Parents Possibly Divorcing

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Hey,

Not entirely sure what to say really. My parents might be divorcing, which sounds bad, but it might certainly be for the best. There are always arguments in the house and it does have some sort of impact on my self and my brother. Basically my dad has fallen out with my mum's side of the family. And everything had led from there. I do worry about my dad considering he has delt with the problems for years. And he recently said that the only reason why he is still here is because of me and my brother.

Consideing the situation in the house, I haven't been thinking entirely straight and have not been working much.

My dad has been seeing a solicitor and am sure he will be going ahead with it. I am very curious to know how things will lead from now on.

How much did your parents aruging/divorce effect you?

Cheers.
 
Firstly, sorry it is happening to you, it is terrible to go through.

Just remember that it is not your fault, and everything will calm down eventually.

If you use msn messenger you could add me; I am not to up for divulging the ins and outs of my situation over the forum :)

Good luck, tell a couple of your friends about it and they should be able to help :)
 
Thanks.

Weirdly enough I tend not to tell many people my problems, it is just my personality. My only concern is what are the next stages and how does it effect us.
 
Yup, what he said ..... (Yewen)

dunno how old you are but there's never a good time!

Whatever "their" problems are, try to keep separate.

Kind regards.
 
my parents split up just before i started secondary school.. a whole 4 and a half years ago :eek: and tbh.. when i first heard the news i was upset but i had seen it coming and had truely hated living with the two of them. it was of course upsetting but i think the thought of relief overpowered it becuase i had felt it coming for a long time and it was a relief that i wouldnt have to endure the arguments all of the time. but now i have four families which means twice as much birthday money :cool: :p

but i am sorry it has happened to you :( but like me, it maybe a relief.
 
Yeh, their problems are just that, not yours.

Depends on your age really, but it is not the end of the world, and it certainly is not necissarily a bad thing if they have been going at it for a while.

I am like you with not giving out much info, only made one post along these lines and that was to do with a combination of the same thing + bullying!

Just is not as bad as it may appear to you, it is a terrible thing, but if it is what your parents feel that they must do, then it is there choice, not a easy one to make.

Mate's are a really important part now, and if there seems to be a family row brewing with your parents and you have younger brothers / sisters then take them out somewhere when you think it is about to kick off, even just to the local shop.

Depending on age it can be a lot worse, but everyone is human, and your parents when they sort it out I bet eventually will still be on talking terms. Just it is not your fault that anything happens, unless of course you were jumping around for 15 years asking them too :p
 
My parents handled their divorce in a very mature way. My mum told me all, she pulled no punches, and told me the whole thing about her affair with another man and that she no longer loved my dad.

I've always been quite detached from my emotions so I can't say I cared much about the divorce. Both parents where always out of the house anyway. So I noticed very little difference after the seperation.

I think the only way to deal with it is to accept that just because your parents are no longer together doesn't mean anything has changed between you and them. Parents will love their children more than they ever love each other. You won't suffer from this unless you let yourself suffer. Love your parents, ignore the relationship they have with each other.
 
Cheers guys. Well I don't show my emotions much at all. It is really hard not to take sides but I am glad, if they do, to go their seperate ways now. But I am very cross with my mum, not just at this stage but for awhile. Am 20 and I have certainly delt with many tough things throughout my life.



I just don't want things to turn out bad, for example, they have to sell the house, change everything etc. My only concern is the consequences if they did go through a divorce or a breakup.
 
Things do work out for the best; thing is you are there child and they will love ya either way, just because they don't get along does not mean they don't like you still.

You might just want to take things carefully and not take sides, if you can stay as far detached from the process as possible really, it is there issue and avoid getting dragged into it :)

(Sounds weird but it is about the only thing I say I regret when I had some issues, I got in the middle of it all and was not nice!)
 
triggerthat said:
Hey,

Not entirely sure what to say really. My parents might be divorcing, which sounds bad, but it might certainly be for the best. There are always arguments in the house and it does have some sort of impact on my self and my brother. Basically my dad has fallen out with my mum's side of the family. And everything had led from there. I do worry about my dad considering he has delt with the problems for years. And he recently said that the only reason why he is still here is because of me and my brother.

Consideing the situation in the house, I haven't been thinking entirely straight and have not been working much.

My dad has been seeing a solicitor and am sure he will be going ahead with it. I am very curious to know how things will lead from now on.

How much did your parents aruging/divorce effect you?

Cheers.
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I was only about 10, i didnt really know what was going on. I think it definately affected me though, if i was older it may have been worse, but they got remarried about 5 years later. That was 5 years ago, they now live in France together.

So, you never know
 
My parents are about to divorce but I've seen it coming for a long time so it's not a suprise. I don't really see it as a big issue though...
 
I know how you must feel mate, been there and got the t-shirt sadly. Try and keep your chin up. Also I found nothing worse then to be guessing about what was going to happen next. So make sure you talk to your parents about it and how your feeling, its good for everyone to talk about it. Most of all keep your chin up.
 
Sorry to hear that mate. As cliche as it sounds, it really is probably for the best. Sometimes though, some people just need a break from each other.

My parents have beat each other senseless for 21 years of my life. They split once but after a month they got back together.

As I've got older I've felt more and more responsible for them. If I've gone away I've been worried something might happen. They've put each other in hospital, they've had knives to each other and had the police round to remove one of them before now. It's not that bad these days but only becasue I'm old enough to stand in between them. It's like I have to babysit them sometimes.

You'd think I lived on a rough council estate or something but we live on a peacful out the way street in a peaceful village.

Their volatile outbursts have definitely rubbed off on me and It's taken me a while to manage them. I also feel like I've missed out as we never do much as a family and if we do its usually ruined by someone falling out over nothing.

the arguements are usually becasue of my dad. He behaves quite anally and he's never wrong but he's socially inept. We think he has Aspergers syndrome and he knows he's different but that dosen't stop conflicts.

Now and again I give my opinion to my parents about their behaviour and sometimes they agree, but it can also make things bad for yourself.
 
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