So do lesbians just need the right man?

spudbynight · 20 Sep 2011 at 14:54

OK - first up this isn't some thread where I want to talk about salacious tittle tattle. This is something I just read that got me thinking.

'Chaz' Bono appeared at the weekend on Dancing With The Starts, the US version of Strictly. I found this piece online just now about his sex change.

What caught me off guard was his fiancee present at his first sex change operation. Now she met Chaz as a lesbian and fell in love. Now, as far as Chaz is concerned, he is a man. Does that mean his fiancee is no longer a lesbian? Does it mean she doesn't view him as a man? It really has scrambled my noodle.

spudbynight · 20 Sep 2011 at 14:57

Before anyone else sticks it in

spudbynight · 20 Sep 2011 at 15:05

Rusty_Noob said:
What confuses me is the lesbians who also cross dress, are they attracted to females who look like men or, like the majority of hetrosexual males, attracted to normal looking females?

I can get my head around that. I mean if Rule 24 teaches us anything it is that there are all sorts out there.

What puzzles me is the change. I mean his fiancee has effectively gone from gay to straight.

spudbynight · 20 Sep 2011 at 15:10

Rusty_Noob said:
From what I remember Chaz hasn't had a full sex change operation though, just HRT, style change and a hair cut.

Have a click o' the link. It shows an interview piece. Yes, he has only had his "top" done so far. However he views himself now as a man and does hope to have a penis at some stage.

The point remains that his fiancee fell in love with another lesbian. Now, the goal posts are changing somewhat.

She now either

(a) Doesn't believe he is actually a man and what sort of basis is that for a long term relationship?

or

(b) Believes he is now a man and that means she is no longer a lesbian????

spudbynight · 20 Sep 2011 at 15:11

Metalface Mark said:
Maybe she swung both ways so it didnt really matter? You love the person not the body, I would say a lot of guys like thin girls and thats what they like but they dont dump their wives when she puts on ten stone.

Well, put it another way. How many guys on here would still stay with their wife/girlfriend if they had a sex change and became a man?

spudbynight · 20 Sep 2011 at 15:12

Spikey Willow said:
Quick and dirty answer

Keep it clean please.

spudbynight · 20 Sep 2011 at 15:16

RDM said:
Difficult one to answer to be honest. I love my wife very deeply so I don't think it would be quite as easy as "Sorry hun, you are a bloke now, I'm not interested." The accumulated love and feelings of 16 years of marriage is still there after all.

I know, so if you stayed with your wife who now called him/herself Steve and had a penis would that make you gay?

I just spotted this as well

spudbynight · 20 Sep 2011 at 15:19

Metalface Mark said:
I imagine a lot less going from woman to man that would going from man to woman.

So if you married this

and then you were married to this

how would you feel?

spudbynight · 20 Sep 2011 at 15:22

Metalface Mark said:
I cant see much difference really, neither are attractive sexually.

Would I be happy if my partner had a sex change to a man? Of course I wouldnt, Ive only been with her 18 months, I was with my wife 17 years though, and had she did it, obviously it would change things massively, but it would certainly explain a few things

Well Chaz's fiancee is only with him since 2009 which is what really puzzles me.

spudbynight · 20 Sep 2011 at 16:57

RDM said:
The bear community would suggest otherwise. In fact a friend of mine who is gay and a bear doesn't really get effeminate gay men. He is sexually attracted to men not men pretending to be women.

I can get my head around all sorts of things. I just struggle to get my head around the change.

spudbynight · 20 Sep 2011 at 21:44

Zefan said:
The guy who made that is an old mate of mine. Not all of his cartoons are quite so quirky!

I love Harry Partridge stuff