She is logged into the console? I applied a "WinXP Concurrent RDP Session" hack to my WinXP install and it allows me to RDP into the box as myself while she is logged in as herself (console). I wouldnt say I am doing anything CPU intensive when it happens but for instance if I am using an application and minimise it the movie she may be watching stutters for just an instance, but its enough to annoy her.
System is pretty beefy. A8N32-SLI, Opty 148 @ 2.9ghz, 2gb ram, 7800GTX. Should be able to handle what I am doing if you ask me, but Im no expert anyway.