The Need to Belong?

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I've noticed it in 'the real', but recently everywhere on the internet I seem to be swarmed with what I have termed 'the need to belong', more so than ever before.

The concept is simple: find something that is popular, rebel against it, but do so in a way that asserts your superiority. Look at any music video and youtube and you will find some dumb comment like 'wow this is amazing so much better than those idiot who like justin bieber people that like him are really stupid'. The same concept seems to extend to almost anything with preference.

It amuses me the lengths that people will go to be snobby about the most pointless of things, although admittedly this is usually on youtube so your IQ is halved as you type. Take for example, the Beatle's movie 'Yellow Submarine'. There are leagues of people that assert that it is simply the best cartoon ever made, period, and that anyone who thinks otherwise simply 'doesn't get it'. Likewise I've amused myself with the musical snobbery of many Radiohead fans on many an occation in the real.

Such trends can get even further ridiculous. I can recall talking to one of the snobbiest people of music I have ever met, who was one of the elite crew that thought Rhianna's Umbrella was the most important pop song for decades. He claimed it was untold genius.

Now, everyone is free to their own opinions, but this all reeks of pseudo-intellectualism to me. It appears people just want to identify with something and claim it belongs to them. It's the same principle that turns people off bands as they become more popular (subconciously I've been guilty of this).

The OCUK massive is guilty of this as well. Some of the comments regarding the recent 'do you like clubbing?' thread had me raising my eyebrows - it wasn't enough to not like it, people felt that they had to identify and put down those that did.

Succesful and attractive women become 'trashy ugly bints'.

Credible hollywood flicks become 'unartistic mindless nonsense'. We must all obey by the golden rule - eastern cinema is always better than western cinema.

Am I right in my observations? Do people truly enjoy things for the reasons they state, or is their an air of pseudo-intellectualism that drives people to make them think they are part of a social elite?

Discuss.
 
Check Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs.

Everyone does feel the need to belong, and we don't like to be adrift in the masses - belonging to no one and being part of nothing in particular.

So yeah we probably do attach ourselves to opinions/groups/philosophies that we admire and would like to belong to....
 
The Beiber thing on youtube has almost become a phenomenon, literally every video has some comment about him and how he sucks compared to said video/music.

To be honest i assume it's all down to insecurity and a need to be noticed, "look, im slagging off this popular tune/film to show i know something you dont know therefore im better than you".

I think people with honest opinions on something dont need to express it as they are content with how they feel, anyone who says stuff like "omg lawlz you all like that?! you suck" has some serious issues with their mother.
 
Am I right in my observations? Do people truly enjoy things for the reasons they state, or is their an air of pseudo-intellectualism that drives people to make them think they are part of a social elite?

Discuss.

How do you discuss this and make cogent observations without appearing to be pseudo-intellectualising it? It may be possible but I'm not sure I'm capable of doing it.

Some people hate things because they're popular, they always have and I'd venture to say they always will. Some of it is doubtless intellectual snobbery but as you've highlighted with the Rihanna story the obverse can also be true, claiming to see genius where most do not. There's billions of people in the World, wanting to feel that you belong is one thing but at the same time lots of people want to feel they are special - that they are a beautiful and unique ********* (apologies for the paraphrase of Fight Club). Rebelling against what is popular can make people feel superior, maybe it's a natural reaction to the over-saturation of certain songs/films/trends/whatever.

I think essentially my point would have to be that attempting to draw any wholesale conclusions about why people act the way they do is an exercise in futility - that way lies madness and you'll still probably never get a reliable conclusion from it.
 
Problem = there are a lot of sheep in this world.

Solution = don't be a sheep.

Internet forums and things people post are pretty much all fake if you ask me, when we're talking about opinion. People can hide behind their keyboards and type any old drivel, and they do, GD is testament to that.

The majority of people want to go with the flow, they let other people make their minds up for them, they do what everyone else is doing, they buy the same car etc etc....all sheep imo, not an original thought ever enters their heads and I see these people everywhere I look.
 
It's in vogue to diss and hate people like Bieber and that girl from X Factor for example. Anyone that doesn't conform to those beliefs are outsiders and are generally looked down upon. That's the Internet for you - giving stupid people a medium to express their opinion.
 
To be fair Justin Beiber does suck :p
This however is amazing.

It is rather impressive what a basic track, 3 lines of spoken word, and autotune can accomplish.
If he released that, it would chart, such is the powere of the marketing beast.

It is why I admire the Gaga, she can sing, she can play piano, but to be sucessful she created the cult of gaga and the machine that makes it turn. Highly impressive business.
 
It is rather impressive what a basic track, 3 lines of spoken word, and autotune can accomplish.
If he released that, it would chart, such is the powere of the marketing beast.

It is why I admire the Gaga, she can sing, she can play piano, but to be sucessful she created the cult of gaga and the machine that makes it turn. Highly impressive business.
Or has she done anything at all? She's just a gimmick as far as I'm concerned.
 
The pseudo-intellectuals don’t have the intelligence to be intellectual and there is nothing new in that. Sheep will be sheep, it keeps them happy. Why worry about it just be yourself.
 
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