Second Life Ruined my Marriage!!..

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Simian

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Well, we were split up anyway!... Just living in the same house waiting for it to sell (fat chance at the moment!)..

I dunno if this is more embarrassing for me or her!!, The fact that our marriage split due to no intervention from a third party or the fact that she's now 'Humping' some random yank in cyberspace!!... :mad:

Dunno if you guys have seen 'Second Life'!.. Its.. well a Second life in Cyberspace where you can escape, shop, get a job, dance.. etc... Anyhew!..

Basically yesterday night she told me she's got friendly with some random yank in second life, his avatar is Tall (8 or 9 foot tall), Dark, and hansom (how stereotypical :rolleyes:).. She's spent the last week (she's on holiday) online in SL for about 8 hours a day sometimes more!... Chatting, Playing Mah-jong, and buying clothes, Shoes and skins!...

She say's they're only chatting and flirting!.

Well Yesterday I didn't see her at all... She was online from 6am (I went to work about 7ish)... and she was still going when I got home at 6pm..

The Door was open a crack (one of the cats was in there with her) and I could see her (her avatar) Dancing with said random!... Later that night passing the room she was in a boat cuddling with him... then Later Kissing in a field of roses... then more dancing!.. All the while furiously typing.

So I went to bed feeling very jealous and angry!.. I still love her very much and this hurt like hell!! (no I'm not some love sick puppy teen I'm 35!).

At about 1:20ish I needed a pee so I got up, and walking past the study she was still typing away but the screen behind appeared blank.. then a toned/tanned back-side came into view.. pumping up and down.. the picture revealed itself with her underneath and him on top pumping away laying on a beach whilst they were both typing!!... She went to bed about 1:45ish and I dunno what went on in her room after that!, but the cats came running out of there quite frightened!!..

Chatting and Flirting Pah!! :mad:..

Strange thing is.. Last Sunday, She wanted to stop the separation, Get back together!.. We BOTH only needed to work at it!!... Great work there!!.. 4 day's into patching things up!..

I'm the most angry I've been since this whole thing started 3 months ago!... She asked me the other day 'Do you Hate me?" to which I answered "No!.. Don't be silly!"... I think my answer now would be a resounding "YES!.." :o

4 Years of Marriage down the tubes for a (Very Sad) Fling with some Random Yank (Who's Probly either a 12 year old kid or some 30 stone Hairy 50 year old Geek still living with his parents!) in Cyberspace!..

Sim:(
 
~J~ said:
I'm just confused over this!!! You were split up anyway, so your wife (who I admit does need some help!!) is carrying on with her life doing what she wants but you're blaming the breakdown of your marriage over this, which you claim was over anyway.

What am I missing?
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hamesy said:
My thoughts exactly. This is slightly confusing and I can't work out if this is real or just wind up.
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Nope its not a wind-up!... :(

We're in the process of the '2 Year Separation with consent' which is a damn sight cheaper than 'Unreconcilable Differences' and easier than 'Adultery'... Plus were still living in the same house (albeit different bedrooms) till its sold!!..

But as I said on Sunday, she seemed to be wanting to get back together.. She thought she'd made a mistake!.. we were back in the same bed, doing things together, just like before!, then... BAM!... She goes and does this!...
 
~J~ said:
So prior to this "SL incident", you or her (you haven't said which) had commited Adultery?

If it's her, then sorry, but she's got a problem being faithful. Hard to accept, easier said than done, but do you really want a marriage to someone who you can't trust?
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Nope!... There was no 'Third Party Involvement'.. http://forums.overclockers.co.uk/showthread.php?t=17902567&highlight=username_simian it was just (as my solicitor called it) 'Unreconcilable Differences'.. but they (the courts) don't do that any more! its 'Unreasonable Behaviour' which I've not been, and as she's the one who's petitioning for devorce its got to be me thats 'Unreasonable' (even though its blatantly her!), so its 2 year separation!..
 
mcast123 said:
It's got nothing to do with second life (sounds like a cut and paste from some sensationalist media headline anyway). "If" this is true, the relationship was already over and she was looking for someone else anyway.

Why does the sound exactly like a documentary I was watching a few weeks ago :rolleyes:

I call your story BS.
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Cheers Mate!... Come round I'll introduce you to her!..

Cuchulain said:
Your wife prefers a faceless being who in real life could look like Geoff Capes rear end to you ... If it was me, I wouldn't admit this in public.
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Thats sort of what I said above!... Though I think its more embarrassing for her!!
 
