Quick wedding related question

DezUk · 12 Mar 2010 at 10:38

Me and my woman are getting married in St Lucia May and are having a reception/party to celebrate in June. We are just in the process of making up the wedding invites and had a question. Should the invites have my Mrs name with her maiden name or her new married name.

We have the married name down on them but we realised that when people receive the invite she will still have her maiden name but on the day of the reception she will have her married name. What is the proper official way of wording it?

Redgie · 12 Mar 2010 at 10:44

Miaden Name till married.

If she disagrees, smash her...wedding cake.

jamief · 12 Mar 2010 at 11:21

Normally the proper way of wording it should be

Mrs and Mrs <Her Surname> invite you to the wedding of their daughter <her> to mr <you>

POB · 12 Mar 2010 at 11:24

jamief said:
Normally the proper way of wording it should be

Mrs and Mrs <Her Surname> invite you to the wedding of their daughter <her> to mr <you>

What happens if she does not have lesbian parents?

PermaChanged · 12 Mar 2010 at 11:29

Then you've chosen the wrong woman.

a1ex2001 · 12 Mar 2010 at 11:32

jamief said:
Normally the proper way of wording it should be

Mrs and Mrs <Her Surname> invite you to the wedding of their daughter <her> to mr <you>

If you live in dark ages.

Rotty · 12 Mar 2010 at 11:32

jamief said:
Normally the proper way of wording it should be

Mrs and Mrs <Her Surname> invite you to the wedding of their daughter <her> to mr <you>

correct, well apart from the obvious error

batsy · 12 Mar 2010 at 11:32

Rotty · 12 Mar 2010 at 11:33

a1ex2001 said:
If you live in dark ages.

It's how I normally see them

Participant · 12 Mar 2010 at 11:54

a1ex2001 said:
If you live in dark ages.

Doing it properly ≠ dark ages.

a1ex2001 · 12 Mar 2010 at 11:58

Robbie G said:
Doing it properly ≠ dark ages.

It's not doing it properly it's doing it's following what the wedding industry tells you too like so much of the current rubish everyone does at vast expense. It seems hideously antiquated to me when you recieve a wedding invite from someones parents when you've know the couple in question for years and they've been living together for ages. The wedding industry in theis country is almost like a religion with the way it's managed to control peoples expectations and expenditure.

Participant · 12 Mar 2010 at 12:11

a1ex2001 said:
It's not doing it properly it's doing it's following what the wedding industry tells you too like so much of the current rubish everyone does at vast expense. It seems hideously antiquated to me when you recieve a wedding invite from someones parents when you've know the couple in question for years and they've been living together for ages. The wedding industry in theis country is almost like a religion with the way it's managed to control peoples expectations and expenditure.

Tradition means nothing to you, that's fine. I suppose you'd put something like 'alright pal, fancy coming to ma bash?'. If I received an invitation directly from the couple being married (which I have in the past) then unless their parents were dead or something, I would probably assume that they were ******.