Moving out at 16

phi1

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Hi all, I am in a bit of a situation. I am after some advise. I will start the story of and where i am now,

Year 7 2003 at school, I got heavily bullied (Being beaten up by gangs of YR11s etc) and then refused to go to school. After 6 months, my mum finally got me into a new better school. "Neale-wade" I had to get a bus ride there because it was further than my old school. I had no problems there and made some new good friends, We then decided to move into the area of the school. We found a nice house and my mum sold ours and we rented this one, She was heavily in debt from my father never paying any money to support me and my sister. So we are renting this house in "march" we agreed to the landlord this would be a long term let and we would stay there a good few years. I have since painted every room etc. Recently the landlord came round saying he was going to sell the house and we would have to move out within 4 months. He was very good about this situation and appolgised. My mum now wants to move away to a different area from here just like that.

This year i will Finnish school and i am looking to carry my education on further at collage. Anyway here is the situation, I don't want to move. I have my friends here and my life here. Can people please tell me what are the ways of moving out at the age of 16, How have people found it? I am a fairly capable person and do quite a lot. I will leave school with 9xC+ GCSE's. My only options at the moment is

Move in with my dad (Not possible theres no room and i don't get along with my step mum)

Move with my mum to a new area

Try and find my own place.

Now i have no savings nor a job at the moment, I have not gotten one because i wanted to focus on my GCSE's at the moment. So could people please tell me if they have moved out from home at 16 how did you find it? How much money did you need per month etc. The only other idea i had and i don't even know if this is possible i could look at moving into collage, I think there is a thing where you can move in. I am not sure, I was looking at going to "Cambridge collage" "Stamford" or "Peterborough"

Please don't post if you don't have anything good to say, Thanks for taking the time to read it.

Phil
 
My friend moved closer to college (He lived in macc and the college was in Crewe) and got funded for living in a house-share while he was there - maybe you could look into that?

Rich
 
I presume you have told your mum you don't want to move? What has she said? Why does she feel the need to move to a different area?

To be honest, 16 is very young to be moving away. Granted, you will learn some valuable life lessons, but I personally think it's too young.
 
I'd say move with your mum. Especially as you don't have the money to support yourself if you were to move out. You could get a job and save up and apply to college. If the friends you've made are true friends it won't matter if you move. There's plenty of ways to keep in touch. You could try putting your name on the council housing thing but I don't know anything about that.

I moved out at 17 to live with my bf and even with my parents paying rent I still struggled to afford food each week. Don't move out until you have at least some savings!
 
moving out is expensive, its all the little things that add up. Move with your mum and commute to college, you will find a hell of a lot of people do this, since a lot of people care enough about their education to travel to their college of choice everyday.
If you do this you could stop over at friends houses etc some days, I know thats what I would do, my friends all stay at my uni house but if any of my close friends moved far away during college I know my parents wouldnt mind them stopping over during the week.
Do not move out, end of story, especially if you want to go to college.
 
Probably best to try and live with your dad or mum.

Will be very had with no savings or job, but if you get funded by the school or government then you could just pull it off.
 
you wont be able to afford itat your age. I can barely afford to live at uni and i get 4.5k worth of loan, got a bar job and live reasonable cheaply.
 
Thanks for all the comments guys, Yeah i guess thats the best thing todo, I will make new friends fairly easy, Just sinced i moved a year ago my lifes been on a up.
 
I wouldn't advise moving out in your situation. It would cost a bomb, plus with all the extra stuff you'd need to do you'd concentrate less on your studies so you probably won't achieve as well as you could do.
 
Without beating around the bush, it costs a lot to live alone, whatever option you choose you will need to fund it with at least a full time job, even to rent a room in someones house will set you back at least £60-£70 a week, then you have to buy food and fund your life, and this is a best case scenario.

It will honestly work out cheaper to 'commute' to your college/school from your mothers asuming she isn't moving too far away, and at the same time, you'll be helping her to budget better with the tax credits etc she'll get for you living at home.

I'll tell you a little story which i don't tell people. I didn't get on with my mothers new partner very well at all when i was 15/16ish and hastily, i chose to move out, i had a full time job at the time though it didn't pay well, (£3/hour i think), i rented a room in somebodys house which seemed a good idea at the time but being young, i had no budgeting skills and nights out with my mates were more important than funding my accomodation etc and soon i started to get behind on rent, then i left without telling my landlord/occupier, just packed m stuf and left while they were at work and went to stay with some lass i'd not long met, a few months later her ex came on the scene and she wanted to get back with him and give up her council flat which left me in the ****, after this i spent roughly 6 months living on the streets homeless and jobless, only because i was too proud to go back to my mothers. Luckily, i found my feet again and things couldn't be better for me now, i have a wonderful g/f, the best and most gorgeous son in the world, a good job and a nice home, but things don't always work out.

Moral of the story is, stay with your mum till you can afford to move out, she will always look after you. Its a big world out there and its all to easy to make the wrong decisions, given the choice i'd have stayed with my parents rather than sleep on a bench in piccadilly train station in Manchester ;)
 
I'd personally suggest that you just take this one on the chin and move in with your mother. Very few people I know who moved in on their own at 16 made much of themselves (of course this isn't the rule, just my observation). You'll be much better off sticking with your family, and getting away to university of a full-time job at 18.
 
peetee said:
moving out is expensive, its all the little things that add up. Move with your mum and commute to college, you will find a hell of a lot of people do this, since a lot of people care enough about their education to travel to their college of choice everyday.
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Depends on the distances involved though - by "different area" I'm assuming he means far enough away to make commuting impractical.

Moving out is expensive, sure, but given that he's not old enough to drive, travelling to college by train and possibly bus as well could end up costing him hundreds of pounds a month, coupled with very little in the way of freetime. Despite having friends in school I certainly wouldn't have wanted to spend say 5 hours a day commuting to and from 6th form had my dad decided to relocate.

My first step would be to sit down with your mum and discuss it - if she's decided "just like that" it may just be a whim she's had (prompted by the impending eviction in 4 months it probably seems as good a time as any to her) and once she realises how settled you are in the area she may be willing to hold out for a couple of years and rent somewhere localish.
 
Hey mate, I don't have great advice, but imo moving out is a mistake.
You are still a kid and should enjoy being looked after and not to have the worries "grown ups" have.
I dont mean to sound condescending at all, please don't misconstrue my post as such either.
Like hangtime said, talk it through with your mom and dad both seperately, after all they only have your best interests at heart.
 
you will likely get a very poor wage at that age, could be incredibly difficult to support yourself, might be better waitin till your 18 before you move out, that way you'll at least be on minimum wage
 
I was in a not so dissimilar position as you when I was 16. I decided to not move (to Germany) and I can't say it was easy, but it was the best choice for me and I don't regret it.

However, if you can possibly stay with your mum I'd highly suggest doing so, it's a waste to grow up so young.

Burnsy
 
I just turned 18 and desperately want a space of my own but know I can't afford it yet.

Best to wait until you have the financial support you'll need when things aren't going so well.
 
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