Relationship Itch

Sawell

Sawell

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Hey GD, I've missed you.

I'm intrigued about the relationship itch, if any of you get it. I've always been really over analytical and prone to changing my mind and as a result I've had this habit of breaking up with girls to check out different gardens and see if I can find greener grass. Not sure what it stems from, and not sure why I've not been able to just settle with what makes me happy until now. Perhaps my love of movies and too much application of it in the real world. My brother seems to do it too, but I definitely don't get it from him as I've not really known him in my life until recently. I hope it's not hard-coded DNA.

Do any of you do this? Or did you, and how long did it take you to slap yourself down to earth with prooven results?

I got back with my long term ex about a month ago after playing the single game, thankfully she took me back and I was an idiot for leaving her. I sampled different relationships and am a firm believer that I have a gem of a lady and I don't deserve her, and should try my utmost to ensure I don't lose her. But I'm beyond annoyed at myself for doing it in the first place, especially after having done it multiple times before. I want to say I'll never do it again, and I believe that right now. I've never cheated, and never would, I just seem to do this instead :|
 
Just make sure your ex-ex-GF doesn't realise she's too good for you if you think you're lucky to have her.
It doesn't mean you can shower her with roses everyday, but a suprise here and there to keep her happy wouldn't hurt. It could add spice to your life which you would never experience with greener grass (so to speak). This may keep you in check and sort your problem out as you'll have a vibrant and dynamic relationship.
 
Life is all about trying new things, meeting new people, learning from these things and mistakes that are made.

Keep in mind though, the other mans grass is always greener.

I've posted it before and I'll post it again;


Don't throw things away unnecessarily. If you're happy now, dont be a knob and wreck it for what if's and what may be's.
 
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as Ricochet said it's about keeping the spark in the relationship, with males in general they are scared of commitment due to the fact that when the honeymoon period has gone that they will loose interest/sex drive. what you must understand that breaking on/off with women you are loosing a great opportunity to be with someone special.

from experience relationships are not easy, so don't take this negatively but at the same time joyful, you will have ups & downs it's all part of living, the truth is though the grass isn't always greener on the other side. you can end up getting in a difficult situation that you cannot get out of.

surprise your women tonight, do a candle lit dinner, give her a massarge and show how much you mean to her, women don't normally forgive a person who has hurt them so count yourself lucky. i wish you all the best bud and keep smiling :)
 
Well, the chemicals in the brain that come with falling in love are fairly well documented.

Apparently we get fairly tolerant of the first of them (oxytocin maybe), and as time progresses eventually we don't have those in-love butterflies any more as the body can't produce enough to keep us high on it. Typically this tends to happen after 6-18 months, bringing us the end of the 'honeymoon period'!

Another chemical (known as the 'cuddle chemical' - it may be that this one is oxytocin and the one above should be something else) is one that is released after sex, and after having a baby, and gives us the bonding feeling that makes us want to nurse and look after each other - this is apparently more long-term.

I think when you're young you go through spikes of the former in-love chemical - you eventually come down off it, get bored, and unless there's something to keep you (maybe a kid, or some realisation you're 'lucky', or whatever else), you look elsewhere.

I found I got bored in relationships after 18 months. I've only been dumped once properly, that was after a year - so I was pretty upset by that one.

Current boyfriend though I've been with for... 22 months today! And still feel very lucky, and that I'd like to keep this one, no more. Done now.

I think once you've had a bit of experience, you begin to realise what's good for you - and learn to ride out the end of the honeymoon period. Not that it gets rubbish from then - just not that heart-a-flutter thumping distracted almost sickening rollercoaster from earlier times.

Mind you, I have an adopted uncle, whose relationship with his wife is wonderful - they have 4 boys, and they've had their low periods, but he honestly says they have re-fallen-in-love several times over the years. Occasionally something triggers all the wondrous butterflies all over again. Sounds brilliant.
 
Thanks for the words of wisdom guys, they're good to read.

And Skidder your signature has been making me clockwatch at work and fall asleep for the last two years so perhaps we can compromise, you change your signature and I'll not start another rap contest?!
 
Sawell said:
Thanks for the words of wisdom guys, they're good to read.

And Skidder your signature has been making me clockwatch at work and fall asleep for the last two years so perhaps we can compromise, you change your signature and I'll not start another rap contest?!
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Lolz what is that picture isn't it pablo picaso or something :D
 
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