Not having plans/goals

Telecaster said:
There must be a bigger issue then because I just can't be arsed to sort anything out, what I mean is nothing takes my interest enough to actually do it, I just seem to have a mild/passing interest in lots of things but not enough to bother taking it seriously.
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Are you depressed? I don't get the impression you are. A kick up the backside perhaps? Take 15 minutes and think about your death, try and envisage it, like properly, think of something terrible like getting cancer and being in severe pain for 4 years before knocking off. You may think I'm taking the mick but I'm not, imagining your death can be a great life changer, it can change your mindset dramatically.
 
I feel very similar to the OP. Don't get me wrong I'm very lucky to have such a wonderful woman in my life and baby on the way and regular access to my kids but that often feels like all of my happiness. I wish I could be passionate about something else as well.
 
I'm going through a similar lull in motivation but I think it's mostly because I know I need a change. Making plans for that already which is a shock for me as I'm a massive procrastinator. :D

Used to do two or three hours in a day on the piano at a time easily, now it's more like two hours a week. Other hobbies are going the same way. :(

It's not necessarily bad having a time-out where you don't let anything stress you out or pressure you for a while as long as it doesn't drag on too long IMO.
 
Telecaster said:
Ok, so I've booked 2 weeks off work first 2 weeks of Oct. Only plan was already in place and that is one of the days is my annual trip to the beer festival with the old man, no plans for the rest of it but I'm thinking of a small trip or something. Always fancied the Caledonian Sleeper but it looks a bit pricey when you factor in getting to/from the beginning/end.
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something doesn't make any sense here.

You have owned multiple performance cars yet can't afford a hundred quid? yet you spend £300 on a new gpu every week to add to your mining farm?
 
Well a clio 182 or something could be classed as a performance car, doesn't break the bank. Then if we're talking brand new performance cars there's many a person who has one without really being able to afford to run it. Also peoples situations change, he may have been better off financially some years ago and not as responsible with money like many are in their 20's.

GPU mining should be making a small amount of money or at the very least breaking even.
 
Psycho Sonny said:
something doesn't make any sense here.

You have owned multiple performance cars yet can't afford a hundred quid? yet you spend £300 on a new gpu every week to add to your mining farm?
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There's a difference between deciding not to buy something because you don't feel that it's value for money, as opposed to not actually being able to afford said item due to limited funds?
 
Ayahuasca said:
Well a clio 182 or something could be classed as a performance car, doesn't break the bank. Then if we're talking brand new performance cars there's many a person who has one without really being able to afford to run it. Also peoples situations change, he may have been better off financially some years ago and not as responsible with money like many are in their 20's.

GPU mining should be making a small amount of money or at the very least breaking even.
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regardless of what it was. he had a list as longer than his arm. even if it was stuff like that it's still not cheap. your talking multiple thousands of pounds multiple times over. now he cannot justify spending £100? it's not as if he is spending lots of money now either. he says he goes to work comes home and then goes to sleep then goes to work again. it doesn't make any sense unless he's in a really poor paying job or in lots of debt.

if he's in debt then he has to face the music he only has himself to blame here.

String said:
There's a difference between deciding not to buy something because you don't feel that it's value for money, as opposed to not actually being able to afford said item due to limited funds?
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well he's buying £300+ gpu's every couple of weeks so you wouldn't think spending £100 on something you want to do would be a big ask.
 
You seem to have failed to miss the point that his financial situation, responsibility and priorities may have been different then. It's like me saying I bought a £4000 TV 10 years ago so why complain about buying a £1000 one now.

Again the GPU's are used for mining to try and make money, mining now and holding onto the coins could be very profitable if prices keep rising.
 
so he has multiple hundreds of pounds (probably thousands) to invest but not £100 for a train ticket? again doesn't sound right at all.

we aren't talking about a one off £4K tv either. we are talking 20 or so performance cars. over £100K easily. now he can't fork out £100?
 
String said:
There's a difference between deciding not to buy something because you don't feel that it's value for money, as opposed to not actually being able to afford said item due to limited funds?
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This.

Like I said, going on the caledonian sleeper is something I've *fancied* doing, but it's not my life's ambition. And I wish it was only £100. For the full trip and accom you'd be talking more like £500.

I have a problem with spending money on non tangible things, stuff like trips/experiences are like dead money to me.

Yes I've had a list of quick cars as long as your arm, but not recently - all through my late teens and 20s - I'm now 38, so again, just because I had the money to blow on endless cars and tuning back in the day when I lived at home with no bills, doesn't mean I have it now.
 
I think experiences are a much better thing to be spending money on that material items.

If the Caledonian Sleeper isn't your lifes ambition what is?
 
At 38, you're already over the hill tbh

Just chill and watch the world go by, lots of people getting all uppety about stuff.
 
Slam62 said:
At 38, you're already over the hill tbh

Just chill and watch the world go by, lots of people getting all uppety about stuff.
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I look quite young, apparently. Some guy on site called me "lad" the other day, I asked him how old he thought I was and he said 'about 26' - I'll take that every day of the week :p
 
Telecaster said:
I look quite young, apparently. Some guy on site called me "lad" the other day, I asked him how old he thought I was and he said 'about 26' - I'll take that every day of the week :p
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Regardless at 38 most females at that age have settled down or never will. You don't have much disposable income and are hoping for a lottery win. £500 to most people is nothing for a bit of time off and will spend that on a weekend away, easily £2k for a week or two.

Also the whole hoping your number comes up sounds pretty much like a sheep mentality. There are 2 types of people those that one day think money will land on their lap (lottery players) and those that go out and achieve their ambitions. This has been observed by writers interviewing self made millionaires and ordinary people.

So the only reason you lived the good life was because you lived with parents before and now your paying for it. Well that's life. Bragging about what you had whilst living with parents isn't really bragworthy tbh.
 
I wasn't bragging, I was giving an example of one of many interests I used to have that no longer interest me, I notice you didn't pick on the sport analogy though, I guess there's no cheap shots to be made there. You have a pop at saying I invested loads into mining gear and then on the other hand state I don't have any disposable income, you're losing the plot.

Who mentioned women?

Hoping for a lottery win is a figure of speech, I don't now, or ever have played it. I was using it as an example of it taking something like that to change my situation, not literally praying every saturday night for my numbers to come up.

Seems you've got a hard-on for making cheap shots aimed at me, quite a popular past time for those of low/average IQ it seems these days.
 
Sometimes you need to reprogram yourself. Heard a good quote from Dorian Yates (former 6-time Mr Olympia) recently, he said "Your thoughts become your reality".

Decluttering mentally is very powerful. What do you do for a living?
 
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