Parenting: Am I being too old fashioned/strict?

[Sheff]

Hi everyone, my wife and I are planning on starting a family in the next year or two and I've mentioned that I have one or two... ideas that I'd like to stick to.

1. With dinner/tea I'd like to sit around a table and perhaps talk to my child, right now we eat meals in front of the television which is fine for us but I'd quite like a more traditional approach.

2. No sweets unless they're a treat or special occasion or bought with pocket money, and I refuse to give pocket money if my child misbehaves.

Apparantly I'm being a mean old miser, but I'd like to make my intentions on parenting clear before I go ahead with anything, even though I know most of this will probably be forgotten once the time comes, what do you lot think?

 

[MowyTone]

This is how I grew up and im f-f-f-f-f-iiiiine

Seriously though, I really do agree with you on this and it will be how my kids grow up as well

 

[Maximum Triceratops]

Idea no1 is a great idea, as they get older it will probably be the one time you all get together, stick to your guns on that one.
Idea no2 will fail

 

[derkaderka]

Right on !

That will learn em

 

[Edward01]

How I grew up.

 

[Wicksta]

There is a fine balance to strike if you ask me. Maybe don't sit around the table every night but do it a couple of times a week for example. I guess there is no perfect formula so see how it goes. It does seem a bit of a strange thing to think about or discuss before you even have kids though! All plans go out of the window when it actually happens I'm sure.

 

[Azagoth]

Lock 'em in the cellar and throw 'em a few fish heads from time to time.

 

[Beans on toast Dave]

mean old miser? wtf! lol

this should be part of family life! (not the miser bit)

 

[Westyfield2]

Sounds very sensible to me

 

[Rich1988]

That is certainly the correct way to bring a child up, if they are given sweets etc all the time it will become a normal thing so wont be a treat any more and it leads to obesity!!!

 

[D.P.]

Hi everyone, my wife and I are planning on starting a family in the next year or two and I've mentioned that I have one or two... ideas that I'd like to stick to.

1. With dinner/tea I'd like to sit around a table and perhaps talk to my child, right now we eat meals in front of the television which is fine for us but I'd quite like a more traditional approach.

2. No sweets unless they're a treat or special occasion or bought with pocket money, and I refuse to give pocket money if my child misbehaves.

Apparantly I'm being a mean old miser, but I'd like to make my intentions on parenting clear before I go ahead with anything, even though I know most of this will probably be forgotten once the time comes, what do you lot think?

I think this is a commendable approach

 

[slylittlefox]

You get my vote

Sitting round the table is really important - just don't try and force conversation!

 

[mac1st3]

This is how I grew up and im f-f-f-f-f-iiiiine

Seriously though, I really do agree with you on this and it will be how my kids grow up as well

agreed, I've a neice and nephew so they'll be my practice run but I like the idea of sitting at a table, no tv to distract, just you and the family

 

[Majago]

Sounds very sensible to me

+1

 

[RDM]

Nice aims to have. Don't be too suprised if you find them harder to stick to than you imagine though.

 

[^TANK^]

How I grew up.

 

[xb8browney]

I have a 19month old daughter and it's something that we have talked about too. We also want eat around the table.

As for sweets well the most she has is a fredo and she loves her fruit watermelon being one of them.

 

[Sheff]

There is a fine balance to strike if you ask me. Maybe don't sit around the table every night but do it a couple of times a week for example. I guess there is no perfect formula so see how it goes. It does seem a bit of a strange thing to think about or discuss before you even have kids though! All plans go out of the window when it actually happens I'm sure.

I did feel a bit odd mentioning it at first, then especially on here but I thought that since we're starting to plan having children we should also think about how we're going to raise them also.

Thanks for the replies everyone, I'm showing them to my wife and she's itching to reply, but she's not replying on my account.

 

[mac1st3]

I have a 19month old daughter and it's something that we have talked about too. We also want eat around the table.

As sweets well the most she has is a fredo and she loves her fruit watermelon being one of them.

making them think fruit are sweets/a treat is a fantastic idea too, makes them want it more

 

[Missing.String]

I think you could balance the TV and table thing. Compromise is always good.

Also this is OcUK, so remember your child must receive regular beatings.