Caporegime
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The most irresponsible drink driver
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What on god's green earth are you talking about?
Dating someone with kids does not mean that you intend on being coming the replacement father figure. Even if you do end up getting with the mother on a long term basis that should not give the absent father to 'pass over the reins' for one second. If you're going to have kids it is your responsibility to pay for them, regardless of who your Ex now decides to knock boots with.
Even in the best scenarios a a Stepfather/mum's boyfriend should not be a replacement for the biological father. Love them as your own, long out for them, etc but don't try to 'replace'. I think the vast majority of men who go into relationships with single mothers understand and respect this.
Soldato
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But what he pays to the CSA does not go to your G/f. Your G/f will be no worse or better off...he is a prime retard
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What on god's green earth are you talking about?
Dating someone with kids does not mean that you intend on being coming the replacement father figure. Even if you do end up getting with the mother on a long term basis that should not give the absent father to 'pass over the reins' for one second. If you're going to have kids it is your responsibility to pay for them, regardless of who your Ex now decides to knock boots with.
Even in the best scenarios a a Stepfather/mum's boyfriend should not be a replacement for the biological father. Love them as your own, long out for them, etc but don't try to 'replace'. I think the vast majority of men who go into relationships with single mothers understand and respect this.
I think you've misunderstood me, my opinion is that if someone else moves in with your ex then some of the burden should be taken from you not all of it. The system seems to be slanted terribly towards the woman (and any future live in partner of hers).
Anyway, I'm not going to listen to the life experience of a teenager thanks.
Why on earth did you have kids??
A few people wanted my babies, what's the issue?
Is someone living with your baby mama and enjoying her and raising your kids or something, because that's a really strange opinion to have.
Wicksta said:Anyway, I'm not going to listen to the life experience of a teenager thanks.
Even if that was a joke, it really does not read well or put you in a good light, free tip.
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Why you saying that? As even if the PWC is in receipt of a benefit she still gets the money. As the law changed a few years ago...
SkodaMart
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SkodaMart
Thought of changing your name to Cuckoo?
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Nope, i can just understand why fathers get annoyed by the situations they are put in though.
A bit ironic coming from banned 10 times from ocuk and father of the year 2011 don't you think?
The CSA cannot take money that the father does not have.
Why should it matter who has moved in with the Ex? In terms of child support it is exactly that CHILD SUPPORT.
And what if the new boyfriend does stump up some money to spend on the kids why would you complain? Your children receiving an even better quality of life. I'm not a father but the day I am one I can't think of anything that would make me happier.
Instead parents play stupid games in hopes to spite one another and seemingly completely forget that at the end of the day the children suffer just as much.
Anyway, I'm not going to listen to the life experience of a teenager thanks.
Yeah, ignore the life experience of a teenager who has had to grow up and deal with this type of bull for as long as he can remember. If you don't see the relevance of what I post or can't understand how I can offer you a angle different to that of your typical middle class upbringing then it is your loss
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Soldato
A few people wanted my babies, what's the issue?
So your happy to spread your seed and **** off to let someone else clean up the mess?
Excuse me But as I stated I don't live with her, I would if I did expect to take full financial responsibility for her family. I don't and at present couldn't afford too. Maybe in your reckoning she should ditch me and find someone who would be able to elevate him from any financial responsibility for his children.
I am divorced and pay anything from £200 -360 a month for my child even though my ex has a partner who lives with her.
It turns out tonight that he has not been drink driving according to the Police. In fact they do not have a record of an accident. Yet he has called his work claiming this and resigned due to drink driving. Not sure what to believe. at the moment. The Police can only tell you so much and he is saying something different.
He has also got his dad to call the CSA saying he cant pay as he has a £500 pound impound charge this week and he has to pick up his car Thursday. His car is a 2009 Golf insured fully comp which he claimed rolled over. Surely the insurance company would pick it up?
Caporegime
She must be a pretty special lady for her to be worth all this ball ache. It's like something out of Eastenders :shock:
I was a sperm donor when the NHS ran out of sperm due to the legal changes that resulted in the loss of complete anonymity to the donaters. So yea, I wouldn't put it the way you did, but I made some couples very happy (I hope) if the thank you letters plastered all over the wall written to "Anonymous"
Should mention the police cant comment on the drink driving so at the moment I believe it to be true. The police can't answer certain questions.
Soldato
Ahh, that's awesome then. From your post it made you sound like you **** around a lot!
[FnG]magnolia;18314214 said:
Not her fault she met a numpty in life. I would be a complete low life to walk out just because somebody had an idiot of an ex in the past. Lets face it we do not all find the perfect partner in life first time.
Are you not bothered that the children might track you down later on?
Well this is slightly different. We had my girlfriends father in law on the phone who is an ex RAF commander or something. He has 12 children with 5 different mothers and finds in totally obscene that his son is expected to pay for them.
He has a huge house and war pensions coming out of his butt. Yet he expects the state to pick up for them as in his words"that is what it is there for". She should not have chased his son for maintenance as that what stressed him out and caused him to drink and drive!!
We talk of benefit Britain but it is not only young kids brought up on council estates. There are people who have a good life that expect the tax payer to pick up the tab for when they don't keep it in there trousers.