Renting with a partner

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How long as it been before you have decided to move in with a partner?

I've been with my partner for 4 months now and have decided to have a go at renting a place and seeing how it goes, does this sound like a good move or is it too soon?

I'm 22 and live at home still but work full time and my g/f is 19 and is a student nurse and lives at home.

Surely its up to me as to whether it is the right time or not... Just get fed up of the "aggro" you get off some family members saying "its too soon".
 
Me and my boyfriend moved in together after a year but his mam kicked me out after another year. When I get my own flat hes gonna move in with me and get a job where I live
 
An older and wiser man once offered me some advice (in hindsight, sadly) that if you rent a house with a partner with no commitments IE no mortgage, children or marriage then you probably will split up as one of you is likely to walk when times get tough. And from what I've seen in the years since then, he was right. Sorry for sounding negative.
 
3.5 Years and we still don't live together, although we spend every night together. She'll be finished her masters in a month and we're emigrating together so circumstance is perhaps not the same as with you.
 
mame said:
An older and wiser man once offered me some advice (in hindsight, sadly) that if you rent a house with a partner with no commitments IE no mortgage, children or marriage then you probably will split up as one of you is likely to walk when times get tough. And from what I've seen in the years since then, he was right. Sorry for sounding negative.
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Very very true

I moved in with my partner after a year been living together now for 2 years
 
Moved in with my girlfriend after 10 months. We had however been close friends for well over 6years. Been living in Hertford for just nearly a year now and everything is perfect! Following that we got a cat which was quite a commitment, it's like our child so the next step is buying our own place. Go for it. So long as your relationship is solid/stable and you have a future together there is little reason not to.
 
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Thanks for the advice guys, we all make our own decisions and mistakes and I think now is the time to have a go at it and see how it goes. :)
 
Well I moved in with my partner after about 5-6 months, and I've had to put up with her for about 30 miserable years, so don't fall into the trap!
 
DampCat said:
3.5 Years and we still don't live together, although we spend every night together. She'll be finished her masters in a month and we're emigrating together so circumstance is perhaps not the same as with you.
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Pretty much identical.

I Really don't like being negative but that's the question you asked. The only other thing I'll add is that, in my experience, a 22 year old man doesn't change all that much in the next few years but a 19 year old woman can become a completely new/different person in the next couple of years. And I don't mean in a bad way.

There is no right or wrong answer as everyone is different. I've had girlfriends where I haven't put the commitment in and regretted it later. The main one being an 18 year old girl when I was 26. As much as we got on great in everyway, I just let the age gap hold me back (probably because of what I just said) and I should made a go of it so there isn't a right answer.
 
There is no standard for it, its when you both feel its time. My girlfriend moved in after 6 months. We've been together over 2 1/2 years now and it works great. If its gonna work it will work, my ex of 5 years I couldnt live with for a week on holiday let alone a full time thing.
 
Depends on the doris really, But I am the Last person to ask/give relationship advice. :D
Post some pics & we'll have a much better idea.
 
i guess its what feels right to you, i've never lived with anyone, but then finding a girlfriend is a big enough challenge at the moment for me! However, i'd advise that if you do, that you are capable of covering the rent for a couple of months if the worst happens and you split as you don't want to be stuck living together when you don't want to due to financial reasons (having seen that with friends and what it did to them)
 
I'd been with my girlfriend for nearly 5 years before we rented together. Tbh we were probably ready for it a few years before then it just wasn't an option. I'd say any less than a year wouldn't be enough time as a rule of thumb, however every couple is different and only you can decide whether it's right or not.
 
How about getting her to rent the house in her name & then you just crashing round there 7 nights a week for nowt. That way you can hit the credit cards & when you bail they'll chase her not you. :D
 
I don't think I would start renting with someone so early on in a relationship. At that stage you're really still getting to know each other and living together is a big step. I pretty much lived with my ex and his parents after a few months but it was very different to living on our own - it wasn't a real commitment and it was very much still his parents home.
 
I think it's down to you really

IMO 5 months is a little soon, at least for me, but one of my friends moved in with his girlfriend after about 5 months (they practically lived together in her apartment after about a month!) and all's going well nearly a year on

Some of my other friends have been going out for a few years though before moving in - there's never really a 'right point' so to speak

I do think it could be trickier for you as you both live with your parents - it's always different living away from home and in some ways it might be nice to try that first with friends before moving in together

Anyway, good luck! :)
 
i met my partner in the month july an by november we were living togather, now happily married and have been togather for a number of years, so if you feel its right i say go for it. and good luck with it :)
 
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