I have the same kit, also with a 3600X, and run it at 3600C16 1.35V (likes 1.32V too) and with a tRFC of 345.
Ran the kit at 3.8something briefly, though de-coupled from the IF (at 3.6G). Don't recall what I used for tRFC, but probably somewhere around the 360 mark.
IIRC tRFC/2 and tRFC/4 are not used at all by the Ryzen Memory controller. You can ignore them.
If you're seeing erratic/non-linear performance scaling, it could be that you're on the verge of IF stability and data-transfers are failing/being re-sent.
Not sure if the data portion of AMD's IF is packet based with error control, though some parts of AMD's IF system definitely are.
Not something I've noticed myself, since IF @ 3.8G on my chip didn't POST at all without tinkering so never bothered going higher than 3.6G, but have read user reports of high IF causing erratic performance scaling.