Ok now I am back from work I shall clear up a few things.
I haven't instigated this whole idea, I am just adding to it. Call that bad and evil if you want. Some of you clearly have done so already. Whatever.
I perhaps chose the wrong wording in my OP. My bad!!! When I say I am close friends I said that to make things easier for me to type out. I couldnt be bothered to go through past details and reasons why as its not really needed in this thread. Cleary some of you need to know. Why? It was just a request. Would some of you of acted like you did if I just asked for some anti-bride songs with out me going into some other details?
In reality he is my ex's brother and have seen him on only a few occasions in the 4 years I was with my ex and 90% of those he was pretty much ingnoring me whereas I tried to make chat and make him feel welcome in our home. He has not got any part in my life now and to be honest if they did split up for whatever reason I woudlnt bat an eye lid, BUT if we was still in contact by whatever means (at present his mum is still living with me) then I would offer help and support. I am not evil and mean.
This whole thing with the DVD and music etc was started by a member of the family (not mine) as a joke for some of the other members to have a gander over. The quick DVD that has been made is actualy quite good and the songs fit perfectly however, if the newlyweds were to see it they would think its brill as they both are not all there.
Anyway back to the topic in hand. Thanks for the suggestions so far they are really good ones.. I will have a look and see what I can do. With the help of the grooms mother. NOT MY FAMILY. If they want to do this and say "we all told you so" thats up to them.
My consience is clear..