Suggestions on what to do - my best mates girlfriend - longish

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Right basically

last time i spoke to my best mate (neil) girl friend (sarah) 2 weeks ago she gave me and my other mate (gareth) her views and basically said that as far as she was concerned that she didnt give a damn about what others said she was more important than others and that only her opinion matters etc.
and since then me and gareth havent spoken to her (coincidence really)
and then me and gareth spoken to my mate guvern and basically said what sarah said to us, he wasnt to fussed.

i dont think this has anything to do with it but for my 18th mums paying for a 4person shalley at centerparcs for me and who i chose, now instantly i chose gareth and guvern and the 4th person i would leave open for my girlfriend (providing im still with her) and gareth didnt no this so at school gareth asked neil if he wanted to come to centerparcs now i said he would have to come without sarah and neil asked gareth why, and gareth said (as a joke and partially true) he doesnt want her to come.

now tonight ive recieved several hate texts from her about how im a two faced backstabbing git who is also a fake friend who she doesnt wanna no anymore
so i text her back "care to explain what yur going on about

and i get this back

"care to explain why u were bitching about me, ** not a girl there isnt an excuse n i dont expect fake friends so no i feel no need to explain myself to u"

now ive tried texting her with no reply.

now as far as im concerned that ive tried making contact with her and that its upto her now if she wants to sort this out (i dont even no what was said to her) im speaking to all the other people she speaks to to atm and apparently they've all said nothing. now unless she is major league upset about the centerparcs i dunno


suggestions?

 

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17 as hes planning his 18th?

KaHn

quoted for the truth

 

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Meh, so who's his girlfriend?

not posted in the above thread, shes someone completely different

 

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Personally, I'd have words with gareth, what's your mate doing offering out places to your party/holiday thing? IMHO he had no right to do that in the first place - and if he hadn't been doing that none of this would have started.

fini

no you need to reread what i said

i said "im not sure if this even has anything to do with it" and neils a good friend of mine and so i didnt mind gareth asking neil

 

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At this point couldn't you have butted in and said the trip was only for 4 people and that the 4th would have been your gf, thus saving any bad feelings.

Anyway as it's happened now, my guess would be to ask Neil if he wouldn't mind not going seeing as 1) you didn't formally invite him and 2) there isn't room for his gf.

As for the upset with Neils gf i'd let Neil sort it out as it would seem he might be the one who told her about the comment, and that it wasn't you who said it.

Hope that helps.

na i work my mates goto 6th form

yeh thanks that does help, im just gonna leave it for now and maybe try speaking to her tomorrow if she doesnt want to no me, to be honest it doesnt bother me