Seriously feeling Down in the Dumps!..

[Simian]

Sorry about this guys.. its not really a relationship thread.. but I need a bit of cheering up!..

About a month ago the wife (of 1 month short of 4 years marriage) turned round to me and said "Its not working!"... "I can't see where its going!".. "We've been arguing a lot!".. "I've had to put my life on hold to run yours!!"...

The last comment felt like she had kicked me in the nuts and kept kicking whilst laughing like a hyaena!..

Basically when we met.. I helped get her back on a steady financial footing (paid off a few of her debts), Got her to the Doctors and Dentist to sort out a few things she was suffering from.. and I helped her get a new job as the old one was killing her (see all the above other stuff I helped her with)... So I actually put my life on hold to run hers!!!.. not, as she said, the other way round!!..

I thought all the above was the definition of 'Marriage'!!.

I've sort of come to terms with it over the last month.. Its inevitable.. its no good trying to change her mind!.. We're trying to stay friends (well I am) and sorting it out amicably (selling the house, paying off debts... etc), and were going for the 2 year seperation deal!! (cheaper!!)

People have asked me if there's a 3rd party!... now until this morning I always replied...

"She goes out less than me, and I only go out twice a month, when she stays in!.. So unless she's either doing it then or at work!.. I don't think so!"

But this morning (well from last night) she's getting more distant, and then in the car this morning (yes I know I still drop her off at work!).. Her phone rang and she (turning her head away from me) answered and said "I'm in the car".. I heard a blokes voice and she hung up!...

From then I've not been feeling great!, I've got that 'Gut Rumbling' feeling of sickness and I've not as yet said anything to any of my co-workers today, I'm just keeping to my self in my corner!...

Do you recon I'm blowing this mornings phone call out of proportion.. or am I wrong about the 3rd party involvement!!...

I'm a 34 year ol bloke and I just want to cry!..

Cheers
Simon.

 

[Simian]

I still Love Her!.. if she's got someone else (either already or in the near future), Its gonna be hard for me!..

..What's the two year separation deal?

Divorce only comes in 4 flavours:

1, Adultery - Speaks for its self!.. - VERY expensive (upto £15,000 each in some cases!).

2, Unreasonable Behaviour - Can't do 'Unreconcilable Differences' any more.. this is its replacement, its the easy way out - Not as Expensive (about £2-4K each!!).

3, 2 Year Separation - Note the Date of 'Separation' and 2 years down the line a Judge 'Rubber Stamps' the Papers - Quite Cheap (about £500 each).

4, 5 Year Desertion - Think 'Canoe Man' in the news recently!..

 

[Simian]

..The other option the discussed was to sell the home, clear all debts, regardless of who they belonged to, as even though the debt was in her name, or his, they both technically during their marriage contributed to it. Whatever was left they split equally...

This is exactly what we're doing!. Once its sold and we're clear we're going our separate ways.. me with the Cats!.. Her on her own!.. we don't have Kids!

We've made lists, got them made official.. its just time now!.

Thanks for the offers of an impartial ear (to all who offered) I might actually take you up on em!!..

I've done a few weekends at me parents and sisters.. but its too far to commute to work to stay any longer!. She's up in Whitby this weekend (till Wednesday) so I've got 4 Days to my self (well and the Cats)..

I'm looking at joining a Gym or doing some Ti-Chi/tek-won-do or summut to get fit in the near future too!!..

Cheers Guys.

 

[Simian]

is that the wife on your website? the one with glasses? ready for a close up?

I just noticed the wedding anniversary excerpt on the front page of his site, with the picture of them two on their wedding day.

Yep Thats her!!.. Must get round to Editing my Website!! Gotta remove all that crap now!!..

found that after i posted lol i just cliked photos rather than myWEBBIE lol pick ya self up matey, your a handsome looking chap, you can do far better

You're making me blush (at least I'm feeling a little happier now!!)

Cheers Guys!..

Just gotta get back to building my confidence around women again!.