Over-thinking/analyzing, reading in to things..

I've been like this for as long as I can remember.

It's pretty ****ty really - I'd say i'm quite perceptive about things aswell so it doesn't help, used to smoke weed heavily which made it 10x worse but I haven't for over a year now.

I'm much better than I was though
 
IwantanewPC said:
Over-thinking/analyzing, reading in to things, worrying in general and worrying what other people think.. anyone else suffer with this stuff?

Really noticed lately that I do.. I mean I always have, but it just seems to have got worse. I'd love to stop or atleast control it but I find it really hard... is there any way?

Not even sure what the point of this thread is to be honest.. and I'm terrified about what you're all going to think of me for making it. :p :D
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Analysing.
 
I do it too. Usually when the outcome of a situation is not in my control. Sometimes so much so the point I can't sleep because I can't switch off.

Last night an ex who I recently made contact with after I refused to speak to her for 3 years (who I have now only briefly spoken to a number of times) messaged me on facebook wishing me a happy new year. The curiosity in me runs wild. However I don't think this will be keeping me up:p

It can be very frustrating when I've said to myself not to think about a certain thing and then to realise subconsciously I've completely ignored myself and am!
 
Lysander said:
As the Hindus say - Manas, mind, the organ that thinks and deliberates.

Thinking about things is never positively productive. And it can makes simple things seem far worse and complex than they are.

I used it hate it when one of my exes said, "I've been thinking about things..." - it basically meant she had too much time on her hands and was inventing problems where there weren't any.
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This.
 
I do it too although I'm slowly getting better. (I think :p)

Right now I am thinking a lot about things that were said to me last night by a certain gentleman. It's very annoying lol (although it hasn't helped that a few friends have been asking me about last night so I've been talking about it practically all day lol)
 
Dan87 said:
I've been like this for as long as I can remember.

It's pretty ****ty really - I'd say i'm quite perceptive about things aswell so it doesn't help, used to smoke weed heavily which made it 10x worse but I haven't for over a year now.

I'm much better than I was though
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I'm also very perceptive too I'd say, atleast a lot of people have told me that. Maybe something in that cause I'm guilty of all the things mentioned in the thread title.
 
I suffer from this a bit, my dad recons we are a whole family of “worriers”

I think it’s about channelling it into something useful, play devil’s advocate with it and then dismiss it and get on with your day, it can be quite useful if you use it effectively but I guess that depends on what it’s about.

It does sometimes make you think that most people don’t think about anything there doing though, or at least that seems like it’s the case.
 
I do this a lot, it can often ruin my enjoyment of things such as tv or movies since I'm always trying to find flaws and point them out.. that's just one example. :o
 
My father suffered from insomnia related to 'over thinking', ie being unable to turn off at night.
Hypnotism was the best solution in the end, he gets a full nights sleep and is almost human as a result :D

Having a job where you don't have to constantly 'read between the lines' is very helpful for reducing stress, most of the worry in my life tends to be because of situations which are very grey, as opposed to a clean black or white.
 
fanger said:
You are 'procrastinating' my boy; i.e; living out all the possible scenarios of actionable life options in your head, until you settle on the one that will have the worst possible outcome and so therefore, do not do it at all.
You do nothing except sit there feeling miserable with the thought that life is busy passing you by. Which, of course, it is.

Not a good thing to do. Go out there - live your life and remember what wise men say:

"Procrastination is like masturbation - you're the only one getting *****d."
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Um, in a word, wrong. :confused:

Procrastination is just putting something off till later:

"Bob, tidy your room."
"I'll do it later." <-- Procrastination occuring.

There really is nothing more to it than that.

Re: the OP, I have a friend with Body Dysmorphic Disorder, BDD, which is an excessive concern and preoccupation with a perceived physical imperfection. Everyone has it to very minor degrees (everyone dislikes some triviality about their person), but BDD can't stop thinking about it.

Not sure if this is what you are referring to, or a more general over analysis of situations and perceptions? Regardless, have an image with which you are comfortable and to hell with everyone else's judgements. :)
 
If you can objectify the worry, suddenly you become somebody who people think of as simply being perceptive.

Intelligence is 1/10ths the ability to observe what is going on. "Worriers" naturally pick up on things other people aren't paying attention to.
 
manic, I have been described as perceptive a few times when I notice something that's changed, or forsee a problem occuring, but I worry little; if at all. I think I'm concentrating more on thinking how to fix the situation after said problem has happened if it cannot be prevented. Can't be entirely sure, perception isn't entirely conscious, my point is that I am not a "worrier".
 
The_Sophisticate said:
manic, I have been described as perceptive a few times when I notice something that's changed, or forsee a problem occuring, but I worry little; if at all. I think I'm concentrating more on thinking how to fix the situation after said problem has happened if it cannot be prevented. Can't be entirely sure, perception isn't entirely conscious, my point is that I am not a "worrier".
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Then you are already objectifying, the ability to turn reality into a logical problem. Some people see it as emotional detachment, however I see it as simply another way of thinking that has led to some very important and interesting conclusions.

I objectify, I know I do, and I've stopped justifying it. I can even look coldly at the most heart-rending topics. What's important is that you correctly objectify what makes it heart-rending for other, differently minded people and take those factors into account.

On some levels, Hitler was a very logical person, until you factor in that killing is wrong... especially for the reasons he cited...

My original post was more aimed at the initial tone of the OP, in that worrying is often just a sign of thinking about ones scenario, which when harnessed correctly, can be a powerful tool. Learning what it is to "think" is something that fascinates me.
 
We seem to be alike, I am very emotionally detached and can look at horrific subjects with a level head. It does become a challenge to see the same situation from a more emotional perspective to understand others' viewpoints and arguements.

As for learning what it is to "think", rather ironically, I've never given it much thought. :rolleyes:
 
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