Two years ago I went through a painful divorce from a four years long marriage that turned sour. My ex and her parents were very manipulative and abusive in certain ways that turned my life a living hell.
After the divorce I enjoyed quite a bit of freedom. I was careless. Being on and off employed, doing short term jobs was what's keeping me occupied. I blew all the money I had earned.
About a year ago I have met my current girlfriend. She has brought me love and helped me pulling my life back on track.
However, in recent month I noticed a change in my previous laid back personality. I would get agitated very easily especially towards my girlfriend, whom I considered to be very close to me. I often have a very negative attitude towards things, which would affect and hurt my girlfriend. I am pretty surprised that at times when I couldn't control my agitation or anger, I actually had a conscious section in my head. I knew what I was doing, but I could not hold myself back.
Overtime, I had realized what's causing all these, after my life seems to be stable now. The failed marriage that, whenever I recall any memory from it would had my teeth grind in anger.
I think I really need some help. I tried to reason with myself, and tried to control my anger but it is still happening on a daily basis.
Apologies for this long read. It actually took me two and half years to muck up the courage to ask this question.
Any thought or if anyone with similar experience would like to give me some pointers would be greatly appreciated.
tl,dr: I think I'm ****** up after a failed marriage 2 years ago, now I become abusive myself. I'm lost I don't know where to seek help.
After the divorce I enjoyed quite a bit of freedom. I was careless. Being on and off employed, doing short term jobs was what's keeping me occupied. I blew all the money I had earned.
About a year ago I have met my current girlfriend. She has brought me love and helped me pulling my life back on track.
However, in recent month I noticed a change in my previous laid back personality. I would get agitated very easily especially towards my girlfriend, whom I considered to be very close to me. I often have a very negative attitude towards things, which would affect and hurt my girlfriend. I am pretty surprised that at times when I couldn't control my agitation or anger, I actually had a conscious section in my head. I knew what I was doing, but I could not hold myself back.
Overtime, I had realized what's causing all these, after my life seems to be stable now. The failed marriage that, whenever I recall any memory from it would had my teeth grind in anger.
I think I really need some help. I tried to reason with myself, and tried to control my anger but it is still happening on a daily basis.
Apologies for this long read. It actually took me two and half years to muck up the courage to ask this question.
Any thought or if anyone with similar experience would like to give me some pointers would be greatly appreciated.
tl,dr: I think I'm ****** up after a failed marriage 2 years ago, now I become abusive myself. I'm lost I don't know where to seek help.
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