So I've been offered no strings...

PiKe · 13 Oct 2009 at 15:34

From my ex gf, we still see each other once a week to see a film but purely on a friend basis, today she has suggested that maybe we should become 'buddies', neither of us are seeing anyone or getting any, and we know we're 'clean'.

I'm thinking it's not exactly wise but lets hear your opinions, maybe you've been in a similar situation?

Please try to refrain from any pastries.

PiKe · 13 Oct 2009 at 15:40

Chimerical said:
its only to gloat

It's not that at all, I'm not the kind of person to gloat, I just want genuine honest advise.

PiKe · 13 Oct 2009 at 15:47

[TW]Fox;15085177 said:
LOOK EVERYONE I AM HAVING SEX is what he's actually posting.

But he fails because most people here are having sex AND its meaningful, so gloat denied

Well played.

PiKe · 13 Oct 2009 at 15:51

Gaijin said:
Obvious "I've got no strings humpo on tap" thread is obvious.

Would be quality if we could find out who this girl is and tell her. Where's Tefal when you need him?

She already knows...

PiKe · 13 Oct 2009 at 15:54

Musty Pie said:
I smell fear ....

I fear nothing... except OcUK dons.

PiKe · 13 Oct 2009 at 16:04

Kristoph said:
Do it.

Is that what a ninja would do?

PiKe · 13 Oct 2009 at 16:59

LOAM said:
There's no such thing as a free lunch, she either wants you back or she needs some shelves putting up after.

Not shelves no, she did mention cobwebs though, she's scared of spiders.

PiKe · 14 Oct 2009 at 00:47

Was me that ended it as I'd fallen out of love with her and certain things she says/does get on my nerves. It must have only been a month since splitting I guess.

PiKe · 14 Oct 2009 at 11:58

skolem said:
So...

- You ended what sounds like a fairly serious relationship
- You still see her every week 1 on 1
- It has only been a month since it 'ended'

To me it sounds like you have broken up with her, not given her room to get over you, and now possibly will make things even harder for her by continuing to sleep with her.

Unless you can categorically say without doubt that she isn't still in love with you, and it is purely a physical thing, then you really need to start taking her well-being into account and give her some space and time to get over the relationship.

I'm obviously outside the situation, and all of the above is IMHO, but just think about what you're doing.

She was the one who suggested weekly meetings, she was pretty distraught when I said I didn't think seeing each other was a good idea. She categorically states love has nothing to do with this 'offer'.