The last few days

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Im not usualy one to rant about lifes misfortunes but todthe last few days have been just...

My cousin is a 33 year old man who is generaly fit and well, he is a chef and always worked really hard infact i worked with him for about 2 years, in may june time he collapsed at work, after loads of tests he got the all clear and was given 2 weeks off on the sick after getting home from the hospital but everything was ok.
He was due to go back to work but they decided to let him go and he has been looking for a job ever since.

Fastforward to this Wednesday my cousin who was brought up with us like a brother always going places together and playing computer games together all our lives was rushed into hospital, he had collapsed and his heart stopped, they gave him mouth to mouth untill the ambulance got there and used the defib 5 times before "bringing him back" the total time from him collapsing to being brought back was 45 mins ish but due to constant resusatation been done he should be fine.

Once in hospital they induced a coma and put him in this ice type suit to stop any swelling and to slow his organs down so he could recover, he has been on a life support machine since. they had done loads of tests and everythig came back as if there was nothing wrong with him, brain and heart test were all fine he was just not breathing for himself.

Realism set in when i went to see him and there was just so many machines around him wires everywhere a machine making him breathe so you could see his chest going in and out, a pipe down 1 nostral feedign him, a pipe down another nostral for somthign else, 4 drips goign in him in total things stuck all over him, I just couldnt believe this was happening to him.

When people were talking to him he was twitchin and frowning and moving his hand, he tried to wake up a few times but they gave him more drugs to induce the coma more.

Lots of emotion in the family as probably expected. everyne spending all there spare time at the hospital.

This morning, i get up and ring the hospital like i did on thursday morning in hope for some good news but got the"same as yesterday" conversation off his nurse.

They were cleaning his eyes as they were a bit gunky this morning when the nurse noticed somthing with his pupils, so they took him down for another scan and we were told he was brain dead.

I have sat with him for a while tonight since they told us and they will be turning the machine off slowly? he hasnt twitched, frowned, moved his hand or anything all night, i just cant understant it.

Sorry to post this just felt the need.
 
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Sadly it could be a number of underlying medical conditions or even infections that could do such a thing to a relatively healthy young person. Sorry for your loss
 
Damn that's hard to hear, Got family in hospital myself at the moment and although their mind isn't what it used to be I am grateful that they are at least still here.

Just be there whilst you can, they would want nothing more

And take care of yourself, remember that you still need consideration during all this
 
Sorry to hear mate, had the same thing happen with my aunt a few years ago, she was such a fit active person and next thing i know, shes in hospital on life support, declared brain dead in a few hours, one thing i can take comfort from was that she advocated organ donorship, Im sure some people got another chance at a good life, something that she would have liked.
 
What a terrible turn of events. It's shocking that something like a collapse that happened that time ago can lead to that end. Especially when that happened 5-6 months ago.

I offer my condoleences to you and your family.
 
That's really sad to hear :( My condolences to you and your family.
My oldest friend's dad had a heart attack not long back and he too was on all those machines. My friend is probably the most mentally tough person I know but he was in a total state when he saw him in the hospital and couldn't see him.
 
Jeez dude I can't begin to understand what you are going through, I am here to read your ramblings though & offer Any support I can no matter how small.
Fingers crossed for a turn around, I send All my luck your way.
 
Im sorry for your loss.

I lost a brother in a bike accident some 12 years ago. (No one knows what happened).

When its your time to go, its time to go.

I will tell you a story.

3 years ago I arranged an EVE meet with the corp I played with. It was great fun so we arranged it for the next year. ( I used to own a B&B )

On the 2nd meet we had a few new members. 1 of them was in the Army and posted in Germany. He was going to drive all the way here. He had some leave to take.

Now he was a fit well young man. A couple of days before the meet he collapsed at the wheel of his car. And Died of a heart condition. This was out of the blue.

His brother a few weeks (sometime) later. When to the doctors over here. And was told he had the same heart condition.

It does not sound fair but we all have limited time on this planet. And no one knows how long it is.

I dont know what you believe in but he is in a better place. And watching all his loved one.

Feel free to rant more if you wish. Just dont bottle it all up. I had very few people to talk to when my brother died.

Regards

Clairvoyant.
 
My words won't make any impact on what you are going through but my condolences and others show that people here have thought about you and your family in the situation you are in.
 
Sorry to hear that, especially after being told he would be fine. Its times like this that makes you realise how short and fragile life can be.

MW
 
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