The better half and gaming

Southy_ said:
You guys that go to bed after the other half.
When do you get laid? I go to bed WITH my GF, I find that quite conducive to sex tbh.
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Erm, trust me, going to bed with the gf doesn't always mean sex. Half the time they just want 10 minute cuddles before they complain they are sleepy or got a headache, drop off leaving you hanging.. !! lol

Which reminds me, Andriod mobile phone in bed when gf does go to sleep = youtube, internet and mobile gaming... lol
 
iv-tecman said:
I got a laptop tray you can rest on your lap which is good for putting a G400 mouse on, up the DPI and I can move around the screen with very little mouse movement on the tray. works out just fine.

PS3 pad also works very well, my laptop is quite bulky as its pretty much a desktop replacement, but with a PS3 pad, a decent mouse, a laptop tray and a 7.1 headset I've got just as good a setup to play games as anyone else using a desktop and the bonus for me is I can game on the sofa and not get moaned at I'm sitting on my own or leaving the gf on her own - win win.
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Wish I could do the same.

The only thing putting me off is the fact that I could never upgrade the GPU or CPU if i wanted to, meaning Id have to buy a new laptop every 2-3 years...
 
Sleeve88 said:
Wish I could do the same.

The only thing putting me off is the fact that I could never upgrade the GPU or CPU if i wanted to, meaning Id have to buy a new laptop every 2-3 years...
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depends which one you buy. I have a Clevo chassis based laptop and both the cpu and gpu are modular and can be replaced (although they are blummin expensive).
 
iv-tecman said:
I have to admit, now I’ve read this again I find this absolutely disgusting. My gf is a stay at home mum to our 8 month old baby, I work 9 – 6pm, I get home at 6:30pm in that time I will be happy to have the last half hour with my daughter as my gf finishes off cooking me a bit of dinner etc…

As I’ve been working all day, I’d never offer to cook to get some ‘me’ time, that is just ridiculous. To me, that half hour I get with my daughter is giving my gf a break as looking after a baby is demanding enough, I bath her if bath time before bed, I get her pj’s on, and cuddle my daughter before bed time then we have tea and by then its gone 7pm, gf settles baby to sleep and I do what I want provided its in the same room as the gf…

To do things to get ‘me’ time is submissive and sounds like you’re being well controlled. Its one thing you’re partner not liking you spending time playing video games as she is lonely or bored (as is the case for most in this thread) but to get ‘me’ time by doing chores around the house is just silly…

Can’t think why you’d think that is acceptable. If you both work, one cooks one evening, the other the next, if gf is a house mum then take the baby off her hands when you get home and then when baby asleep then its ‘me’ time. You know, share the load etc…

Offering to do house chores to get gaming time is a bit wrong, but if it works for you then fine but I find that well wrong.

I agree with others, gaming time can be had when youre gf goes to bed, nearly all women go to bed earlier then most men. They also have off weeks when they can’t be bothered with men, another prime time to get that gaming in.

My gf loves to go to bed with me, so she more then accepts me playing games on the sofa as once I get that fix out the way, I’ll be more then happy to go to bed with her, bedroom telly on, movie, her, snuggles – maybe more *wink wink*… If she drops off early and I’m bored, get out of bed, grab the laptop and play games in bed..

Honestly – to me a gaming laptop, best investment ever.
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Dont get me wrong, I get plenty of 'me' time during week day evenings as she is at work and although she does not like it, she accepts it. But if I am fancying a bit of 'me' time when I know deep down I should be spending 'couple' time with her, then I feel it necessary to give something back, as it were. IE to barter :) I think anyone in a long term serious relationship who is living with their partner will know what I mean.

Running a house needs teamwork and its ok to be the one 'wearing the trousers' but if I boss my woman around like a bigot, she leaves. Simples. It's not being submissive, its about not imposing my desires on her and our relationship without expecting consequences.

So I compromise and reach a happy medium. I do not subscribe to a 'who wears the trousers' mindset I'm afraid as I believe a relationship is teamwork and there should be give and take on both sides. She is at home during mornings and early afternoon so she does chores during that time and goes food shopping etc. Weekday evenings I do any outstanding chores she hasnt managed to do during the day, I cook dinner and game. I do this because we are a team and we share chores (except ironing - she only let me try it once :p ). When she gets home we eat, snuggle, watch TV then go to bed together because invariably I am up early so can't do night time gaming.

If I do what I want, when I want with no regard to her feelings what kind of person am I? The one that wears the trousers? No thanks, I dont live in the 1940's. Likewise she does not boss me around but rightly gets annoyed if I'm gaming when we have time off together as we get very little 'couple' time during weekends.

