The better half and gaming

I manage to game every other night till about 1am in the morning. I am to knackered the next day to play again so I have an early night.
I have been with the other half for 15 years and we have a 5 year old and a 7 month old baby. Once they are both in bed around 7.30pm and once we have dinner which is about 8.00pm we are allowed to do what we like.
Usually I game every other night and then sit with her the following evening watching crap on TV. She's not into gaming but understands that it's my hobby which I enjoy. As a bonus, my 5 year old also likes playing games so I play most nights until 7.30pm on the Wii or Gamecube.

As long as you don't take the p**s and spend some time with the other half and kids then I don't see a problem.

At least I don't go down the pub every night or go fishing every night like some people.
 
We play Borderlands together and we're both as excited as eachother for the release of Borderlands 2 :D

She used to play World of Tanks, but lost interest. Now she's just bought GW2 and I have a feeling I'll be 'losing' her to that :p
 
I game when I want for however long I want.

Reason being as someone posted above, if she wants to watch X Factor's Got Top Talent 2013 then you can be damn sure I'm not going to be in the same room!
 
My girlfriend is as much into gaming as I am, she is more console focused though. She likes to play things like Skyrim, Uncharted etc. Got her in to playing Demon's Souls the other day. She enjoys watching me play games for some reason. It's not hard for myself to get game time, she's really laid back and just lets me do whatever I want and naturally I spend equal amounts of time with her doing couply things and whatnot. She told me the other day that she wants to play through Resident Evil 6 with me on co-op when it's out which should be great fun :)
 
I got the other half playing Battlefield 1942 and Desert Combat a while back.

She was pretty terrible, but still embarrassed a couple of chaps. :D
 
.Sean said:
No kids and I don't plan to have any. Kudos to my parents for bringing me (and 3 other boys!) up and to the people on here that are raising kids, but I don't think I'll ever be able to do it.

I do however work 12 hours a day and am in a long term relationship which is as "real" as it gets for me at this moment in time. I just really dislike most of the compromises displayed in this thread and some of the other stuff like "sneaking around" and S.O's getting easily irritated, etc. It just sounds mental to me! :D
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BuffetSlayer made some good points earlier, all relationships need to have compromise as you'll find out I'm sure. If you just do what you want with no regard for your partner then that sounds like an odd relationship to me.

My missus doesn't like it when I game non-stop and to be honest I'm glad she doesn't, I have an addictive personality and can be my own worst enemy sometimes so she keeps me honest.

I don't see why people have an issue with setting aside time to game, we're so busy with stuff as a couple plus two sets of parents to entertain without considering other family and friend entertaining plus the usual junk of life that putting aside time to do something you enjoy works well for many people... It's not like getting permission from your Mum :)
 
I play as much as I want, we are both laid back. I leave her to reading and Facebook; and I hang out in my study, popping out for a chat here and there.

Works out great and we both respect each others space. :)
 
Black Dog said:
As long as you don't take the p**s and spend some time with the other half and kids then I don't see a problem.
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This! Don't take the mick and I see no problem. :)

KraniX said:
BuffetSlayer made some good points earlier, all relationships need to have compromise as you'll find out I'm sure. If you just do what you want with no regard for your partner then that sounds like an odd relationship to me.

My missus doesn't like it when I game non-stop and to be honest I'm glad she doesn't, I have an addictive personality and can be my own worst enemy sometimes so she keeps me honest.

I don't see why people have an issue with setting aside time to game, we're so busy with stuff as a couple plus two sets of parents to entertain without considering other family and friend entertaining plus the usual junk of life that putting aside time to do something you enjoy works well for many people... It's not like getting permission from your Mum :)
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I don't think I came across as saying "just do what you want" but I get where you're coming from, man. The quoted post above basically sums it all up for me in a very nice neat little package. Don't take the mick! I adore FM but when I'm with the other half I substantially reduce my playtime. That doesn't mean 1/2 hours though, probably double that as long as we spend time together in some sort of capacity. :)
 
FrenchTart said:
I don't agree with the often-touted parental view that someone isn't "living properly" or "fully responsible" if they do not yet have children. There's really no need for everyone to procreate and I personally find the superior attitude rather distasteful.

Of course having a child puts additional demands on your time and money. This is part of the reason that some choose not to breed, or at least to delay it for a while. Lots of people are perfectly capable of living real lives without requiring offspring to validate them.
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This is not my point, I chose to have children at 35 and i really dont care whether you have them or not however having kids means less time for gaming and saying otherwise is wrong, just as being on the dole gives you more gaming time than having a full time job.

Personally the people that say people act superior because they have kids is ********, it's self perceived, people without kids think those with look down on them when in reality we don't care either way. I mean nowhere did I say any of that rubbish you have put up there. The point more is if you can't cope giving up the you for your kids you should never have kids, me, i'm trying for 3 and maybe 4 if we are lucky and will still enjoy the odd our or 2 gaming here and there.

If I had a choice between no kids and extra gaming or kids and less gaming the kids win everytime, in fact I would give up gaming before I gave up reading.

My reply was to someone would said having the odd hour here isn't that great and i am saying it is, especially those of us that don't get as much free time
 
Reemul said:
This is not my point, I chose to have children at 35 and i really dont care whether you have them or not however having kids means less time for gaming and saying otherwise is wrong, just as being on the dole gives you more gaming time than having a full time job.

Personally the people that say people act superior because they have kids is ********, it's self perceived, people without kids think those with look down on them when in reality we don't care either way. I mean nowhere did I say any of that rubbish you have put up there. The point more is if you can't cope giving up the you for your kids you should never have kids, me, i'm trying for 3 and maybe 4 if we are lucky and will still enjoy the odd our or 2 gaming here and there.

