my friend in his 40's is dying and i'm pretty cut up about it

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yeah as topic title really, just need to vent.

he's lived a very fast life in his relatively shorter life span, had 3 kids, has a grand child. his lifestyle has now caught up with him tbh, he knows this.

we first met when we were about 6 years old in primary school and have remained close friends ever since. not 1 fallout between us. we've had so many good times together, some truly mad times lol.

no tears from me yet but they are close. thanks for reading.
 
Sorry to hear this. I think we need to talk more about death, in society. Technically we’re all dying and there’s no escaping it.
 
Very sorry to read this. I hope he can make the best of whatever time he has left.

Might sound like a silly question, but how is he handling it?
 
Sorry to hear this. Lost a few good mates in their mid 30's to the big C. Carried the old man off at 56 as well. I often think about not wasting time because you don't know when your ticket will get stamped.
 
Sorry to hear mate, to echo others thoughts I really don't think we talk about death as much as we should, I get talked down when I mention we are all dying when we are in our mid twenties if I recall? It's bizzare when it's just as important as birth.

Had a friend die in his forties ,it's no age and left a massive hole in life and changed friendships but he still lives on in mind and is fondly remembered despite the hardships and always brings a smile and tear, that will never change.

Really wish I could offer words that would change whats to come.
 
I'm sorry to hear about your friend, life really can be cruel sometimes. A friend of mine passed away about 2 years ago in his 30's, we'd fallen out of touch over the years but it really stunned me. He was the type of guy you'd have thought had it made, would go the distance but yeah, you just never know when it's your time.

Nothing else I can say really.
 
Sorry to hear about that but I know what you are going through. I lost one of my close friends at only 17 years old due to Leukemia and it was a horrible time to go through. He was very active and in the school football team and track team and was super fit. We left school but still met up at weekends then one day he dropped the bombshell. He was handling it really well, better than the rest of us actually and he didn't like us "fussing" over him. His condition deteriorated rapidly and then one day he wasn't there anymore. It hit us like a freight train and for a time we all went our seperate ways but got back together again a few months later. You will hurt and miss your friend but if he is suffering at the end of the day he will be gone to a better place. It hurts really badly for a time but you will get over it, just remember all the good times that you have had together and make the most of the time he has left.
 
Lost an old mate to his substance abuse after he moved to Cambodia where he got married and then onto to Thailand to work for the English press there.
We had just about reconnected via social media and planned to meet up in the UK when we happened to both be returning, but it never happened.
He had gone totally off the rails in ten years. Doubt he had more than a handful of sober days, so he said.

Life*(death) sucks my friend! Just wait. Everyone has their time to go. Some help themselves to the destination faster than others.

*Life is good, be an idiot when young and they try and get off of that nonsense before you are 30. That would be my advice.
If you are sill popping pills/binge drinking/smoking/sniffing and regularly waking up on other people sofas at 30 you are doing it wrong.
 
This sucks. Sorry for your mate.

At the age of 41, I look at my mortality and my virtual bucket list.

I might listen to Animals by Pink Floyd one last time; just in case. :(
 
I lost several friends when I was younger, late teens to 30's but that was in the bike scene where it wasn't that unusual for people to meet an untimely end. It didn't make it any easier though :(
 
OP i've gone through something similar. Lost a friend of mine when he was in his early 40's due to drink. It was one of those things you saw coming but it still hits like a ton of bricks. I felt a lot of guilt at first - should I have done more to stop it but I realised there was nothing I could do.
He was an incredibly intelligent individual (2 doctorates and a host of patents to his name) so knew exactly what he was doing to himself. It was just his choice.
 
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