Sexual remarks at work

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I'll keep this short, I had a safety training session. Hosted by a middle age slightly overweight woman. Lovely lady, funny and really helpful. In the training was the trainer, 1 young girl and 2 young guys and my self (guy).

However, throughout the training (medical equipment safety procedures) she would make 'sexual remarks' meant as jokes.

"Always take your belts off to enter the MRI scanner otherwise it will be pulled off, by the MRI scanner or me"

"In case of fire, press said button, firemen will turn up with big hoses and make all the ladies happy"

And even something about making men strip to their underwear in some situation and how she enjoyed it.

Multiple remarks like the above intended with tongue in cheek humour. The girl laughed at most but us guys felt properly awkward and a guy even said he did to me after.

Now, reverse the roles, put a middle ages fat man making remarks about young girls getting naked and he'd have his P45 before his next cup of tea.

I want to complain but don't think it's worth the effort as it's 'banter' and 'humour'.

Thoughts?
 
[TW]Fox;27660096 said:
Was it really that big a deal? Or is this a whole ISNT SOCIETY UNJUST WOE IS ME kinda thing?
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Kind of the latter, I work in IT so banter is most needed. I'm just confused as to why men can't make such remarks in the work place but women can. If they can throw the banter, why can't they take it?
 
I think I should state, I'm not offended. As a few of you are getting a little worked up bless ya lol.

I'm simply stating it was awkward and if I had returned the banter in similar fashion. I'd not have received a welcome response I don't think.

I'm curious about complaining because I don't know if it's the right thing or not.

Obviously not going by this lot.
 
Maeve said:
She sounds like she has repressed sexual energy. Either that or she thinks it's what people want to hear and find amusing.

But if you want to complain you should. It was definitely inappropriate. It sounds like you're afraid you will appear petty or uptight. But the truth is she was out of order and as it's in a workplace, it should be addressed. The point made about if it was a male making the remarks is worth considering too.
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Thanks, I kind of abandoned this thread as everyone looked past the if it's right or wrong and just went straight for my throat stating I want to complain for the sake of it etc.

I've not bothered as it's not warranted, but I still find the workplace unfair in terms of 'sexual harassment'. As a man, we have to sit back and just listen to what ever awkward jokes/remarks are made, but the other way round it's a much more serious matter.

Just ****es me off really. If the banter is fine both ways, get stuck in! Have a laugh and throw innocent flirting around. But when it's not fine, both sexes need to keep a lid on it.

Oh, and the fact I'm not offended by the comments she made, sure it was bloody awkward, but I'm not easily or if at all offended. It's the nature of the comments that raised concern for me.
 
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