However, I occasionally squeeze in a bit of cheeky early morning gaming on weekends ;)

Cheers

Buff
 
My girlfriend likes gaming as well so generally we're in the same room chatting whilst on our PCs and the like.

She also plays a mean game of FIFA and we also quest together on WoW sometimes.

So I think the solution is to get her into the games you play and then play them together! Just steer clear of that Mario game on the Wii that you can get in each other's way on - can't remember the name but that led to a few heated arguments. :eek:
 
I stopped altogether when my baby came along and only just starting to get more into it again now he's 7.

Was bloomin knackered with the young one even when he was sleeping there was so much to do to get ready for when he was awake lol.
 
Tombstone said:
This is one of the beauties of having a partner who is a gamerchick. My missus frankly does more gaming than I do !! Especially now that we both have Guild Wars 2. She's an animal for it !! (and for the gaming ;) )
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Same here! All these "1 hour here and there" type of replies are insane! :eek: It's actually quite sad tbh. Gaming is a powerful form of entertainment and a release for a lot of people. To see that it's either completely taken away or limited to the extreme is just unfair. I suppose if you have a kid it's a sacrifice you have to make as they need a high level of care, but otherwise I see no reason why the significant others of OcUKers should be so harsh. :(
 
Found in a previous thread on this that iv-tecman and I have an almost identical situation in terms of gaming time and the Mrs. I have a semi-decent rig sitting upstairs that I rarely ever use, as if I disappear then she complains I'm leaving her alone or ignoring her etc.

Thing is, all she wants is for me to be in the same room while she's lost in her own stuff whether that be work (lesson plans, marking, whatever), farting about on the net, or watching some insipid TV show about fat people or something. It's fine if I'm sitting next to her gaming on the laptop (though headphones are a gamble so I find I have to game without sound most of the time unless I want her to get the huff after 40 mins or so).

If I pounce on the Xbox and she's in a mood, then I'm cutting her out and hogging the TV. If I go upstairs to use the desktop PC or the Xbox in the bedroom, I'm not spending time with her. Now, the big problem is... the laptop is getting on in age! I can't play The Witcher 2 on it, nor can I play War of the Roses, which I've been disappearing upstairs to crack away on when I can manage to slink off unnoticed.

I wonder if she'll let me buy a new laptop? :p:D
 
.Sean said:
Same here! All these "1 hour here and there" type of replies are insane! :eek: It's actually quite sad tbh. Gaming is a powerful form of entertainment and a release for a lot of people. To see that it's either completely taken away or limited to the extreme is just unfair. I suppose if you have a kid it's a sacrifice you have to make as they need a high level of care, but otherwise I see no reason why the significant others of OcUKers should be so harsh. :(
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Not in the real world with kids yet i see. I love my kids more than anything, they are 2 and 5 but it does take a lot of work for both the wife and I, which means less time for gaming. The odd hour or so here and there is well worth it rather than nothing at all.

One thing that changes with kids ( well it has for me ) is going to bed at midnight or 1 am, you become generally more knackered for the first 6 or 7 years so bedtime is closer to 10pm (both my kids wake up at 6am every day and I start work at 7am as well). I never used to go before midnight now after 10 is normal. I always say to myself I will stay up late at weekends but they are so buy doing other fun stuff with the family I am knackered as usual and need to go to bed or stay uplate on a Friday and spend the weekend shattered.

I also have learnt to play the PC with no sound meaning I can play without annoying the wife and if the kids are busy sneak a bit of playtime, however another issue is I cannot play 18 games while the kids are about, sound on can equal bad language and obviously violence etc is not suitable for the young ones. Sayign that My son and I played Lego batman 2 and have pretty much completed the whole lot and was great fun, I hope as he gets older he may even want to do gaming with his old man.
 
I'm quite lucky, my GF is fairly tolerant of my gaming habit. But I also think sometimes she just likes having me around the house, where she can keep an eye on me. I try not to play too much, and keep at least a couple of evenings a week just for spending time with her. But I'm not always successful, I play too much sometimes.

We do other stuff together though, we go to the gym together 3 times a week, and we go out at weekends sometimes. But most of the time I'm quite happy being a cave dweller.
 
Reemul said:
Not in the real world with kids yet i see. I love my kids more than anything, they are 2 and 5 but it does take a lot of work for both the wife and I, which means less time for gaming. The odd hour or so here and there is well worth it rather than nothing at all.

