**The Mental Health Thread**

[Gabbatek]

Greetings All!

Welcome to the Mental Health Thread

I Think we need a dedicated thread to mental health where we can seek advice, support and just talk about whatever's on our minds regarding mental health.

A lot of people suffer in silence and this forum has a lovely community which should reach out to each other, so feel free to open up about what is on/in your mind.


I personally have a type of antisocial personality disorder, anxiety/mild panic attack, adhd, up/down depression but i know if i ever had a break down i could reach out to you guys.

So feel free to let it all out!

 

[Gabbatek]

both are really bad conditions. I have friends with both, but it seems the lass with bipolar really has a bad time. One week shes happy and everything is good in the world the next week shes been sectioned to a women's refuge

 

[Gabbatek]

I have developed anxiety issues over the last few years which I have learned is because I have a highly analytical mind which is conflicted when I try to solve hyperthetycal problems in the same way as you would a practical problem.

GP was amazing, totally understanding and referred me really quickly to speak to someone. Talking about it and getting help was the best thing I ever did.

Seeking help is always the best option

 

[Gabbatek]

Had anxiety and panic attack’s for around 12 years now. After seeing around 5 different doctors in those years I was finally prescribed Prozac, well I lost the plot on them and plotted to end my life as I just could not bare the horrible way I felt anymore I had to stop taking them, That was around 18 months ago. Now I am taking more care of myself exercising and eating better foods which has helped a lot. Still feel like I’m going to die some days etc etc but I’m still here go figure. Don’t think it will ever fully go away the over thinking of everything and ending up in a rut. It’s a horrible thing to go through it really is.

I'm glad you haven't done anything deadly or suicidal, it is never the way to go no matter how overwhelming it can be.

It's so horrible to go through but this is what this thread is for, to support each other

 

[Gabbatek]

Can I ask, how are people's experiences with their local councils and authorities when it comes to support and care?

My doctors are great but my area has really bad funding for mental health thanks to all the cuts over the last 7 years.

There's a 3 year waiting list just to see an nhs specialist in Norwich at the ADHD clinic. But I have spoken to my local MP about this to see what can be done, but that is another story.

So for some things i have to go private

 

[Gabbatek]

Im the same as you guys, but replace alcohol with cannabis. Now i'm a total antisocial wreck, but my doctors suspect Asperger but the nhs refuse to diagnose me. They said these 'symptoms' can come under any other the other conditions i have LOL.

 

[Gabbatek]

Who thinks money buys happiness?

 

[Gabbatek]

Personally, I don't think it does. It can help though.

Materialistic things for the short term can make you happy, once it wears off it is the same again. I think, accepting, and figuring yourself out will make you happier overall.

Indeed. It certain is a short term fix, just like any sort of intoxicant or bad lifestyle choice.

Focus on the problem and a long term fix, not a short term solution

 

[Gabbatek]

Did something stupid today, went out on a shopping trip with the ex even though we're in very different places. She sees me as a friend, I'm still holding out hope that we can be what we were. It had its predictable downsides but for the most part we got on... it just feels like I'm chasing that connection with somebody.

Now I'm back home, flatmate is out and I'm wallowing in self pity again. I knew it was a stupid idea, it was great to see her but it brings back memories of all the things I've lost, and when I'm not in a good place already I was just setting myself up for a world of hurt in the long term.

Been there, multiple times. It's a time when you felt happy and wanted and you want to get that back. But just think, there's millions of women in your country that can bring that happiness if not more.

But don't force it, when you're ready is key.

I have been reading this thread, and I feel for all of you. I hope you can console yourselves in how you feel and manage to get the backing from your other halves, and your doctors and families. In my case, I struggle to form relationships, and make new friends. I cherish the friends I have and get on with the workmates that I have, but other than that? Nope, and even in the friend groups I have I am usually an outsider. I don't feel particularly close to my family members, though I was with one of my Grandfathers, who died this year. The other one I looked up to as well and he died earlier in the year. I had one person I felt I could talk to about it, yet he was the Grandfather who died more recently and I never got to.

I personally feel the world will be better off without me and to anyone who asks me why I drink so much, I will answer that if you woke up and saw me in the morning then you would have a drinking problem too. One thing I am good at is acting as most of my friends have no idea of how I am at the moment.

I will most likely delete this post tomorrow, when I've sobered up. Ninja props to you if you've read it. (Or not, If I have forgotten I posted it.)

Condolences for your losses. Take time to grieve, use this thread to open up. I'm just like you with forming new relationships, these days it's so complicated!

I beat my anxiety by taking up rock climbing. Been over 10 years since I had a proper anxiety/panic attack. It was very hard at first, but pushing myself more and more took away the feelings.

Lots of my acquaintances do rock climbing. Any form of physical activity is great for mental health!

no i been to the utter depths.tablets pharmaceuticals are not the answer to your issues. many issues are very simple just many don't want to face them.what do you want to know ?

many mental health issues are the exact same. the thing is many people dance around the issues at hand. you are rubbishing anything im saying because its on the internet when what im telling you is the exact truth through learning.

for many many people you need to relax or find the thing that relaxes you.for me its games.that is why i game. there you go a inside profile.

