"The Crazy"

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I have to say before the latest developments and after reading the first post, I did think "hmmm sounds like he's stringing you along", the latest only adds to that.
 
Do u really want a relationship with a man (older?) that will give u a zillion excuses, doesnt have time to send u a text, stands you up? To me he doesnt seem interested, the onus should be on him to make it up to you (if I read it right, he stood u up).

Even if its all true and this is the way he normally conducts himself, would you want someone who treated u this way, say perhaps when u lived together? a lot of relationships break because the couple have no time for each other.

Im not a Jerry Springer, and Im Cassinova's antichrist but this is my opinion.

I am far too shy to ask anyone on a date, not that I get to meet many eligible females. If this guy has formed a friendship with you but doesnt have any time to work on it, I find it unforgiveable.
 
Surfer said:
i bet you're raging atm yep? I think you're emotionally invested but i dont think he is yet.
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Ive been in the same situation as have friends of mine. You need to have a balance. Do the phonecalls go on for like 3 hrs + ? Bet they feel great too ehh.. like you're really connecting.
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Well mmm, a couple of hours, and yes they do. He's been the one using the more emotive language and making it quite clear that he likes me and how amazed he's been that we've got on so well. I've been the guarded one, as I've done the internet-thing before and know full well that real life isn't the same as online/phone and don't want to feel too involved before meeting up.

Thing is, girly emotions and 'the crazy' take over and that makes it all the more infuriating when being left in the lurch.

megatron - aye, the younger man was fun for a bit, but older (by about 7 nears, nowt drastic) seems like a nice change and until yesterday it was looking rosy. Yup, consider me stood-up.

I'm not going to speculate now on what's happened - he just better have a good reason and I daresay I'll report back my findings.


Extremely randomly last night I was rung at half-past-11 (pm! cheeky!) by someone I apparently met at a party a fortnight ago and gave my number to. He must've met me just as some punch kicked in, as I have no recollection of this, but remember most of the evening (I'm one of these sad creatures who gets memory blanks without being totally steamed - people are surprised I've forgotten things as I haven't been acting so drunk). Even though he didn't strike me as my type and was trying too hard to be a bit of a smooth-talker, it made me feel a bit better about stood-uppiness.

But what an evening to choose to ring me...
 
sara said:
I then rang once an hour or so before he was due to be in Bristol (he'd have been driving from at least an hour away), to see how he was getting on - no answer.
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I wouldn't answer the phone if driving either.

Having said that, posting a thread about an internet date standing you up seems a tad contrite to me.
 
platypus said:
I wouldn't answer the phone if driving either.

Having said that, posting a thread about an internet date standing you up seems a tad contrite to me.
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He has a headset wotsit as he's rung me on it before.
EDIT: And I gather he wasn't driving anyway, as he certainly never turned up!

Hrm, well when I started this thread it was just a musing on how I am going slightly barmy in the face of the first supposedly decent date in ages. I didn't intend it to be a woe-is-me-I've-been-stood-up thing.

But I guess it turns out the paranoia was right this time.
 
sara said:
He has a headset wotsit as he's rung me on it before.

Hrm, well when I started this thread it was just a musing on how I am going slightly barmy in the face of the first supposedly decent date in ages. I didn't intend it to be a woe-is-me-I've-been-stood-up thing.

But I guess it turns out the paranoia was right this time.
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Fair enough, I just wouldn't ever answer the phone when driving, and I have a headset. Annoys the hell out of work if I'm on my way to a meeting and they need to reach me ;).
 
Sounds like you should join a rowing club by the way. They're often a hive of sexual activity and freedom.

From: ********@cam.ac.uk
Name: Lorna Bidston
Message: Hi,
I am scoial sec for St Edmunds College lady rowers ( Eds is a mature college so we are aged about mid 20's - mid 30's) . Our boathouse is just down from yours & we wondered if some of your male rowers would like to meet up with us for a social in Cambridge ? Frankly we will have much more in common with your members than the 18yr olds at other Uni colleges -some adult company would be great!

We can be pretty flexible on dates but the Uni term ends at end of Nov & then most of us are away til mid Jan . Please let me know asap if any are interested in which case we could org a social for w/in next few weeks. I can get at least 10 ladies out.
Thanks a lot,
Lorna
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megatron - huhwhatnow? My blog is just me musing on things, don't take it too seriously.

gjrc - Nope. No show, no call, no nothing. That's it from me now, it's his turn.
 
Tell him to sling his hook, how long can it possibly take to send a text? So he's in a meeting, so what! Simple enough to excuse himself to go to the loo and then text you instead. Seems like he's stringing you along.
 
sara said:
megatron - huhwhatnow? My blog is just me musing on things, don't take it too seriously.

gjrc - Nope. No show, no call, no nothing. That's it from me now, it's his turn.
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good call, don't go chasing. make him make the move. he will if he wants to. if he doesn't then you know where you stand
 
I'm not going to tell him to sling his hook before I find out what in hell has happened. There's an outside chance I suppose that he's been mugged and has been found lying bleeding in a ditch somewhere - in which case there's no one who'd know to tell me so.

Mostly I'm just curious and would like to umm and ahh and make him feel guilty on the other end of the phone.

Anyway as said - this requires no more from me - it is very much his turn now - I've registered my disappointment and haven't blown up at him.
 
Making other people feel guilty \o/. What a waste of time.

You're a pretty girl; grow up, get on with whatever it is you do and find someone else to date.
 
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