One thing that changes with kids ( well it has for me ) is going to bed at midnight or 1 am, you become generally more knackered for the first 6 or 7 years so bedtime is closer to 10pm (both my kids wake up at 6am every day and I start work at 7am as well). I never used to go before midnight now after 10 is normal. I always say to myself I will stay up late at weekends but they are so buy doing other fun stuff with the family I am knackered as usual and need to go to bed or stay uplate on a Friday and spend the weekend shattered.

I also have learnt to play the PC with no sound meaning I can play without annoying the wife and if the kids are busy sneak a bit of playtime, however another issue is I cannot play 18 games while the kids are about, sound on can equal bad language and obviously violence etc is not suitable for the young ones. Sayign that My son and I played Lego batman 2 and have pretty much completed the whole lot and was great fun, I hope as he gets older he may even want to do gaming with his old man.
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I don't agree with the often-touted parental view that someone isn't "living properly" or "fully responsible" if they do not yet have children. There's really no need for everyone to procreate and I personally find the superior attitude rather distasteful.

Of course having a child puts additional demands on your time and money. This is part of the reason that some choose not to breed, or at least to delay it for a while. Lots of people are perfectly capable of living real lives without requiring offspring to validate them.
 
Reemul said:
Not in the real world with kids yet i see. I love my kids more than anything, they are 2 and 5 but it does take a lot of work for both the wife and I, which means less time for gaming. The odd hour or so here and there is well worth it rather than nothing at all.

One thing that changes with kids ( well it has for me ) is going to bed at midnight or 1 am, you become generally more knackered for the first 6 or 7 years so bedtime is closer to 10pm (both my kids wake up at 6am every day and I start work at 7am as well). I never used to go before midnight now after 10 is normal. I always say to myself I will stay up late at weekends but they are so buy doing other fun stuff with the family I am knackered as usual and need to go to bed or stay uplate on a Friday and spend the weekend shattered.

I also have learnt to play the PC with no sound meaning I can play without annoying the wife and if the kids are busy sneak a bit of playtime, however another issue is I cannot play 18 games while the kids are about, sound on can equal bad language and obviously violence etc is not suitable for the young ones. Sayign that My son and I played Lego batman 2 and have pretty much completed the whole lot and was great fun, I hope as he gets older he may even want to do gaming with his old man.
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No kids and I don't plan to have any. Kudos to my parents for bringing me (and 3 other boys!) up and to the people on here that are raising kids, but I don't think I'll ever be able to do it.

I do however work 12 hours a day and am in a long term relationship which is as "real" as it gets for me at this moment in time. I just really dislike most of the compromises displayed in this thread and some of the other stuff like "sneaking around" and S.O's getting easily irritated, etc. It just sounds mental to me! :D
 
My GF is very understanding about my gaming habits. She knows then when there's a new release of something that I'v been realling looking forward to that I'm gonna be plugged in for a couple of weeks non stop until the hype wears off a bit. She's not into gaming at all though really, although I have tried to introduce her to it.

She's really good about it though and I am very grateful for that.
 
Pestilence said:
Found in a previous thread on this that iv-tecman and I have an almost identical situation in terms of gaming time and the Mrs. I have a semi-decent rig sitting upstairs that I rarely ever use, as if I disappear then she complains I'm leaving her alone or ignoring her etc.

Thing is, all she wants is for me to be in the same room while she's lost in her own stuff whether that be work (lesson plans, marking, whatever), farting about on the net, or watching some insipid TV show about fat people or something. It's fine if I'm sitting next to her gaming on the laptop (though headphones are a gamble so I find I have to game without sound most of the time unless I want her to get the huff after 40 mins or so).

If I pounce on the Xbox and she's in a mood, then I'm cutting her out and hogging the TV. If I go upstairs to use the desktop PC or the Xbox in the bedroom, I'm not spending time with her. Now, the big problem is... the laptop is getting on in age! I can't play The Witcher 2 on it, nor can I play War of the Roses, which I've been disappearing upstairs to crack away on when I can manage to slink off unnoticed.

I wonder if she'll let me buy a new laptop? :p:D
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I could have written those exact words myself. It was almost spooky reading them. My other half is a teacher too, if I go upstairs while she is marking or doing lesson plans I get sulked at.
 
My misses complains to me all the time about my gaming, it is an issue, I just choose to ignore it... What really annoys me is that I hate the TV but she expects me to sit down stairs and watch it with her, this does not happen and then we have arguements about it :|

Stelly
 
Reemul said:
Not in the real world with kids yet i see.
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I don't have kids either, and I will not be having them in the future. Ironically its the real world that puts me off the idea. Not only the reality of parenthood, but the state of the world once they reach adulthood themselves. I don't think I'd be doing them any favors, even if they did have a good childhood. Still, best of luck with yours. I hope they lead long and happy lives.
 
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