Relationship Closure

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I split up from my gf of 3 and a half years a month ago, for various reasons.
One being she cheated on me, the other i knew deep down it wasn't right.
I still feel that way that it wasn't right and she's not right for me. She text me last night to say she was seeing someone else, which im happy for her.

But i can't seem to understand the way im feeling, its bizzare. Kinda like someone has stolen my sweets, suppose its just possesiveness (spelling!) or something but it just so wierd, being with that person for so long and then in an instant its gone. Now that she has found someone else it should be closure on the whole thing, but i still feel so wierd.

Its made harder by the fact we worked together and she cheated on me with someone from work, but that should make it easier shouldn't it?

anyone else been through this?

sorry for yet another relationship thread.
 
You lost your sweets now someone else is sucking them

Do you really wanna put them back in your mouth?

Think of it that way and get on with it :)
 
It means she has reached closure, which girls seem to manage ridiculously easily compared to guys.

You on the other hand probably need to get yourself happy being single, then happy with someone else to truly get closure. :)

It sucks, but it does get better!
 
Felt the same way when I split up with my GF while at uni, I just knew it was not right. We lived in the same house and for the first month or two it was hard but we both made an effort to remain friends.

After that year at uni she had a boyfriend and I felt exactly like you do now, I was happy that she found someone but at the same time felt strange. We also shared a house the year after and I'm glad to say after the first month or so things were fine, I knew it was right us splitting up and my feelings had changed for her.

Were now best friends and I wouldn't change what we have for the world.
 
its a reality check feeling that "this is it" she doesnt actually "belong" to you any more. you've finished that chapter of your life.. time to put the book back on the shelf ...and take down another, ready to start a new one
 
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