Need some advice...

Shayper · 6 Nov 2011 at 04:58

Well, I've just got in from one of the most awkward nights out.

Bit of backstory: my friend at uni is infatuated with this girl, but she really isn't interested in him, and told him (slightly misleadingly) that she wasn't looking for anything from anyone. However, me and her have been sort of seeing each other, and he didn't know this, because he can get a but self destructive, and we thought it wouldn't be the best idea to tell him.

Now, stupidly tonight I sort of let it slip, and I feel like an absolute **** for telling him, but I didn't want him finding out by seeing us kissing. He then proceeded to get stupidly drunk, and being really worried, me, this girl and a couple of other friends took him home.

Was I in the right to tell him, and where should I go from here? Me and this girl really like each other, but really don't want to hurt him

And no, I'm not drunk, it was a night out in Camden so

Tummy · 6 Nov 2011 at 05:01

Shayper, my chum.

He'll get over it. It's always best to be honest and tell someone rather then letting them find out and then be crushed and crushed again that people lied to them.

Give your friend time, just don't flaunt that your putting your pork sword in this girl near him and I'm sure all will be well.

You did the right thing telling him imho.

Shayper · 6 Nov 2011 at 05:03

Thankyou Phil

It's just so awkward, I wish life could be a little less confusing...

Oh and what are you doing on the forums at this time of the morning anyway

Tummy · 6 Nov 2011 at 05:09

Can't sleep mate, just bummed out by things at the minute so not sleeping.

No problemo btw dude, give him time

time heals and helps most things.

If life was simple it wouldn't be so rewarding

Shayper · 6 Nov 2011 at 05:10

True man...

Text me dude?

Tummy · 6 Nov 2011 at 05:12

Will do in the morning / afternoon at some point, I'm off out for a run in a minute and to see a friend

Shayper · 6 Nov 2011 at 05:13

Fair dos man, I'll tell you who the individual parties are and you may then understand

Tummy · 6 Nov 2011 at 05:15

I'll drop you a text probably late morning then dude.

I'm off out for my run / lamp post challenge and to see my friend (doesn't know I'm coming round

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Shayper · 6 Nov 2011 at 05:16

Haha awesome!

smit101 · 6 Nov 2011 at 05:27

I hope your mate finds a real understanding/intelligent babe, that fancies the hell out of him!

Shayper · 6 Nov 2011 at 05:30

What?

stuman · 6 Nov 2011 at 05:35

Pics of said girl, then we, the GD, can decide if she is worth the hassle.

smit101 · 6 Nov 2011 at 05:37

Shayper said:
What?

I hope he finds what he's looking for.

skippy2421 · 6 Nov 2011 at 05:52

Next time you all go out try and hook him up with some little fittie. he'll move on quick enough then.

Destination · 6 Nov 2011 at 05:58

Its been one full hour, middle of night or not, a full hour, we've heard of the pork sword, yet not one mention of pastie.

People get overattached and infactuated on girls when young, he will get over it. He will always thing of you as a knob. Not your fault (good will hunting hug), now pucs of the girl or it never happened.

Jay794 · 6 Nov 2011 at 06:05

Screw your friend, if the girl ain't interested in him he needs to move on and let you be with her. Although she doesn't sound very nice, unless you're friend is a dick, why would she not like him?

skippy2421 · 6 Nov 2011 at 06:11

Jay794 said:
Screw your friend, if the girl ain't interested in him he needs to move on and let you be wit her. Although she doesn't sound very nice, unless you're friend is a dick, why would she not like him?

Because she has no interest in him she's not a nice person? sorry dude but how did you come to that conclusion?

Jay794 · 6 Nov 2011 at 06:40

Well personally, if my friend was going behind my back with a girl I liked, I'd be pretty ****ed because I'd be asking myself what you had that I didn't.

It would put me off the girl and probably take a lot for me to forgive you

cainer · 6 Nov 2011 at 07:11

semi-pro waster · 6 Nov 2011 at 08:33

Jay794 said:
Screw your friend, if the girl ain't interested in him he needs to move on and let you be with her. Although she doesn't sound very nice, unless you're friend is a dick, why would she not like him?

Jay794 said:
Well personally, if my friend was going behind my back with a girl I liked, I'd be pretty ****ed because I'd be asking myself what you had that I didn't.

It would put me off the girl and probably take a lot for me to forgive you

Aren't these sentiments somewhat contradictory - don't worry about your friend and expect the friend not to forgive you for something that isn't really your fault?

Sometimes people just don't fancy each other, it's not anyones fault and it doesn't say anything much about either party as a person except they're not attracted for whatever reason.

Shayper: I think you did the right thing in telling him although as with lots of things if you'd had free choice a night out might not have been the ideal time/place to tell him. I hope your mate is alright as it's a pretty crushing thing to have happen but you did try to make sure he was ok so that ought to count for something with him.