Gaming is my escape too, but in a way it's not confronting the issues and just distracting me from them.

You can't say many mental health issues are the same though. Each condition can effect an individual differently. My constant extreme happiness and then crippling depression i can handle through my coping mechanisms (cannabis and gaming) but for others that could be overwhelming.

 

[Gabbatek]

really happy to see everyone helping each other, exactly what ocuk members are great for.

 

[Gabbatek]

Soooo, i think i have post traumatic stress disorder from a violent abusive relationship coupled with soft drug abuse and the sudden death of my mother.

I know if i tell my doctor my symptoms they'll just give me antidepressants again which make me feel sick and dismiss me.

If i go in and say, i think i have ptsd they'll just think im taking the ****.

It's like i already have serveer adhd, anxiety, panic attacks and never socialise or go out anymore so one more wont hurt.

I came to this conclusion as before the relationship, i'd be out with my friends all the time and a social butterfly. Now i'm non existent, avoid relationships, become extremely defensive when i suspect foul play or mistreatment. I trust no one. Getting close to anyone causes panic attacks.

plus ijogjoejgejrtjgrtyjryty

 

[Gabbatek]

I went round to see my only friend last, wish I hadn't, come home feeling like ****, he knows I have some issues going on that really bother me, being a 32 years old, living with my parents still, never been in a relationship, I have a large nose and all he done last night was have a dig at me all night, I can take a joke but the way he was saying these things felt like personal attacks, really ******* hurt me.

He's the only 'real' friend I have, the others are just FB acquaintances, but **** it when you have friends like that I guess its better being alone.

Not really, Think about where you live and this whole world. Billions of people and many different places to start a fresh. People like that put others down to make themselves feel good.

Have you tried internet dating??


Since i've started this thread i've kind of turned my life around, but damn it's been hard work! Anything is possible though just need to keep on going.

 

[Gabbatek]

I have been diagnosed with Bipolar disorder in 2016 (26 years old). Pretty much not been right since the age of 15 so I am told by family, my mothers always goes back to random behavioural changes she likened to living with 3 different people which seemed to switch every 2-3 months.

After my diagnoses I was pretty much rushed onto medication which made me really physically sick. My skin pretty much peeled and scabbed over & couple this with 14 - 15 hours of sleep a night. Holding down a job and living my life on meds wasn't possible so iv'e decided to go medication free and deal with the condition for as long as I can before it get's the best of me.

The worst part of the condition is always feeling "not right" and the inner voice telling me to basically just kill myself when I am at my lowest or just generally not feeling like doing anything what so ever. The upswings in mood are amazing and iv'e experienced some pretty amazing things while in an elevated mood state but the cost of these is depression for weeks on end.

Holding down a full time job is extremely difficult but I have no choice as I need the money. I have tried to do ICT as a career but I can't handle it as it just isn't compatible with my illness, making my education pretty much useless. I am stuck in low paid work as I never know what's going to happen and can't dedicate myself to something.

On the outside I know I have a good life but I can't appreciate it as I always feel like I am sad / upset / angry.

Have you considered claiming benefits, pip aka disability benefit to sustain you? It's what it was designed for, to help those with disabilities that are struggling.

You can also claim it while working, so you could reduce your hours if your employer is understanding until you feel well enough to do full time.

 

[Gabbatek]

To be honest I know I would be denied it, you have people who are physically disabled in bad ways deemed fit work work. A 28 year old who trains at gym regularly and physically healthy they would think I am just making it up.

I would need to break down and end up sectioned before I could even entertain the idea of claiming any form of support.

Yeah, you're totally right. The current system is a disgrace.

When i apply, i know i'll have to appeal it.

 

[Gabbatek]

Hang in there everyone

 

[Gabbatek]

To all, things can and will get better.

I've just been put back on my adhd medication that i stopped 15 years ago due to being unable to maintain work or relationships. They tried to put me on antidepressants but my up and down mood is situational depression, meaning i'm only low due to my circumstances and environment (I deeply want to move out of the city to the countryside). They also suspect ptsd and aspergers but yeah, not keen on the 3 year nhs waiting lists.

 

[Gabbatek]

Hey guys hope you're all well and good.

It's been ages since i've been on and i'm proud you lot kept this going and supporting each other!

While i've been away, i got diagnosed with emotionally unstable personality disorder and start therapy soon, here's hoping i can actually form a normal relationship sometime in my life.

My Anxiety is playing havoc again at the moment have the jitters and was up early this morning. I have just dropped 1/2mg of prednisolone and this might be some of the cause although I think I over worry about dropping the dose which causes the anxiety to be worse. I need to keep reducing the Pred but hate the way it makes me feel whether it’s actually the Pred or just my Anxiety flaring and grabbing onto something to focus on. Have not had the early wakings for a while and I’m now panicking I’m not going to sleep which fuels the fire. I hate the way Anxiety likes to just appear after you have been doing ok for a while. It’s definitely one step forward two back at times and I know I should expect setbacks but tbh they suck.....

That's the thing man, you're over thinking it all. BUT, trust your feelings and how you feel. You know yourself best and prednisolone can cause anxiety as a side effect so you are probably right but keep at it and keep strong, you're doing great!