I am seriously considering sending him an email to tell him what I think of him. For the sake of this story, lets call him 'ahole'.
My wife used to be really close with her sister, they grew up the best of friends. But my wife's sister made the grave mistake of marrying her first boyfriend (ahole), who has turned out to be a very nasty person. He and his whole family are quite wealthy through mainly ill gotten means, but incredibly stingy and they count every single penny, they pretty much worship money.
They have brainwashed my sister in law's three children, telling them not to bother studying hard at school 'because we are millionaires', and they constantly buy their affection (well the eldest son's at least) with lavish gifts like motorbikes at the age of 10, that kind of thing. This really upsets my wifes mother, who is a physics teacher at the school her own grandchildren attend, and is quite embarrassed by their attitude towards school and their poor achievement. The are clever kids, they just don't give a crap, because of the way they have been spoilt by their father, grandparents, uncle etc.
My niece however being a girl is basically ignored and left to fend for herself in many ways. Which might actually be for the best for her.
My wife comes from a quite modest family in terms of wealth, and the sisters husband loves to remind them all the time about this. They even 'employ' my wife's father to do odd jobs for them, these odd jobs are always on the edge of legality and quite poorly paid. And of course this gives them even more reason to act smug and rub their noses in it.
The worst thing is my wife's sister and ahole live on a house built on their parents (the kingpins) plot of land which isn't even in their name! So they don't really own anything, as the kingpins control the finances and hence their family loyalty extremely tightly.
Unfortunately ahole has cancer, he has had it for a few years now, and spends a lot of time in germany getting treatment. This has actually made him far more bitter and twisted than he used to be. Now he demands my wife's sister spend months and months at a time with him in germany, leaving her three kids in the care of my wife's parents.
My wife called her sister yesterday and they arranged for the sister to visit us next week for a few days, to catch up with us and our son who she hardly ever sees, which will be great as we are moving house and the extra pair of hands would be greatly appreciated. They arranged flights and my wife called to confirm that everything is still on this morning.
Of course ahole has been guilt tripping my wife's sister all night and essentially bullying her as usual. When my wife called her sister, she said she has decided it is not a good idea to come, etc etc, This always happens, and ahole and his family have completely driven a wedge between the two sisters who like I said used to be the best of friends.
My wife's sister is essentially a slave to their family now and they treat her with contempt all the time, reminding her that she is from a poor family and how rich they are, and that she should be extremely grateful etc etc.
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TLDR - they are really vile people - should I tell them what I think of them, or would it not be worth the extra hassle/cause more trouble than it is worth?
My wife used to be really close with her sister, they grew up the best of friends. But my wife's sister made the grave mistake of marrying her first boyfriend (ahole), who has turned out to be a very nasty person. He and his whole family are quite wealthy through mainly ill gotten means, but incredibly stingy and they count every single penny, they pretty much worship money.
They have brainwashed my sister in law's three children, telling them not to bother studying hard at school 'because we are millionaires', and they constantly buy their affection (well the eldest son's at least) with lavish gifts like motorbikes at the age of 10, that kind of thing. This really upsets my wifes mother, who is a physics teacher at the school her own grandchildren attend, and is quite embarrassed by their attitude towards school and their poor achievement. The are clever kids, they just don't give a crap, because of the way they have been spoilt by their father, grandparents, uncle etc.
My niece however being a girl is basically ignored and left to fend for herself in many ways. Which might actually be for the best for her.
My wife comes from a quite modest family in terms of wealth, and the sisters husband loves to remind them all the time about this. They even 'employ' my wife's father to do odd jobs for them, these odd jobs are always on the edge of legality and quite poorly paid. And of course this gives them even more reason to act smug and rub their noses in it.
The worst thing is my wife's sister and ahole live on a house built on their parents (the kingpins) plot of land which isn't even in their name! So they don't really own anything, as the kingpins control the finances and hence their family loyalty extremely tightly.
Unfortunately ahole has cancer, he has had it for a few years now, and spends a lot of time in germany getting treatment. This has actually made him far more bitter and twisted than he used to be. Now he demands my wife's sister spend months and months at a time with him in germany, leaving her three kids in the care of my wife's parents.
My wife called her sister yesterday and they arranged for the sister to visit us next week for a few days, to catch up with us and our son who she hardly ever sees, which will be great as we are moving house and the extra pair of hands would be greatly appreciated. They arranged flights and my wife called to confirm that everything is still on this morning.
Of course ahole has been guilt tripping my wife's sister all night and essentially bullying her as usual. When my wife called her sister, she said she has decided it is not a good idea to come, etc etc, This always happens, and ahole and his family have completely driven a wedge between the two sisters who like I said used to be the best of friends.
My wife's sister is essentially a slave to their family now and they treat her with contempt all the time, reminding her that she is from a poor family and how rich they are, and that she should be extremely grateful etc etc.
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TLDR - they are really vile people - should I tell them what I think of them, or would it not be worth the extra hassle/cause more trouble than it is worth?
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