Shorts and no tie at a wedding?

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Wedding coming up this weekend. My partner's ex boss is getting married. I'm not part of the ceremony but will be there for both the ceremony and the reception.

The last wedding I went to was in summer 2019, during a heatwave. To avoid heatstroke I made a last minute decision to ditch the suit trousers, shirt and tie, and instead wore smart shorts, plain white t shirt, suit jacket and suede boating type shoes. It was lovely and comfortable, a number of people said I looked very dapper (unusual for me because I'm NOT fashionable at all) and I had sweaty people coming up to me in morning suits saying they'd do anything to be wearing what I was wearing.

I'm contemplating wearing similar attire on Saturday, but.. we'll be there all day, not just the reception but the ceremony too. It's quite a fancy venue and the married couple to be are devout Catholics, but, on the other hand, it's just my partner's ex boss getting married and I'm just going because my partner wants to go.

What shall I do?

Suited and booted or shorts and t shirt?
 
FoxEye said:
Explain, without using the word "tradition", why a suit and tie is the only acceptable dress for X. Or words that are akin to "custom", "tradition", "expected", etc.

That's literally the only reason.

I find it weird that nobody challenges this. Well, a few people do, but by far the majority just go along with it.

Despite everybody I know *hating* dressing up in a suit, because suits are some of the least comfortable attire known to man.

Why should you hate what you wear at an occasion like this?

Meh, humans.

e: Also women get to wear whatever they like, really, in any colour, yet the blokes have to wear a dark grey or black suit. Bonkers. Pure bonkers pure tradition.
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I couldn't agree more. I've checked the invite and there is no dress code on the invite (but there is a request for money rather than gifts and the married couple-to-be have kindly included their account number and sort code to facilitate this).

What about progress?

What about the last wedding, where literally ten + people came up to me saying they wish they were in shorts and no tie.
I wonder if any of them have considered ditching the suit at a wedding? I know it was a heatwave last time but necessity is the mother of invention. It certainly won't be cold next week.

What if I wanted to turn up dressed as a woman in a flowery dress, painted nails and full make up? Would I be shot down in flames for wanting to identify as a woman that day? If I were it would end up in the local news.

Get a grip folks, it's the 21st century, we're no longer walking around in a Tudor neck ruffe because someone decided to go against the norm.
 
Thanks everyone for your comments and sharing your experiences. If a mod agreed to change the username of @Dis86 to "Multiple premium vehicles" I'd wear anything to the wedding, even just a pair of pants and, if a top revenue earner can spare it for the day, a Gucci belt :)
 
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