My first and last relationship thread...

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My first and last *starting* relationship thread...

With your wealth of OCuK experience, i'm hoping you can help me with the
tatters that are my love life :P

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I went out with my some people from my ex place of work a few weeks ago
(i keep in contact with most of the people there). A new girl had just
started working there and she also came out with the rest of the team.

We got on really well and chatted most of the night away, we exchanged
numbers and I text her later that evening saying I enjoyed her company
and would like to see her again.

We exchanged texts / emails for a further week or so and then arranged
to see a film together last tuesday (8 Aug). We got to the cinema early
and bought the tickets and as we had time to kill, had a drink and
talked some more. We made our way to the cinema, shared a massive
popcorn and cuddled our way through the break up (don't watch it, it's poo!!)

After the film had finished, she wanted to go home as she was tired (i
assumed it had gone badly, and she wanted to go home). However, she
text me on her way home saying she'd had a nice time, liked me and
wanted to meet up again. We arranged to have lunch the following Tuesday (14 Aug)

Then all the texts / emails / phone calls stopped. I didn't hear anything from her until Monday. It appears that her grandad had been taken into hospital in serious condition over the weekend and she was very worried. I offered my sympathies as you would.

Her grandad received an op on Tuesday (we didn't goto lunch) and has since been recovering and was sent home yesterday which is the last time i've heard from her. I kept in contact and enquiried about her grandad daily but didn't get many replies which is to be expected.

However, since Tuesday I havent' heard anything from her, i sent a few emails and texts on Wednesday and didnt receive a reply and I haven't tried to contact her since.

So, my question is what should I do next as I feel like i'm in limbo.

The paranoid part of me thinks she isn't interested anymore, and doesn't want to tell me. The optimistic part of me thinks she is just preoccupied with her grandad at the moment and I should just wait, but how long?
 
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Shes bothered with her Grandad, wants to be with her family during this time and sadly may be a genuine reason why she has not contacted. I say wait or leave it go and wait and see but don't hope for a happy ending. 3 days is hardly the end of the world, leave it and contact her sunday or something.

Don't force or push for an answer as this would look extremely selfish on the outset.
 
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Funnily enough I was just gonna give it until Sunday to see what happens.
I try to be an optimist, so i'm always hopeful of a happy ending :P
 
If she sincerely likes you then give her some space and she will get in touch with you, it might be a few days or a few weeks but id leave her to her family ie granddad etc.
 
Spawn said:
If she sincerely likes you then give her some space and she will get in touch with you, it might be a few days or a few weeks but id leave her to her family ie granddad etc.
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Listen to this man, or alternatively give him a ring and take him for lunch ;)
 
amx said:
However, since Tuesday I havent' heard anything from her, i sent a few emails and texts on Wednesday and didnt receive a reply and I haven't tried to contact her since.
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Eek Stalker! .... how many's a few. Will agree with everyone else. Back off, leave her space. She'd already agreed to meet you again, so let her contact you when she is ready. Bombard her, and she may think you're a little too needy and do a runner.
 
amx said:
However, since Tuesday I havent' heard anything from her, i sent a few emails and texts on Wednesday and didnt receive a reply and I haven't tried to contact her since.

So, my question is what should I do next as I feel like i'm in limbo.
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If you really have sent "a few" then leave her alone now until she contacts you.
 
Firstly - this is the start of a relationship - its nothing serious - chill out.

Secondly - all you should do at this point in time is send her a message saying that you hope her Grandad is better - nothing else - just shows you care.

Apart from that just let things be.

Push it in anyway and it will only blow up in your face.
 
amx said:
With your wealth of OCuK experience, i'm hoping you can help me with the
tatters that are my love life :P

<WARNING - LONG THREAD>

I went out with my some people from my ex place of work a few weeks ago
(i keep in contact with most of the people there). A new girl had just
started working there and she also came out with the rest of the team.

We got on really well and chatted most of the night away, we exchanged
numbers and I text her later that evening saying I enjoyed her company
and would like to see her again.

We exchanged texts / emails for a further week or so and then arranged
to see a film together last tuesday (8 Aug). We got to the cinema early
and bought the tickets and as we had time to kill, had a drink and
talked some more. We made our way to the cinema, shared a massive
popcorn and cuddled our way through the break up (don't watch it, it's poo!!)

After the film had finished, she wanted to go home as she was tired (i
assumed it had gone badly, and she wanted to go home). However, she
text me on her way home saying she'd had a nice time, liked me and
wanted to meet up again. We arranged to have lunch the following Tuesday (14 Aug)

Then all the texts / emails / phone calls stopped. I didn't hear anything from her until Monday. It appears that her grandad had been taken into hospital in serious condition over the weekend and she was very worried. I offered my sympathies as you would.

Her grandad received an op on Tuesday (we didn't goto lunch) and has since been recovering and was sent home yesterday which is the last time i've heard from her. I kept in contact and enquiried about her grandad daily but didn't get many replies which is to be expected.

However, since Tuesday I havent' heard anything from her, i sent a few emails and texts on Wednesday and didnt receive a reply and I haven't tried to contact her since.

So, my question is what should I do next as I feel like i'm in limbo.

The paranoid part of me thinks she isn't interested anymore, and doesn't want to tell me. The optimistic part of me thinks she is just preoccupied with her grandad at the moment and I should just wait, but how long?
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You should pay attention to the 'Women sometimnes think that a seriously ill relative is more important than some guy she's only just met' rule.
 
Visage said:
You should pay attention to the 'Women sometimnes think that a seriously ill relative is more important than some guy she's only just met' rule.
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Exactly, chill out dude, wait a week. Hell, wait a month, if she likes you she will contact you. You have already made your feelings clear, so when things are better at her end she'll call you.
 
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