Should I leave 2 friends or stay?

[simsons2335]

I’m struggling to know weather to end friendship with 2 friends, who have been friends over 10 years, how do I decide, the problem is if I end it I will be a lonely and nothing too look forward too, especially weekends, I’ve tried making new friends haven’t been a let, if I don’t end it I will have to continue to put up with disrespect and rudeness etc

I have ended it in the past and always gone back, due to loneliness and not be able to find anyone else, I connect with.

Both are unemployed, they just live of their family(who are not rich, but comfortable) but generally smart, can answer anything and create conversations out of anyway


I really can’t decided as you shouldn’t really leave friends because you have a disagreement.


Friend 1: Tries to tell me what to wear so I look better.

Will just speak his mind like idiot clumsy etc, and says this how he speaks to everyone

Will swear when you say something negative, he says its wrong but it works, and he’s had loads of friends and only 5 he’s had to swear to so who the problem him or me.

Gets annoyed if you stingy.

His positives are he’s really interesting and will pick you up and drop you home and we connect.


Friend 2: when he’s certain he’s right I was expected to have the same opinion as the friend or he would get angry and pout until I backed down and agreed with him. He lecture and harangue me because I disagree with him, and have them try to verbally beat me into submitting and admitting that they are right, and that their opinion is the right one.And he will win as he’s more persistent and better at arguing.

When I ask him about it he said it was his passion that’s why, for example if he saw someone driving of a cliff, he would not calmly say stop, then says don’t worry about how I say it. then he was why you brought it all up now.(the reason I did I find it hard to disagree with him, how much he goes into it if I do, but sometime I just have to say something), then he goes next time tell me there and then im open to criticisms, but he says that and when i disagree with him and told toi calm down he was saying he was calm and then sent me bellow message a w eek laeter

Then after that because I told him to calm down and didn’t agree with him or back down like I usually do etc, and didn’t back down this as normal, as he thinks whatever you want from a girl sleep with them go out with them don’t waste time just tell them asap.

He sent me a message saying I was low key rude, and transgresses him and not to contact him again,
I didn't see the message and did contact him, and he just talk normally to me.

Postives: will always give me advice, if I ask for it, can have really good advice, when he is right. I get along with him, hes normally a cool understanding guy other then when you don’t agree with him

The first friend I find it easier to stand up for myself 2nd friend not so dont know why.

 

[simsons2335]

I am not a bit just want to stay anonymous.


The reason it’s long, is I want to cover all bases before I leave and this time will not go back if I do


There postive and negative influence.


Positives being I’ve been to theme parks gona out at night had a lot of fun

Tell me what to say to my crush because I don’t have a clue.

Having friends give me motivation to do things even alone when I don’t have any it’s hard because I don’t have anyone to tell or fallback on


Negatives being them telling me what to do and if I don’t do it getting upset.

Sometimes wrong advice I’ve took like telling my crush I like her too early, give her a present on Easter etc

But really good advice too on what to say etc at other times.

When they be rude or argue I feel like why did I even meet


I wish I could find a wife, that would help with friends situation no end.


I like doing things alone and do a lot of things alone but sometimes I want to meet friends chat have f

 

[simsons2335]

Hades - how do I politely explain, I have told them in a normal way none of them said they’rewill stop they just justify it


Arknor - nope never take money from me,

No not really I’m not the most confident though.


I’m in my early thirties and so are by 2 mates.



Potatolord - I dont conflict I always try to avoid conflict, and I just disagree when there mad and rude I have to say why.


I have other friends who give me advice, and try and persuade me, I’m fine with that as they don’t force me

 

[simsons2335]

Apex - That’s the best suggestion I’ve heard so far, however even if I meet them now and again, what would I do in below situations


Friend 1: try’s to spend to much time with me….

If he swears at me?

if he tells me what clothes etc and gives me a long lecture on it.


Friend 2:

Lucky He doesn’t call me that much anymore.

Even when I meet a call him what if he, says something I don’t agree with at he try’s to pressure me to agree, and if I still don’t will raise his voice(not shout), swear (not at me), and try and make me feel dumb.



Yes everyone has faults but not like these 2, I have had other friends in past where I have no problem with their faults, I’ve seen other friends lots in past didn’t have problems with them and they had faults.

 

[simsons2335]

Surely this kind of thing happens a lot. Surely multiple times a day we're all with people that say something rather stupid and they ask 'You know what I mean?' or 'Don't you think?'. Don't you just nod and smile and move on. Are the points that important you need to argue about them?


when he’s certain he’s right I was expected to have the same opinion as the friend or he would get angry and pout until I backed down and agreed with him.
He lecture and harangue me because I disagree with him, and have them try to verbally beat me into submitting and admitting that they are right, and that their opinion is the right one.
I can’t agree with things he say when I totally disagree, for example always tell a girl how you feel straight away marraige or sleep with her etc don’t waste time.
Espicllay the way he says it it’s a fact etc with such a strong passionate tone.
Can’t really have a friendship and agree to everything he’s certain about.


Now, I've never been married... but if you're not sure you like your friends telling you what to think... this might not be the best route for you

lol, it’s the way and how people say it, other people tell me I have no problem just these 2



I guess I'll just ask. Why are there so many errors in your English?

not that good at English,