My social life is starting to crumble :(

DezUk

DezUk

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I dunno what to do as most of my m8s are older than me and they are all starting to settle down. One of my m8s had a baby last week and well that rules him out of weekends out now. Im starting to find myself spending most weekends in the house and it really sucks. I want to go out clubbing but i don't want to go it alone as i would probably just find myself sitting in the corner.

How can i find new m8s, silly question it may sound but its difficult not like school anymore.
 
go down to the pub, and get chatting with the barmaid or man, they might just have a chat and introduce you to some other people, or similar to that this may sound childish but join a club, like a snooker club or something to mix with people your own age.

Hmm, I know after if I go to university I'd be stuck in a position similar to yours, it's probably best to see how other people post, not this one.
 
Well you can go out by yourself, but since you've already predetermined the outcome in your head before anything is manifested in reality, its a bad avenue to go down. What you need to do is find what I call a proxy activity. You make friends with people completely unrelated to your intent, which in your case is to go clubbing, by being their sunday league football teammates for example, and then as a result of this common bond, you begin to participate in more activities (clubbing) outside of the original meeting place (sunday football).
 
Theres the edinburgh meet next weekend, good chance to meet other scottish people with a similar interest.
 
Andelusion said:
Start spelling it properly :p
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Haha, harsh, but funny nonetheless! :p

Seriously though, I've found that just going out and opening your mouth, talking to people is the best way. Don't think about what they think. Be yourself and, before you know it, you'll be surrounded by so many people that you wish you never started looking :).

Phil.
 
ideally new friends

i was thinking of attending the gym as i do need to shed a beer belly :)

is this a good way of socialising ?
 
DezUk said:
ideally new friends

i was thinking of attending the gym as i do need to shed a beer belly :)

is this a good way of socialising ?
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Not really. I go 3 times a week and if you filter out the sports bitches, the steroid freaks and miscellanous "Mr Muscles" etc. you'd be left with very few people you'd actually want to talk to otherwise :D

I dont see many people striking up conversations there, but who knows.
 
Take up some kind of sport. Martial Arts are good for this as you have to cooperate and interact with lots of different people and a lot of clubs have some kind of social aspect to them too.
 
Chronos-X said:
Not really. I go 3 times a week and if you filter out the sports bitches, the steroid freaks and miscellanous "Mr Muscles" etc. you'd be left with very few people you'd actually want to talk to otherwise :D
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I agree with this, after being at my gym for 3 months I haven't met anyone I have wanted to talk to.
 
taking up a hobby like computers or my other fav, motorcycle restoration means i get to meet all sorts of old grumps.Or frustrated geek types who are trying to brake expensive hardware.Ive thrown my expensive social life out the window :p

But seriously,ditch the mates with the babies. keep only 1, your most favourite couple.The rest will just bore you with simmiler reportoire and stand to show you what you are missing.
Trying to go out with that lot also means endless bbqs and baby friendly pubs.Fathers wanting to go out on it major can be fun though. so also keep those ones.

Get into the scottish scooter scene cos thats mad weekend fun and girls who dress nice like it.Also theres all sorts of age groups and styles.

its considered bad play to socialise at the gyn cos everyone looks s***

just a suggestion
 
While I’ve only got probably 6 really close friends I’ve got absolutely shed loads of "mates" who I go out on the lash with.

I’ve use a tactic when out with the guys that seems to get me invited on loads of nights out and parties. If I’m out with my usual mates and there’s one or more new guys out with us who I haven’t meet before I’ll usually make an effort to spend more time talking to them through the night and sometimes even split off from the main group with the new guy to go girl hunting lol :D .

Another tactic I use is if one of my mates happens to see a friend of his while we’re out and about I’ll be cheeky and invite them out on one of our nights out.

I know your in a bit of a catch 22 situation but it only takes one or two nights out to sort your self out with someone to go out on the lash with. You’ve got to take every opportunity you have to meet new people, at the gym, work, up the pub and if you really have to on the internet;).
 
Flibster said:
Whats a 'social life'??

Simon/~Flibster
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I think he's referring to the interaction which takes place with other players inside an MMORPG. I'm not entirely sure however, so please clarify.
 
Pretty much the same happened to me.

Most of my friends have moved miles away and got married/engaged/had children and are usually extremely busy with work/other things more important than friends.
 
paul@ said:
Pretty much the same happened to me.

Most of my friends have moved miles away and got married/engaged/had children and are usually extremely busy with work/other things more important than friends.
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yeah same here, happens to us all at one point
 
Get off the internet!


But you could join clubs in your area for things you enjoy doing, martial arts, pottery, horse(BAD typo there) riding, knitting. There you will meet people who like the same things as you, and maybe even romance
 
Brynn said:
Get off the internet!


But you could join clubs in your area for things you enjoy doing, martial arts, pottery, horse(BAD typo there) riding, knitting. There you will meet people who like the same things as you, and maybe even romance
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you used the words "knitting" and "romance" in the same paragraph, WHAT ARE YOU ON?
 
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