"The Crazy"

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Dr Cox: Look, I love it that after six years I can still mess with your head. It is both a testament to my commitment and a glaring statement about your mental fragility. But still, as much as it pains me to say it, there's nothing I did or said that had any real impact on your relationship with the future Mr. Barbie.

Elliott: But I got all crazy and went off on him.

Dr Cox: Of course you did, you're a woman. Sure, ya do come with a little extra crazy but what the heck, that's what makes you you.
 
By the way, using 'touch base' in anything but bull**** bingo in a meeting with senior management is tantamount to shouting 'I'm a tard' from the top of the nearest building ;)
 
Gilly said:
Told you.

Still doesn't mean he'll turn up though.

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Well I'm starting to wonder now... it all depends if he can get away in good time! He'll be as apologetic as hell but it'll still suck.

He's very good at bull**** bingo. Managed to get him to use the word 'stool' as in 'loose & watery' to a boss-type down the phone the other day.

'Touch base' is less ambiguous than 'hook up' and more informal than 'liaise', I find...
 
No news since text (to which I did reply). Just tried to ring.. and again it rang and rang. Suspect he's still stuck in a meeting room.

Less feeling the paranoid crazy and am now just disappointed.
 
Gilly said:
By the way, using 'touch base' in anything but bull**** bingo in a meeting with senior management is tantamount to shouting 'I'm a tard' from the top of the nearest building ;)
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That was the first thing I noticed about the post as well, why not just use the words "didn't call" or something similar. Sorry, I've got pretty much no advice of value to add to the thread but good luck getting it sorted one way or the other.
 
sara said:
No news since text (to which I did reply). Just tried to ring.. and again it rang and rang. Suspect he's still stuck in a meeting room.

Less feeling the paranoid crazy and am now just disappointed.
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What is his job out of interest? I've never heard of meetings this long and along with his other 'excuses' you've reeled off I think he sounds like a bit of an idiot if you ask me.

I hope I'm wrong though.
 
sara said:
No news since text (to which I did reply). Just tried to ring.. and again it rang and rang. Suspect he's still stuck in a meeting room.

Less feeling the paranoid crazy and am now just disappointed.
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is this still all in the same day? how many times have you contacted him?
 
Wicksta - technical project consultant; he basically gets to just answer questions for most of a project and then gets called in for crazy hours as everything comes to a head at the deadline.

Surfer - this is all in the same day yes as we hadn't properly worked out how it was all going to hang together tonight, but he'd confirmed on Monday that it'd be possible... But I guess not. I texted once to find out what was going on, texted again in reply to his eventual message, and have just rung about an hour ago (no answer) seeing as he had planned to be here about now and he's a good hour's drive away...
 
Kelly - I doubt that. He's a grown man and very comfortable with himself, it'd be VERY surprising if that were the case. But this isn't the first time we've missed an opportunity to meet so heck I don't know, anything is possible...
 
this is all in the same day yes as we hadn't properly worked out how it was all going to hang together tonight, but he'd confirmed on Monday that it'd be possible... But I guess not. I texted once to find out what was going on, texted again in reply to his eventual message, and have just rung about an hour ago (no answer) seeing as he had planned to be here about now and he's a good hour's drive away...
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Ok...hrmm you need to chill seriously! This is a first date so you're not actually a couple. And already he is being harassed (he will see that you are texting and phoning him : he might start thinking is this how it is always going to be?)

Because of the phone calls youre building up an unrealistic picture of how great this guy is and how you seem to click with him straight away.

If you want to see this guy again do not text or phone him again!

But..

Reserve your right to be annoyed at him if he doesnt turn up tonight and does not call but manages to come up with some kind of excuse in a text message.. and thank your lucky stars you got out before you became emotionally attached ehh?

On the other hand could just be bad timing, mad day at work etc. The test is whether these "dramas at work" always seem to happen to him or if this is a one-off.
 
I'm only reciprocating how communicative he's been when he's not been busy.

OK, so it's possible he may be lying through his teeth because he's changed his mind, but how daft to string me along if he has.

Ah well, seeing as there is now still no sign, I'm pretty hacked off. Indeed, he's done with, unless he's grovelling with a VERY good excuse.
 
My opinion is that if he likes you enough and wants to meet you that badly, he will make it happen. Sure, things come up from time-to-time, but if it drags on for weeks of continual excuses I'd be reaching the following conclusion:

Scenario 1: He is a really, REALLY busy guy. Is that the sort of person you think you need right now? Are you prepared to live a relationship where you will always come second to other priorities?

Scenario 2: He isn't really that keen after all, maybe nerves, maybe second thoughts. Is he worth wasting your time over?

Scenario 3: He's just stringing you along, maybe he has a partner and you are just a bit of flirting he likes to do (some guys get off on this).

I do speak from experience here as a few years ago I was chatting to some girl online for a few months, suggested meeting up several times but she always had an excuse about not having any money, being busy or whatever. I'd even offered to do all the travelling and just meet for a simple coffee someplace. Eventually I decided that whatever the reason she wouldn't meet I was wasting my time.

Not wishing to put a downer on things here - as I said, give him a few weeks :)
 
Give him one last text. If he doesn't reply to that then wash your hands of him for a while. The ball will be in his court then and if he wants to get back in touch, he will.

Sorry it hasn't worked out for you, maybe next time will be better :)
 
Well, he's already told me that he finds himself with lots of time for most of a project, and then it all goes crazy at the end. He also warned me last week that a couple of deadlines were slipping - however he shouldn't really have confirmed tonight's date in that case... But maybe he was being optimistic.

But I'm also a busy girl - which is one reason why it hasn't been so easy to meet up. I go out dancing a LOT as I'm working hard to get good at lindy hop and often half my week is taken by that and the rest of the evenings by normal life and friends etc... Someone who equally has lots of things to occupy himself would be good, though would be nice if the busy times synchronised a little...

He's got the benefit of the doubt for now. But I expect mucho apologies. He's going to get a disappointed and slightly narked text, will see how he reacts to that.
 
Don't send him anymore texts or phone him.

I used to do similar things to girls, arrange to meet them and then I couldn't be arsed for whatever reason. However I even used to do it to my current partner, and we've been together for years. ;)

She didn't chase after me though, and then I realised I actually did like her.

No project is that important that it means you can't answer your phone all day. It's just an excuse, believe me.
 
We aren't all like you, Wicksta. And I don't think he is, either.

If he does behave like that, it will be good riddance.

I don't play any games and prefer to communicate. If he doesn't want to respond, stuff him! But until now that's not been his way.
 
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