If I had a choice between no kids and extra gaming or kids and less gaming the kids win everytime, in fact I would give up gaming before I gave up reading.

My reply was to someone would said having the odd hour here isn't that great and i am saying it is, especially those of us that don't get as much free time
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That's great aside from the fact you said "not living in the real world". You can't really change history unfortunately.

Nobody is saying that gaming is more important than children (I would hope) but that doesn't change the smugly superior attitude displayed by comments such as "not living in the real world".
 
Reemul said:
This is not my point, I chose to have children at 35 and i really dont care whether you have them or not however having kids means less time for gaming and saying otherwise is wrong, just as being on the dole gives you more gaming time than having a full time job.

Personally the people that say people act superior because they have kids is ********, it's self perceived, people without kids think those with look down on them when in reality we don't care either way. I mean nowhere did I say any of that rubbish you have put up there. The point more is if you can't cope giving up the you for your kids you should never have kids, me, i'm trying for 3 and maybe 4 if we are lucky and will still enjoy the odd our or 2 gaming here and there.

If I had a choice between no kids and extra gaming or kids and less gaming the kids win everytime, in fact I would give up gaming before I gave up reading.

My reply was to someone would said having the odd hour here isn't that great and i am saying it is, especially those of us that don't get as much free time
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The first line of your post was:

Reemul said:
Not in the real world with kids yet i see...
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That comes across as condescending -- you essentially told him that because he hasn't had kids, he hasn't entered the "real world" or somehow isn't living right. It also infers a sense of superiority on your behalf, because you're dealing with "real world" issues that he isn't, and managing to get by with what little you can. That makes you the "stronger" person.

In this case, said issue is having children, so one can completely understand where he got the notion from. If that's not what you meant, then fine... may not have been the best choice of words.
 
Wife and I are both quite independent, she'd hate to have me stuck next to her every evening, she likes to play on her ipad, I like the PC but we make sure we always eat together, have a chat, perhaps watch a program whilst chatting etc then it's time to do our own thing.

Got a 2 year old daughter, so until she's in bed we're together as a family, times vary a little but I can't complain about my gaming time - I never expected to get as much frankly!! :)
 
My wife works shifts so I tend to do most of my of gaming when she is at work, e.g. potentially all day if she's working at the weekend, 6pm-8pm if she's working weekdays, 7pm onwards if she's working nights. Gotta be careful at weekends though if she gets home and I haven't done anything useful... :eek:

Also she tends to go to bed a lot earlier than me (between 21:30 and 23:00 usually), so quite often I'll do a couple of hours on the PC when she's gone to bed.

When we are both at home and I'm gaming she'll usually be watching something on TV, there are several hours of TV every week she watches that I don't. Sometimes I contemplate moving my PC into the living room so we can chat while doing our own stuff like the 2nd post. Also I like some others have mentioned I think she actually doesn't mind watching me play games sometimes, such as when I played Heavy Rain on PC. Something like the Assassin's Creed games would probably work quite well for 'spectators' too I guess..

Overall she is pretty tolerant of it and generally prefers me being sat at my PC rather than going out drinking etc.
 
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My gf hates gaming, but she accepts that it's something I enjoy and tries to understand it.

She works at home and gets quite lonely so I try to spend time with her watching tv and eating dinner together (In gone 7am -7pm work days) and then I might have an hour on bf3 before watching Friends in bed which is our ritual. I usually get one weekend day for gaming (she relaxes/cleans etc on this day) and then we do stuff together on the other day.

There are still moments where she gets a bit angry (usually after the 10th "5 minutes" from me), but we both try to make it fair.
 
MadFruit said:
Have a issue similar to those above. I am predominately a console gamer again these days (don't have a powerful enough PC laptop anymore - and no where to put a desktop).

The GF issue is a bit more of a problem though as she is currently over here on a tourist visa for six months. Which means, she can't work or really do anything (all very complicated, but visa situations mean one of us wont be working for six months at a time). She doesn't know anyone nor have any real way of meeting people to fill her days - also living in London with limited cash is... well... limiting! So when I get home from work, I really am her focus and I can't then plug into anything anti-social like gaming - she understandably gets very lonely/bored during the day. She really hates gaming and doesn't like me playing at all. I try to get an hour in when she cooks (as she enjoys that) but that's difficult.

I'm finding it difficult because I use gaming to unwind and relax. I'm not a great TV watcher and get bored and fidgety doing so; even when it's a TV series I like, like Walking Dead etc.

She tries to be understanding and says she doesn't mind if I have a quick game here and there - but it clearly does upset her - so I usually don't bother.
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That's rough. I can relate.

Can you get her involved with any forums or anything?

Mine is on a forum for russians living over here and she has met a few people through it. In London she'd have even more to do as most members are over there.

I also found encouraging her to take up some sport helped.

.Smash her pasty, shell be nakered.
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Confirming this works a treat. I used to do this for fleet ops on EVE.
 
My Pc is in the living room, so when she starts watching terrible TV i can play my games. we make sure to spend time when we both get in from work talking. and then eat dinner together. i try and play games maybe 2-4 nights a week.

works quite well for us :)
 
I'm not married but have been in a long term relationship for eleven years, living together for most of that time. I tend to go through phases when I rarely play a game for weeks but then something like Dark Souls grabs my attention and I try and play as much as possible. My girlfriend doesn't mind because it's not a constant obsession. She knows I will eventually complete it or get bored and life returns to normal. Until the next game gets it's claws into me.
 
Mine is reasonably supportive of my gaming. She realises that its better to have me sat in front of the PC than out and about. She does pull the limit at WoW! That drives her mental though i do understand why.
 
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