than I'm a little tired, and that's bad.
But on the flip side, I'm more aware of how I spend my time and I can say no to things more readily which is good.
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Pretty much the same spot.Where's my arc?
 
Really struggling with this at the moment, 41 married, children aged 10 and 5. Life feels like such a grind. Departmental manager in the nhs so at work I just get pressure above and below. We get no support with the kids so we’re stuck in such a rut of going through the motions and existing. Last night we had away without the kids was in 2018, since then we’ve had one date night which was perhaps 2022 and even that was only a few hours. Money is really tight at the moment as well so literally no end to this in sight, nothing to look forward to down the line. Friends are all invested in their own stuff, which is fine, but it’s at a point that I can’t really say I have any friends that are close any more.

Burying myself in exercise at the moment just to get some offline time. Doesn’t help that the eldest, daughter, is playing up massively at the moment too. Feel really hollow, like, is this it? Do not know how to break it.
 
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Goodie said:
Really struggling with this at the moment, 41c married, children aged 10 and 5. Life feels like such a grind. Departmental manager in the nhs so at work I just get pressure above and below. We get no support with the kids so we’re stuck in such a rut of going through the motions and existing. Last night we had away without the kids was in 2018, since then we’ve had one date night which was perhaps 2022 and even that was only a few hours. Money is really tight at the moment as well so literally no end to this in sight, nothing to look forward to down the line. Friends are all invested in their own stuff, which is fine, but it’s at a point that I can’t really say I have any friends that are close any more.

Burying myself in exercise at the moment just to get some offline time. Doesn’t help that the eldest, daughter, is being playing up massively at the moment too. Feel really hollow, like, is this it? Do not know how to break it.
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Get outta that job, immediately.
 
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