Peño said:
LOL!

This has got to be a wind up because it's written so well with the right doses of humour!

Good read. :D
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Fraid not!...

I've recently been on a 'Creative Writing Course' which helps with my Dyslexia (sort of)!... I can now put my thoughts down on paper (or screen) better than I used to be able to!

I'm just feeling a bit depressed!... She dangled a carrot on Sunday and now she's sharpened it and rammed it straight through my heart again!.. :(
 
Mammalian said:
why? she needs help and you think this is it? yuo'd be acting out in revenge which is really unfair. As her husband or ex husband i'd have thought you'd be more caring then this and actually try helping her. tbh although she pretended to have sex with a stranger so maybe this means she wants to in real life, she didn't actually have sex with anyone. how is this any different from say reading a naughty book. heck i shoot bad guys all the time, if i had become addicted to it i'd hope my gf would offer help not leave me for being a murderer
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If anyone can get through to her.. They can!.. I'm having no luck
 
Emlyn_Dewar said:
You should sign up to Second Life and confront your wife online, you might hit it off again.
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I did a long time ago!... Never made it off of the Orientation Island!... Got Bored... Veeeeeeeeery Bored!... Its like life but easily editable!... wheres the fun in that!..

Plus we've only got one PC that'll run it!... and she's hogging that one!
 
Hedge said:
You tried taking her out for meals or anything when you get in from work?

maybe do something to drag her off the computer and show more interest in you?

i spent ages on the pc.. far too long, but my lass could always drag me off if she was in her sussies!
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Yep.. I've tried: Food.. TV.. Cinema.. The Cats.. Even ME (Which is a bit desperate in our marital circumstances!)...

Nowt.. She won't even answer the flippin phone when it rings.. even though its within arms reach in the study for her.. and in a completely different room from 'My' Bedroom!...

I'm just thinking Monday, when she's back at work'll be a bit of a strain for her if she has to be away from him!!...

If she throws a sickie I'll have to inform her boss!... (thats how annoyed/desperate I am now!).. I know I'll not get her back!, but She can't rot in cyberspace!... its like a bad Red Dwarf parody... Better than Better than Life!!..

Heres how sad its got within the last hour!... She's actually signed up for the Full subscription bit!... 'You can earn Money and doo loads more things'... is £6quid a month FFS!!!...

I'm spending the weekend at my Parents... even though I have to sleep on the floor, its still much more comfortable than at home!!...
 
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Jez said:
I still don't see it, its a computer and the guy is miles away. And they were split up anyway sleeping in separate rooms.

In any event she sounds like a nutcase for spending so much time on it.
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When she was just sitting 'cuddling with him watching the ocean, they were both furiously typing/chatting to each other... the same when on the boat, even when they were snogging in the rose field!... she didn't seem to be looking at the screen much during any of it... till the incedent at 1:30am... when she typed a little... the stared at the screen for a minute or so with a 'gooey' look on her face, typed a bit more, more staring... the he got off her.. they both stood up... He dressed and teleported away, leaving her standing there naked! (what a class act!!)... thats when she shut down the program... went to her bedroom... and a buzzing sound proceded to be coming from her room!...

I went back to bed very angry, and crying a little!... :(

I'm now pushing our estate agent to try and sell quicker (not an easy thing) and I'm going to speak to my Solicitor this week!...

I'm past the angry stage... I confronted her on Friday, and told her my thoughts.. and said that When (not if) he dumps her, it could be next week.. month or in 6 months time but he will find a new bit of pixelated skirt whos easier and not so needy!!... I'm not going to be a shoulder to cry on anymore!...

I still can't get the sight (pixels or not) of some other guy having sex on a beach with my wife (she's still leagally my wife!! and I sort of still love her!!)... Ive not been able to sleep much due to this vision appearing in my mind every time I close my eyes!! :mad:

and NO THIS ISN'T A MADE UP STORY!!!... IT'S ACTUALLY HAPPENING!!.. :(
 
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I can't destroy to PC as its the only one of any worth in the house!!... I'm currently on my old laptop that she's been using for emails...

I've just found some very disturbing photo's HE's sent her email!... and a nice video of him pleasuring himself!... :mad:

They were in the waste basket on the desktop... she forgot to empty it!!...

I'm phoning my Solicitor tomorrow!!!... :o

Does anyone know the IP address's of second life's servers?... I'm gonna block em on my router!!...
 
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