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Because this sort of thing doesn't pop up enough! (:D)

What do you do to get you motivated. And I don't mean general day-to-day getting around. I mean when you reach moments in life where you think everything is going wrong, nothing works the way you want it to etc - that's where I am now.

Gone through a really rough change of career (from full-time retail to IT contracting for the NHS) which has in turn gotten me riled up about finances (earning nearly double on paper, but actual take-home pay is shockingly poor after an umbrella company has taken their slice). Have had some "altercations" with colleagues, both contractors and normal employees. It's gotten to the state, several times, that I feel it was a mistake to leave the dead-end job I was in for something I thought I would enjoy.

Gotten to a stage in my relationship (10 months now) where I feel things aren't right, that I'm not appreciated, I'm the one doing all the work etc - the usual sorts of things here.

As above, general money is getting me down, not having enough to do what I want, to go where I want, to experience what I want. I'm someone that is generally quite self-less and is more than willing to help someone else out rather than look out for myself.

And then to top it all off I found out last night one of my friends passed away on Wednesday. Someone that I went all through high-school with and saw pretty much every day.

So yeah, life seems a bit dark at the moment. Although I suppose one good thing to come from that is I found Coldplay's new album, some decent songs on it :)
 
3 or 4 of the major 10 life stressors are making binging noises - career, money, work issues, relationship falling apart. That's pretty big stuff to deal with.

Wait, 5 - I see you've heard the new Coldplay album. Sorry, had to.

My advice? Don't post on a computer forum looking for a solution. Speak to a professional about this if life really does seem "a bit dark at the moment". They'll help you and tailor their advice towards you.
 
Sort out your umbrella company first and foremost if they are screwing you over? They shouldn't be taking much at all unless you've got the contract through them and are being royally screwed through that!
 
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3 or 4 of the major 10 life stressors are making binging noises - career, money, work issues, relationship falling apart. That's pretty big stuff to deal with.

Wait, 5 - I see you've heard the new Coldplay album. Sorry, had to.

My advice? Don't post on a computer forum looking for a solution. Speak to a professional about this if life really does seem "a bit dark at the moment". They'll help you and tailor their advice towards you.
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I've gone through counselling before when I had some pretty major issues with family problems a couple of years back, and can't say it's something I'd willingly want to do again.

When I do get down I generally just keep my head down and see it through until the light starts to shine again. All I'm looking for is how other people pick themselves up again.

And I'm expecting people to rip into Coldplay, but I do genuinely enjoy their music... From time-to-time... Bi-yearly...
 
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I've gone through counselling before when I had some pretty major issues with family problems a couple of years back, and can't say it's something I'd willingly want to do again.

When I do get down I generally just keep my head down and see it through until the light starts to shine again. All I'm looking for is how other people pick themselves up again.

And I'm expecting people to rip into Coldplay, but I do genuinely enjoy their music... From time-to-time... Bi-yearly...
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Man, I went for the easy joke - I like some of Coldplay's stuff too.

What makes the light shine, out of interest? What made the lights go out in the first place?
 
[FnG]magnolia;20141562 said:
Man, I went for the easy joke - I like some of Coldplay's stuff too.

What makes the light shine, out of interest? What made the lights go out in the first place?
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Everything in the first post made the lights go out :P

And to make them come on again? Lord only knows. Sex, drugs and rock & roll? :D

Not a clue, I usually just ride things out until my mind clears of everything and start afresh again. Even taken most of next week off to sort out several things, which I've never had to do before :(
 
Let me know what you are not motivated to do.

If you do not do it within the next 5 minutes I shall permaban you, does that motivate you enough? :D
 
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Let me know what you are not motivated to do.

If you do not do it within the next 5 minutes I shall permaban you, does that motivate you enough? :D
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But, but... :(

I wouldn't say I'm not motivated exactly, I'm just having a hard time getting out of a bad place ;)
 
If you're depressed go and see a doctor and get referred.

If you're feeling emotional about, I don't know, ANIME, then just have a word with yourself.

Is it possible you're just a lazy bum?

e : oh God, you're not an 'Artist', are you? That changes the whole game plan.

I'm only joking ... so far.
 
Viva La Vida I found to be quite uplifting :p:D

But yea, finding motivation is hard. Just have to think the bad patch at the moment is just that - a bad patch. It will pass.
 
Think to yourself, do you want to be the sort of person who just goes along in life treading water? Just letting the world pass you by, while you sit, happy to idle away your days?

The answer is almost certainly no. Only you can change it. It really is as simple as thinking "For ****s sake what is wrong with me?" and just getting on with it. Don't say "oh but", just do things.

:Edit: That's my reply to a "motivation" thread, but this doesn't seem like one now that I've actually read your post. It's more of a "life is pants" thread. Can't say much about that really, apart from admit to yourself that you are totally in control of the situation you are in.

Your life is absolutely your responsibility, grab it by the balls and give it a slap around the face. Give yourself one while you're at it.
 
[FnG]magnolia;20141445 said:
3 or 4 of the major 10 life stressors are making binging noises - career, money, work issues, relationship falling apart. That's pretty big stuff to deal with.

Wait, 5 - I see you've heard the new Coldplay album. Sorry, had to.

My advice? Don't post on a computer forum looking for a solution. Speak to a professional about this if life really does seem "a bit dark at the moment". They'll help you and tailor their advice towards you.
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Out of interest what are the 10 main stress issues then?

I'd say over the last year (some still a little bit) I've been dealing with career, money and relationship issues.

Slowly getting over them now and making a few changes which with any luck should see things change and help me begin to start life again.

Sometimes life sucks but then you just have to pick yourself up, look for the next oppurtunity and hope to make something of it. If not, try again. I think the experience of it all as well makes you a stronger person and lets you make better decisions next time.
 
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Take my dogs for a walk in the fields at the back of where I live, think to myself how lucky I am really, look at what I do have rather than what I don't have.
 
Motivate yourself to do something, which is easy, Discipline is the hardest, basic example is the Armed forces, they dont treat you like that because they like it or want to, its because you need to experience hardship and if something happens you are, ready.

Motivation = Going for a run
Discipline = Keeping that up, going on faster and longer runs, completing a marathon

Motivation = Learn a new language the basics
Discipline = Putting that language into practice, becoming fluent, marrying someone that speaks that language

Motivation = Have an interest in a new skill as a hobby
Discipline = Master the skill, making a living from that skill, passing it on to other people.
 
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